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I have been babysitting all week because the little one is sick and they wanted to keep him away from daycare but now I think I'm getting it... oh no :(
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Luck Pam! Wishing you it!
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cwillie, "No good deed goes unpunished"
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Hot toddy cwillie
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Guess I’d better go set the buckets out

it’s going to rain 🌧 for the next few days
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So sorry MsMadge, you will be working harder.
Hoping you can get some sandbags done. I know it sounds ridiculous, but snag a high school kid, call the City College employment dept.
Sandbags work well to divert the water flow away from the house.
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I hear you...I'm new to this forum and needed support or to hear that I am not alone in this. It's a very isolated lifestyle being the only caregiver that's doing almost everything. I have to cook 2 meals a day, everyday, pretty much 365 days. Occasionally, a take out, but rarely since my mom is on chemo and food has to be done fresh. Nobody in the family offers to cook, get her food, EXCEPT for my friend. Ever since my mom was sick, my brother has never cooked or learnt to cook a full meal for her.
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Country Mouse,
My daddy was from Budapest, Hungary. He came to the U.S.A. in 1957. When I use Google translate talking to cousins or reading their stuff, it NEVER comes out quite making sense hahaha! Have a great day Kedvesh (darling)!
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Put me on the Hungarian list. My Mom's side of the family were also from Budapest. Oh my gosh, how I wish I could get my hands on some Hungarian cookies, the ones that would have apricot, or grape jam, or grounded walnuts as filling :)
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Devices beeping at 3 am
heavy rain within 5 miles
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Still fighting this bug, it has been 2.5 weeks! Sick of it!

Friends that text major news. Mom's former caregiver (we still stay in touch) was in an accident a week ago, totaled her car. Sent me a picture of her car and comment about the accident. Heck, call me! I tried to call her a few days ago to ask how she was. No answer, text the next day that she is a bit better every day.

HECK, pick up the darn phone and call, for Pete's sake!
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Astute observation, MsMadge. Many people do not understand that when they awake at 3:00 a.m., it was the electronic notifications waking them. But who am I to tell them?

Maybe one can only discover these things if they have had a 100% sleepless night,
like mine was last night. Grouchy much? The rain started at 1:00 a.m. here.

Gee, hope you get completely well soon! B Complex, B-12, Zinc, ???
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Yes, Glad, why can't they use the phone?

I could be wrong, but have noticed when a friend avoids talking on the phone, it is mostly because of slurred speech on her part. Then I will start to worry if she is on too much pain meds.

Cynical much? No sleep. Should I drive when I am this angry?
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Uuugh, I feel like chit, my head aches and my throat is raspy and my nose is starting to run. I don't want to let on too much though because I don't want them to feel bad- tomorrow it's back to sis's house and then home where there are good drugs.
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glad and cw. Do hope you both feel better soon. Hot drinks, OTC meds, lots of rest!
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CWillie,
My dad used to say, "If your nose runs and your feet smell...you're built upside down."
Another one of Wayne's pearls of wisdom!

No offense intended and sorry you don't feel good. Get better quick.
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Feel better soon Cwillie!
Going back for another dose of childhood germs is not my idea of a good day.
Hope the little one is already better?
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Still have not heard back from primary about a CAT scan he howled for. Hubby's cardiologist says it should probably be looked at. Hubby calls primary and the dimbulb at the desk always connects you to some nurse's number where an answering machine picks up and you must leave your name and number and what is going on with you, then THEY will call back. Not. He did this Thursday. I get so mad when I hear TV commercials that say "ask your doctor.....", or worse yet "call your doctor right away if......" I have seen this doctor for 22 years but not recently...so the dimbulb tells me I am now a " new patient" and referred me instead to the minute clinic when I had my sore throat and sinus infection because he would not see me for a week since I was "new". No wonder ERs are so full of sick people. It is the only way people can even get near a doctor. First they call howling they want hubby to have a CAT....then you can't reach them to set anything up.
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That moment when you realize : No one in his family is going to help you. You are basically on your own and need to figure out how you will go on. Feeling so bummed right now because convo with his siblings did not go well at all. 😡
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Katie, I'm with you. I regaled everybody on here with my horror story last week just trying to get my the doctor to fax the correct prescription to the pharmacy. That finally got straightened out thanks in part to the assertive pharmacist. But the incompetence abounds. I remember one time waiting and waiting for my name to be called in the waiting room (I guess that's why they call it that) and finally went to the front and got aggressive. Sometimes I think to myself, I better not alienate the receptionist cause I'll end up waiting even longer. This is what it's come to. But anyhow, when I got home that day, there was a message from them on my voicemail saying I missed my appt. There I was in the waiting room and they were calling me to say I missed my appt. LOL Boggles the mind!
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BlueStarMom -

Welcome to the forum. So glad you found this site. It's a life saver for me.

I am so sorry your husband's siblings aren't helping their own father. If you want to get some suggestions on what to do about the situation, you can post your question in a separate post so others can respond to it.
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Gershun, I am starting to see that people can't handle computers or the simplest things. Missed your appointment? Really? We had the garage door fixed on the condo weeks ago and are still getting calls that the technician is on his way here....
Most everything is bungled by someone else that one tries to do anymore. I keep, probably naively, hoping things will get better....

Hope everyone is hanging in there and feeling better. Another week to tackle...
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Certainly, being the "nice guy" doesn't work. Assertive (not aggressive) behavior is needed. "The squeaky wheel gets the oil."

I quit working September 20, 2018 and have been receiving notices (another today), for mandatory nursing classes. I've called 4 times, e-mailed twice and even spoke to the director of nurses to get me OFF the list, to no avail. Sigh!
I really don't feel like driving 30 miles up there (not sure that would do any good anyhow). I will look into blocking the messages on my phone.

If I didn't do MY job with my patients, you know I would have heard about it! But others just coast along and ignore the situation. No wonder the public is grouchy.
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Have basically put my life on hold the last 2-3 years to take care of mom. I live 3 hours from her, visit at least once a week (grocery shop, do errands, etc.) sometimes need to go more frequently if she’s having delusions of people “breaking” into her house. Finally, after many attempts, moved her into an assisted living facility right before Christmas. Tonight she’s informed me she is leaving. Very angry at me, telling me I’ve never done anything for her, wishes my sister was alive as she would take care of her, hates the facility, angry because I made her give up her car, grandchildren don’t visit (all have lives/kids of their own, a few have visited since she’s moved). Wants me to give back control of her finances. She’s had trouble living at the assisted living facility, there was talk she may need to be moved to a memory care facility, they are giving her a few more weeks to adjust, so there is no way she can go back to her house to live by herself. I’m burned out, exhausted from talking to her and unfortunately lost it with her on the phone. I’m at my wits end.
Thanks for letting me vent.
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Mfreemam, hate to say it, but sounds as if your mom is more than ready for MC. Is she still considered to be able to make decisions such as financial or medical? I sure wouldn't want her to be doing it..... As for losing it with her; we all do that, goes with the territory. Don't visit or call for a day or two, but be sure she can't sign herself out while you are "offline". Don't LET her hurt your feelings; if she has some dementia, it's not all her talking.....
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Mfreemam, Deep breaths.....I agree with mally1, give it a little space, then see again how it is going...I find myself having to push a mental "reset button" every so often with situations.
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I recently calculated how long our money will last once I retire in 4 years. It looks like it will last until I'm 82 and my wife is 85. After that, our pensions and investments will be used up. I have no idea what we will do then. Since 45% of my mother in-law's estate is being lost to taxes, I don't have much faith in how much that will be. If it is a good monthly amount, I want to save and invest it to cover us for the future instead of spending the extra money now. That's my whine for 2:49 am here on the east coast of the US.
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I am tired of being screamed at and cursed out daily by my fiancé’s father. I’m tired of him drinking two or three six packs daily and I am tired of him sabotaging my work. I’m tired of him abusing his wife, to whom I provide care. I’m tired of being constantly called a gold digger; my fiancé and I have more than he does.
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NoMore,

Have you discussed this with your  fiancé? This is not good and is something your  fiancé should deal with soon!
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nomore - this sounds intolerable What options do you have? Your fil is an alcoholic out of control. Living with some one like this means chaos.
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