I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Sorry your mom is having a rough time. Hope all straightens out soon.
My whine for today is that changing jobs was great for my back (which is shot from 40 years of nursing) but I have increased my commute by at least an hour a day. I've tried all the routes and there is no "best" way. Sigh. :(
Good news is that I'm applying for Social Security this month and should receive my first check around the 3rd week of March 2019. Maybe then we'll get the heck outa' Dodge (Tijuana/San Diego). We've got our eye on a sleepy little town (17,000 residents) in central Mexico but very near to a metropolitan area with all the amenities.
If mom keeps doing as well as she has been, she'll be in a memory care in the next larger town.
Just like a Timex watch.....she takes a lickin' and keeps on ticking'. Or a true Energizer Bunny.
it’s so hard when they’re sick and you can’t make them feel better - did she ever get the breathing treatment ?
the Viking has had tamiflu twice but Everyone has been sick at hoca lately with some sent to hospital with pneumonia
hope you can sleep tonight
the Viking is very sensitive to drafts and the damn thing blows right on her so I’ve told them not to have it on when she’s in bed
so even when the morning shift arrived and noticed how cold it was they didn’t turn it off - 😲
caregiver turned it off when she arrived about 9 am
then caregiver calls after lunch saying they sprayed the room and they can’t go in
by then I’m mad - who uses pesticides in a bedroom?
spoke to nurse who didn’t know what they used and they were emptying the room to wash everything
tonight mom has no clothes and they put her comforter back on her bed still damp- grrr
The temperatures here have been bouncing between hot and cold and the nursing home is having some trouble figuring out the switch between heating and a/c, some days they have both running at the same time and windows open to boot.
Sue, at least you won't be fighting snowstorms on your commute! It looks like your retirement plans are working out for you, are you Xing off the days?
- as far as I know she has had one dose of the ventolin, that happened when she was having one of her choking coughing can't catch her breath looks absolutely miserable days and I went to the nurse to see what we could do to help her. The nebulizer sat at her bedside after that but I got wise and moved it to a table in the far corner of the room so I could tell if it had been used and it has sat there ever since. When I've asked if she needed another treatment I'm always told her lungs sound clear but they can give it to her if I want them to. Uh, you are the medical professionals not me, either she needs it and it is helpful or it isn't, in which case why was it ever prescribed?
Doc said my lungs were clear when years ago it turned out I had pneumonia!
Can you put the breathing treatment back at bedside?
I know things are not working out, but there is supposed to be a chart/medical record that staff must chart treatments and meds.
Hope you are okay.👩
i hate the choking coughing can't breathe episodes
can you make a thermos of hot water lemon and honey and a couple of spoons that whiskey and take to mom ?
i heat up her rice pack and lay across her chest too when she's a bit congested
they're controlled by a remote so naturally most of those have disappeared but since mom is the original occupant we've protected the remote pretty well so all anyone would have had to do is press off
i keep a small fan in the room for extra circulation
if needed since they nailed the windows shut
Edit: Geez, as I commented, I realize I must be reading back a page or two and I'm commenting on things from few days ago.
I might be awake but the brain isn't fully up and running just yet.
Madge, I didn't get one single mosquito bite all this summer. It was relatively dry with only an occasional rain day, though. Maybe the lack of water puddles kept mosquito count down.
Then she went out of the room to do a couple of errands and came back and we were watching more TV while I'm working.... and then, all of a sudden,
there she goes again trying to "pick a fight".
What is it now, Mom?! Well I've been trying to talk to you all day (it's 6pm by the way), so I said, well I've been here, what do you want to talk about? Well do you have work tomorrow? (UH, It's Monday, of course I have work!). Well could you drop me off at the grocery store tomorrow...... and there are papers in my wallet and purse I wanted to go over with you, etc., etc.
Mom, it's the end of the day, could you not have said something this morning? Well I was waiting till you finished .... and then things further deteriorated into, well I want to go back to my home. (it's the home 2 1/2 hrs away, that is sitting empty because she won't sell it, doesn't want to rent it, and I have told her repeatedly that she has no friends, no neighbors, no support system there and I have a full-time job that I cannot be driving over there when she would need something.
So, she goes off in a huff to her room, meanwhile, I'm stewing while still working trying my best to let it go, but chest tighter and tighter from anxiety. Lo and behold she comes out an hour or so later, all smiling and saying well, I voted (absentee), and lay the envelope on the table, and acting like nothing was wrong.
I can't take 10 more years of this... it's the same stirring up trouble like she did with dad, and I am so over it.
i hope you're sound asleep and glad to hear mom had an active day
when they have a good day, always makes me wonder how badly they feel the rest if the time
I know it must still feel like "what is WRONG with you?!" but what can you do but be pleased for her?
myownlife - look after yourself -I agree about the next ten years.
pamz -have a good trip Hope you can relax.