I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
As it turns out, this was fortunate as it looks like the Viking is the victim of identity theft
I'm hopping mad and now have to figure out if this is widespread and file a police report and a notarized statement with the service provider to get her taken off the fraudulent account
Oh madge - id theft. That IS the last straw! More work for you which you hardly need. I winder if they do suctioning other than when they are ill. Breathing treatments would help. How is the Viking on the reduced dose? Is she more alert?
I feel so for you all that are still having to contend with all this.
It's been over three years now since Mom died and I still haven't figured out what I'm doing or going to do with the rest of my life. Sendme and I are thinking of possibly starting a comedy act and taking it on the road. If anyone wants to join us please submit your comedy ideas. :)
kentucky fried chicken when he was 70?
It was likely his grandmother's recipe, and he waited until she passed before passing it on to the public.
It is not over yet!
Injections for menopausal women have improved their
energy and outlook for years in the past. Until insurance
companies did not want to pay for this treatment.
A research scientist found that it is good to treat schizophrenia
symptoms, and drug dependency. Don't quote me on that because
I do not have the reference.
Taking it on the road, yes, we are Gershun.
Even today's call could be a scam. Be sure it was someone legitimate giving you info, and not asking you for info on Mom! Better not to talk to anyone calling you.
Ask them to mail the info. When they ask where, the address? Tell them to mail it to the address on file.
Banks, the credit reporting agencies all say they do not call a customer, so beware.
If it was someone claiming to be the sheriff, for sure it was a scam collection call.
Send for her credit reports right away from the 3 major credit reporting agencies.
I should have a better sense if the lower dose of risperdal is having any impact on improving mom's sleepiness during the day when I spend time with her on the weekend-so far, it doesn't seem to be from what I'm hearing from the caregivers....
the call today was legit as I called the service provider back and they confirmed her SSN was being used to open an account in a nearby city -
the initial call was to my cell phone as this is our cable company and they have that number on file - I hope this is limited to them as I'm uber careful about everything however I've had three different cable guys out since July with problems with the service - coincidence??
if not, then only hoca has access to her SSN in their files -
frustrating and a royal pain the rear -
Ask yourself if mom would want to continue this way.
After my mom's fall in August 2017, she "refused" to get out of bed. Don't know if she'd had another stroke or what; she had been taken to hospital , xrayed and CAT scanned and nothing other than a broken wrist was dxed.
But she wasn't getting up. she had gotten up after so many other breaks, injuries, etc. I recall talking to the NH doc ( of course, I was in the park with my grandson who had just announced that he needed to defecate, after I'd just asked him in the museum if he needed to go....).
I remember her saying, Barbara, if she doesn't get up she's going to get pneumonia, and we know where that is going. And I said to the doc, If she doesn't get up, she's making a choice, isn't she?
And the doctor agreed.
Mom was sort of out of it, eating a bit, but not getting up for a few days. But then she started in with a face that said "I'm either is psychic or physical pain, OMG". That's when I bullied my brother into Hospice, got her on morphine and got her on the cloud to Heaven.
CW, this part of the journey is unbearably hard. I still lie awake at night, wondering it I did the right thing.
But if your mom is not eating (I couldn't even get my mom to eat lemon ice, her favorite, at the end) then it's time to let go.
You are SUCH a good daughter!!!!!!!!!
(And yeah, it's another long weekend which means no management and short staffed)
My mom was on Palliative care (POA brother would not sign for hospice " until she is bedbound, incontinent and doesn't know who she is".)
The NH swore up and down to me when that choice ( palliative and not hospice) that morphine would flow like water when it was needed.
It didnt.
When mom was clearly in some sort of end stage pain/angst/terror, they doubled her tramadol, which did nothing. I went to the nursing station in tears and the very kind aprn said to me " maybe it's time to call hospice". And it was.
I think most health care providers are reluctant to tell you that it's time. You need to ask.
Bless you, sweetheart!
((((cw)))) such a hard time. Trust your gut sense. As long as she is eating some, she has to be fed. Once she refuses food, like Barb's mum, it is time. I know that will be a signal for mother when her time comes. Asking them would be a good thing. Re the family party - do what you want to do - let go of any sense of obligation.
Barb - Be at rest. You did the right thing. Your mum wasn't eating - she had wound down, it was time The pain, whatever it was, had to be relieved. I hope you stay around AC, Your input is very valuable.
Mother is winding down too, just extremely slowly. It is not easy for any of us to watch the decline and deal with what we have to deal with.
I've been thinking and concluded that nursing homes here really suck at end of life care, they keep tip toeing around the issue like they aren't in the dying business. Perhaps all that talk about the palliative performance scale was supposed to mean more than they came right out and said? They say the door is always open but in reality everything is funnelled through the charge nurse on duty and there is never any scheduled contact, at least I got mom's home care nurse's undivided attention monthly. And there is no social worker to guide you (although there may be in larger centres) or bereavement counselling unless you find it for yourself.
It might be good to go to the party just to get your mind off of things for a little while, but I totally get it too if you just don't feel like going. Just do what you need to to take care of you either way.
My Mom died in hospital. The next morning I received a phone call from the nursing home advising me I had to have her room cleared out that day or they would put all her stuff in storage. I never even received a condolence card from them or anything.
Canadian here too but I doubt if this is solely a Canadian problem. It's just the system and it sucks.
I knew something wasn't right with my Mom the week before. Her voice was dead, no emotion. I know some of you haven't spoke to your loved ones for a while but my Mom was still communicative. But that last week, like I said, no emotion in her voice. I think she willed herself to die.
I wish you the best always Willie.
The Viking and I aren't where you are yet and it took me two years to even change her from full code to DNR so I have no idea what I'll do when faced with tougher decisions
give yourself some stillness and listen for your inner voice to guide you- no one knows your mom better than you even if a medical professional offers up an opinion, I will not do something if it doesn't sit right with me
I am rarely in the mood for a party these days but it does sometimes help to be out of yourself for awhile however given my family's complete lack of contact with mom, I'm generally better off not seeing them
hugs to you - sleep tight tonight
I'm up early and off to great nephew's first bday party today. Better hit the shower and get on the road.
so much for a holiday weekend
How was the birthday party for great-nephew? You drove, on the freeway? Or on surface streets? A milestone! Want to hear details please.
Ms.Madge,
Was the police station open for business today?
she suggested I take the paperwork with me and gather all the "evidence" and bring it back when they're open for business
I'm still trying to confirm that I've got fraud alerts in place now since I was disconnected via the automated phone system and my online attempts failed
I think I'm stuck waiting 15 days to see if credit reports come in the mail
I was really hoping it was an isolated incident caught in time, but since I couldn't download her credit report online since it involved multiple choice questions involving identifying debt, which ranged from car loans, mortgage and credit cards - none of which are hers, I'm feeling very anxious
I'm happy with my independent and single person life EXCEPT when I'm sick and have no one to run out and get my cold medicine and chicken soup. lol :-(
hope you have a hot pack or hot water bottle for your back, unless I've is more smoothing
if you can lift a saucepan to boil some water then do a salt water steam for your sinuses- I've only had a sinus infection once and it was awful - felt like an elephant sitting on my face
wish I could run to the store for you