I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
come to think of it, very few buildings have them
when I used to take mom out in her transport wheelchair, she could still paddle with her feet so it wasn't so difficult to manage but now
she's in a big chair, which is tough to even enter the exam room at the doctor's and dentist's office
if you have to hold open a door then it's best to turn the wheelchair backwards so you can do both - no way to push forward a chair and hold a gate or door open at the same time
(I'm pretty sure this is standard across the province and a ministry requirement)
I've taken 9 days off work !!! in the past couple weeks to try to get things accomplished at new place. Granted, I'm considered a 7 day a week employee so I did work 5 days last week... Anyway...
I tried to hire day labor online to help me hang shelves. No dice. This guy I hired was so dumb (god love him) that he couldn't figure out how to put legs on a table... the legs slip into brackets on the 4 corners and a screw goes through, that's it. That tripped him up. So I said to myself that hiring random help is no good, so I asked a friend who's helped me before in the past. He said he would do the work and we planned out a schedule. Sunday he texts me that he can't make it on Monday. Fine, we said we'll work Tuesday. Tuesday he comes from like 12-5 but can't stay any later. The deal was for 8 hours. Whatever. Then TODAY... just now... I said we would start at 11... and I would get him a Lyft/Uber if necessary. He wanted to ride his bike over. He texted me at 11:49 that he had been waiting outside and couldn't reach me so he was leaving. In all fairness, my phone was on Do Not Disturb and I didn't hear his texts come through. But I had been waiting on him, so I see he was texting and I call him up right then, at 11:49 and say, Sorry, please come back. I was certain I heard him say ok... because I said I was leaving the door unlocked for him. Thirty minutes go by and I text him. Forty five minutes and he texts me that, Oh, he had waited and now he was home so he wasn't coming back.
I'm paying him nearly 20 cash per hour, it's easy work, he's unemployed right now. What is wrong with some people that don't want to work this badly?? I'm just miffed because now TWO days this week that I planned to have help, I have not had help.
I dread putting a want ad online. It's forever to wade through the replies and even then, like last time, no guarantee that I get someone competent. It's not work that requires a professional and I thought I would help someone in the community by hiring for work but this is nuts.
I want to get this stuff done and get back to my own employment. Alas.
I've calmed down and realized that I'm in a tight spot, though, and as a wise woman once said, "It is what it is." So I told him he could work 3-4 hour blocks, if that's what he wants to do, and I'll pay per hour, and would he want to come tomorrow for a bit... and he says he'll come tomorrow. What can I do? I need some help because it's stuff that requires extra hands.
It will happen, just a lot more slowly than I would like. Grr.
I can't imagine if it were my parent, though, and someone is doing a half-baked job of caregiving. I've been in that position for a short time with my grandmother and found it extremely frustrating.
Even if you find a good work ethic -- like the fella I found via online ad for help with general labor, who while not at all skilled said he'd be happy to come back and work for me again for less pay -- you also need them to have a good head on their shoulders, have good common sense.
cwillie, I once had an employee (millennial) call in because she didn't have clean clothes to wear to work.
the Viking is bit and scratching and I'm scratching
You might try some hydrocortisone cream. It works pretty good to help with the itching and dry up the bites.
But AC is much more interesting!
Got any reasonably quiet jobs you've been putting off? Oven need cleaning? Ironing pile? Photos to sort? Missing button (missing for eighteen months, but what's that between you and your favourite blouse...)?
At least that way you get a sense of accomplishment in exchange for half a night's sleep.
Climate Change: Tough Choices
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Can we have prosperity and democracy if we want to keep climate change at bay?
I'm not sure how soothing that would be, mind.
I won't ask what the book is - spare the author's blushes! Hope it does the trick, sleep tight.
Mom spent the day in bed yesterday, she had a fever and the doc ordered an antibiotic. As far as I saw she ate nothing and drank very little all day, all of which sets off my inner alarm bells. No phone calls from the NH last night so I'll be going over soon to see how things are today.
Sounds like you really need a break. Your LO may whine and lash out but she will get over it! Seek help, take a break. Where will she be if you destroy your own health and can't care for her? Fortunately, my husband was the strong one - recognizing that we had to do something. He initiated the search for a place for his dad and deliberately selected a place close to his work. I am blessed! Praying that you will be able to find ways to get some help with your load.
I've often thought that there was a connection to the tamiflu and her dying. So, just keep a close eye on that. I know that you do anyway but...................anyway.
I was there for both lunch and supper today to try to gauge how she is, the report from the charge nurse was that her temperature was back to normal and she was improving but.... Even though she allowed me to spoon some food and drinks into her she is clearly struggling, I couldn't even get her to nod her heard yes and no.