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Send, absentee ballots are the way to go for caregivers. I applied for one for DH this year so he didn't have to stand in line. One county here has so many more absentees than usual that they were still counting on Wednesday. We went to bed with one person giving the victory speech and the next day, the opponent had won. It was a nasty election season but the silver lining is that it got more people out to vote. Hoping the increase in women in Congress will shake up the good ole boy network.
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Lol Linda,
Actually went the route of absentee ballot years ago, disabled, unable to walk or stand. Kept losing the paperwork, and was too late to mail it. Then, would take the mail-in ballot to the polls as I was getting better.
Walked in on my own steam, grabbed a chair to sit while voting. Dh and I went in separately. It was a triumph for me to continue to exercise my voting privileges.

I am so very grateful to be getting better! Thanks also to my chiropractor.
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fraz -it is about unlearning dysfunction and learning to respect ourselves and not put others first all the time, and dealing with what is unacceptable. I am still a work in progress too. I know the theory, but the practice.... We are so well trained from childhood. it is ingrained. Thankfully i am at an age when I don't care as much what others think of me. I have paid my dies. But now that you mention not liking others being angry at you - I can identify.

cmag - absolutely!

Jcollup - ((((((hugs)))))) it is hard.

gershun - growing up without a father has to have made a difference

ali - (((((hugs))))) my dd figured she was peri-menopausal in her mid 40s . Not the nicest news for sure. But you are right, it is OK, and it is OK to be sad. Hope this info helps you sort out your energy issues.
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CM....I have never heard the expression, "Dorker" but I think it is an interesting term though I am sure I don't want to be one!!
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I honestly honestly didn't mean to take names in vain or misuse them in any way 😳

Just citing our fellow caregiver as an object lesson in not letting things start.
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LOL Katie, Dorker is someone from the forum who has their own long, long, long thread.
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Amazingly, the Dorker thread has gone on and on, and on for over a year now.
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And on and on....
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And on and on and on and on and on.......................................INFINITY! :)
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California is on fire again 😥
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I went to CNN but they're just talking politics. And they seem undecided about whether I live in Middlesbrough (300 miles away) or Taiwan. Either way, perhaps that's why the website won't give me any West Coast news.

On what there was... I know that Tom Lehrer said "satire died the day they awarded Henry Kissinger the Nobel Peace Prize." And when it comes to the power of satire, I think of Peter Cook launching The Establishment club and commenting that it was modelled on "those wonderful cabarets of the Weimar Republic that did so much to prevent the rise of Fascism and the outbreak of the second world war..."

So it's not a new thing to be thinking surely this has all gone way beyond parody. But surely, this time, it has all...

What have we done to deserve to live in such interesting times?
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I saw the wildfire headlines yesterday, an entire town wiped out. - with so many fires the last several years I'm amazed there is anything left to burn.
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OK, I just thought this was the whine thread where people can let some things out and blow off steam, see that they are not alone in the caregiving journey, etc. Maybe there is something I have been missing along the way here. I have been known for my airheadedness at times. Sometimes being blissfully unaware is good though. I always was rather zen like, even as a kid.
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For those of you near the fires, please stay safe.
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Send, thanks for the clarification too. My husband and I were put in the position of caring for MIL when his sister died 2 yrs. ago and left him an "only child". Though it has not been as intense as caring for my bedridden Mom for several years, I did think I would get a break for a bit after 18 total years of caring for my Mom.
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Katie - the whine thread is still alive (although most of the whines seem pretty tame nowadays), feel free to vent all you like!
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Katie,
Feel free, I second that!

I am about 1/2 - 1 hour from most of the fires in SoCal. The wind is bad. I especially was sad about the fires reaching the ocean near Malibu.
The air qualty and being vigilant is stressful, seeing huge billowing clouds of smoke in the distance makes enjoying anything difficult, but my hubs and I are safe. Well, I am safe. Hubs is out riding in the poor air quality, romancing a sinus infection, That was my whine. I am the one who will have to care for him, getting out the Oregano e-oils now. Every year in Nov. and Dec.

Just a reminder to me and caregivers everywhere:
No one is obligated to do the hands-on caregiving, but responsible to see (arrange it) that vulnersble adults (family) are cared for.

But sometimes, it doesn't feel like a choice. imo.
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Sometimes, I feel like all I do is whine
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The Los Angeles Times isn't available on EU platforms. They (the Times, that is - the EU never apologises for anything) say they're very sorry and they're working on it.

The New York Times has very full coverage of the fires. I am flabbergasted. It just doesn't seem real or possible. What happens now?
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MsMadge what are you supposed to do when it's a case of one dam' thing after another?
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What has happened to all our avatars and screen names. Why are we reduced to an initial?
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Veronica I am seeing your kitty. I am also seeing my avatar as it is loaded.

Maybe it is your browser or you need to delete your history? And clear your cache.
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Wow 8 1/2 hours in the ER yesterday and an invitation to spend at least the W/E in the hospital.
My "J" tube is constantly blocking and due for a change anyway so L my caregiver called interventional radiology where it is usually done and was give an appointment for 7 am Friday morning. A few hours later we got a call back saying the radiologist refused to do it because of my other health conditions.
L then called the GI office and the girl said they could do it in their office but we had to bring our own tube! They later backtracked and told us to go to the ER as it had to be done in the OR.
We got to the ER at 7am to avoid the rush and were seen immediately. The ER could do nothing which was what I had expected. Nemerous phone calls were made and never returned and finally the name of the DR who did the procedure was found. She came down fairly quickly and did a temporary fix so I can at least be fed but now have to go back to my GI Dr in two weeks and they will finally decide what to do. So there I laid for 71/2 hours in acute pain from my OA and they did something I had contemplated doing myself in the middle of the previous night. Now DD has forbidden me to tough the tube and only L can do it because she told everyone that I had messed with it.
Yes I had but so had she. She was so stressed out because it was her first time taking me to the ER and she was afraid of what might happen and what she would have to tell DD.
We declined the offer to stay in the hospital to get fluids L is experienced in that area in cats and dogs and DD the Vet had already supplied the equipment. We are giving the fluids through the now working "J" jube.
DD has decreed that I am not to go into the hospital because we can manage most things at home and I will get better care and on top of my list is no room mate.
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Veronica,
Have you tried Liquid IV to rehydrate?
Avail at c o s t c o and other places.

I only heard about it second-hand.
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Time for a group hug!!!!
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And I was just saying the whines seemed pretty tame lately - sheesh, you guys definitely have something to whine about🤗🤗
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Not that I need it, but it would have been fair if my dad had left my two step-siblings and I the same amount of his estate. For some reason, I ended up on the short end. I think this was my step-mother's influence who never liked me anyway and treated me like dirt for 35 years.
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Not one to disappoint, CWillie, the whines have been stepped up just for you!

The heavy, gray smoke has arrived from the several fires. Moving Tweety in the bedroom with the Hepa filter.

Just realized if we had to go somewhere because of the smoke, we would have to bring Tweety. Grateful my pet is not a horse. The L.A. Co. Animal Shelter is full, announced on social media.

I am not too scared. But when we last had to leave from the smoke, we did not realize how sick it was making us until later.

Ok here! No visible fires.

Anyone else......be safe.

Even if your issues are snow and freezing.
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So sorry for everyone's troubles. I will not whine now unless it is truly whine worthy.

Veronica, Magnum, Send, CWillie, Katie, Madge, Countrymouse and anyone else I may have omitted.

(((((Big Hugs)))))
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Rest well in your own bed tonight, Veronica
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