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ABB, to watch something from a real theater! And with a friend (as opposed to going solo)! I’ve only attended 1 theatre in which I had to dress up (in a dress, stockings and high heels) was in London. Compared to island style, London was sophisticated and naughty. .. I’m so glad you’re going!
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Ms Madge, I love the African Queen too, also On Golden Pond and live theatre as well. I saw “Rent” and “Miss Saigon” both in Chicago. Mom and I used to go to New York once a year for 3 or 4 shows. And always were subscribers to the Broadway series in Cincinnati until she could no longer hear or see. PJ and I usually go to Boston for live theatre, but we have very different taste in what we enjoy.
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Becky
those are great experiences aren't they?

I took the Viking to the music center, the Pantages and the Hollywood bowl til she was about 90
i think Book of Mormon may have been her last show 😆

Back in '84 we were in London after visiting her Norway
and saw Cats along with some real theatre -
while walking back to the hotel, a well dressed gentleman struck up a conversation- seems he was staying at our hotel too
he asked mom to join him for a drink in the bar but she declined the invitation
even now at 95, she has some good looking legs
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Well, recalling Jeanne Robertson on another thread this morning- I checked out her website- I missed an opportunity to see her a few years ago when she was in the area
seems she's headed to SoCal end of November so I may get another chance albeit it would be an overnight trip
maybe get a nice room and go to the spa before coming home ?
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Her YouTube videos are hilarious, seeing her in person would be a great stress reliever!
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Ms. Madge, Good Times. Mom was a look. Tall redhead with perfect skin.
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And, I look like my dad, ha ha
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madge  Burt Reynolds posed nude for Cosmopolitan magazine in 1972 - Smokey was 1977. Watch those bugs now.

ali - have a wonderful time. A visit from a friend and live theatre are both awesome.

A whine about the smoke from BC. I had to take a decongestant this morning as my chest hurt. Waaaah Time for the air to clear.
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Watched a Dionne Warwick special on PBS this evening. Very good. My dad took me to see her twice when I was in high school. Fun.
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Dionne performed here some years ago. Her voice is great. Unfortunately she lip-synched the last piece. It was obvious,.
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Golden, I dislike it when performers do that.
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Hubs and I went to see Lord of the Dance at the Gaiety theater when we were in Dublin. Michael Flatley wasn't starring in it that night though. A young dancer took over for him and was really good.
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I've never heard of Jeanne Robertson. I just checked out one of her YouTubes. I was laughing so hard, tears formed in my eyes. I will bookmark her name. Thank you!
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I’ve been to Lord of the Dance and Riverdance a couple of times each. Michael Flatley was good, but so was the replacement guy. I’ve been to see Celtic Woman a couple of times. The original singers far better than the replacement singers who were with her the last time I went. My all time favorite live PBS concerts were Queen Esther and the Zydecco Explosion. They used to come every summer in the late 80’s, early 90’s to the Maine Center for the Arts. That was a lively show. The special wasn’t very good on television, but fun in person. Live concerts have been my thing since my dad took me to my first live concert in the 7th grade at the Charleston Civic Center - Peter, Paul and Mary.
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A bit chilly here this morning, 48 degrees. Have to get up, shower, get ready for work. Can't I just stay in my warm bed a bit longer?
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It’s been a sad, sad week for me and the family. Visitation and wake were last evening. Way too many people, but I expected that. The funeral and burial are this afternoon at 2:00 followed by a family dinner with about 15 out of town guests. I’m having it catered by a local restaurant. I’m going through the motions, but that’s about it. Sunday, I’m going to my son’s in CA for a week or so. Then it will be back home to take care of whatever needs to be done. Everything is organized so that probate will be quick and easy.

There have been so many people who have stopped by the house or c3alled. I knew that PJ had many friends, just didn’t realize how many. I do now though.
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Mom hasn't eaten anything for breakfast again today, I asked if she wanted a warm coffee or tea and she nodded yes but by the time I got her a coffee she was dozing off so she only managed a few sips. We're down to one meal a day, I've watched so many others dragged into the dining room when they clearly weren't interested so I can't help but wonder - should I be asking that she is allowed to skip that too?
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I shouldn't, CW, or at least not without investigating in depth.

I shouldn't think that the effort involved (there is some, even if she's being wheeled there and back) troubles her and it does provide at least a minimum of stimulation every day. If she stayed in her room completely undisturbed that would mean - well. You know, I don't want to rub it in.

But use your eyes and speak up. If in your much better opinion it actually *is* troubling her and making her uncomfortable to no purpose at all, you're her best advocate.
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Care conference is next week CM, I've been making a list of things to talk about but they all seem meaningless when the Big Question has entered the picture - when is it time to allow her to stop?

(edit) ethics aside I'm not even sure it is possible to request that they stop taking her to the dining room and offering her food, there is no formal hospice here and although nursing homes are in the dying business aside from getting a tour of the palliative room and an assurance that a doc is available to prescribe symptom relieving meds if needed it hasn't been discussed. And I don't feel like having that conversation with an indifferent RN while standing in the hallway by the nurse's station.
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becky -take care of you. I am glad you are going to your son's and that you have Jay for support at home.

cw - a huge question indeed. It sounds like your mum is winding down, My thought is that, at this point, comfort is paramount. My mother is on the same path, but travelling it very slowly. This is a tough time for you.
ETA -it would be good to find out, in a setting safe for you, what their routine is when a person gets to the stage your mother is at.
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Becky

thinking of you and hoping you can find some moments of rest in the days ahead
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Golden, Jay isn’t here. He is in Ohio trying to sort out typical dysfunctional mess. At least he got it out of my house. I just dread this afternoon.
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Cwillie

such difficult journeys to navigate

mom still likes to eat when she's awake which may not always coincide with the mealtimes- sometimes she's finishing breakfast a bit before lunch but if I don't have private aides with her then she wouldn't be getting much intake at all which is infuriating

i took mom to the neuro yesterday and we're going to lower one of her meds to see if it makes any difference in her daytime sleepiness- she slept through much of the appointment --
but, when I look at pictures of her just from February and March, the decline is quite noticeable, there is no sparkle or joy left in her eyes
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I got there too late to see whether she ate her lunch 😟 I'm stuck in a loop where my anxiety makes every little thing seem ominous, which of course just fuels the anxiety. Maybe I'm worrying prematurely (it wouldn't be the first time).
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CW, is there a local hospice group or organization around you anywhere that you could call for input on your mom's situation, see if they can get involved, even if it's only to consult at this point?

I feel for you. This is tough stuff. Having a hospice expert to weigh in on your mom's current status would be helpful.
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Becky I am glad you are going to get away a bit and get your feet back under you, and that Jay is able to pick up some slack for you. Take care of yourself, you are fragile now, and your health needs attention also. This is just so awful.
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Becky, just sending you hugs. Please try to take of yourself as best you can. Let your loved ones fuss over you a bit.
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Just heard that OSH - orchard supply hardware - will be closing its stores
I love this old fashioned chain and garden center - it has things you just can't find at the big box stores

Starbucks, See's and OSh are in the same corner center and have been my refuge on more than one afternoon 😥
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I got blindsided again yesterday by a social event I knew nothing about. DH's friends get together for things like golf or poker, which is really good for him. But I don't always get the info from him. So we end up with someone calling to see where he is. He nearly missed his birthday lunch with the guys because he forgot and I never knew about it - by the time they called him, he was 30 minutes late and had already eaten.

I've asked his friend numerous times to send me a single sentence text a day or two ahead- where, when, what time so I can add it to the calendar. This friend actually told me it was too much effort. I think he resents having to include me, as he thinks he should be able to tell DH and that's enough. You know - this is the way we've always done it. Except with PD, you have to adjust and the adjustment is that I need to be in the loop so I can help insure that DH is there. It's not as simple as grabbing keys and wallet. There's meds to take and timing of the Sinemet and food, getting adequate rest during the day so he can handle a late poker night, and which shoes make the sore feet hurt less that day. And driving at night is not comfortable so I need to drive him.

I have no problem helping him keep up a social life. But I'm beyond frustrated with his friend's refusal to adjust his way of doing things just because he doesn't think he should have to. I'm sure he thinks I'm a controlling witch.
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If they are playing cards there's obviously other guys there, maybe appealing to one of them work better🤔.
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