I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
How exciting! Bless you both and relax. Stay Warm!
Good luck.
another atmospheric river is bearing down on us
the gutters are overflowing again
the Viking was a talking head 🗣 in a bed tonight and her roommate was hitting staff because she didn’t want to wash 🧼
I guess I'm stressed out with this 1,350 mile move coming up at the end of the month. I need to take her to her new facility (beautiful) before we move and then fly home again to drive down. The stress is so thick you could cut it with a knife!
Because we live in Tijuana above the "checkpoint" of Sonoyita, everything must be listed in each box, all mayor appliances must have the serial numbers listed, I've got to get a sticker from Aduana to drive my California plated car into the interior of Mexico, the animals have to have their shots up to date and a health record testifying their good health, and on and on. It seems it's endless.
I know it will all be over within a month, but that seems like forever. Oh well, if I forget anything, I guess I'll come back.
pam -sounds like you had a wonderful time. Happy for you.
sue -so much work and worry about your mum at the same time. It sounds like a bit of a nightmare - serial numbers!!!
Yes, Viking strong 💪
She was having trouble breathing today and looked miserable during a breathing treatment but seemed to perk up a bit by the time I got to hoca after work - I got some airborne, Tylenol and hot tea in her before bedtime - another fun Valentine's Day 😆
what a rigmarole- will you replace your California plates ?
hope mom is able to travel by the move date
MsMadge, you are Such a trooper, and so apparently is The Viking, bless her heart!
PammyZ, so glad you got your trip in and you had a relaxing time!
Me, Iv'e got cabin fever in this tiny (temporary) apartment, fron being snowbound, but its melting now, thank God!
Take Care All! Stacey B
Oy! Have they evaluated how big the aneurysm is? Is it aortic or abdominal?
Have they considered ER at a teaching hospital?
DH's aortic aneurysm was discovered entirely by accident. It was 5.8 mm. We were sent directly to a hospital to see a cardiothoracic surgeon. Surgery to replace leaking valve and aorta happened 48 hours later. They did not let him out of bed while awaiting surgery
Still, let's not let the grass grow, eh..?
Yes CM, the aneurysm was found when all the tests were run and the endocarditis was found back in Dec.
Then this week a friends relationship imploded, and she thought she could move in with hubs and I.. no that can't happen unless I kiss my marriage goodbye. She "understands" but is like a zombie She has parents she can go to,, she will not be homeless. Then another friend's mom passed away. We went to the viewing today, but of course I will miss the funeral because my work schedule got changed. She is in healthcare also, so she knows how is, but still I feel badly. Plus the stress of trying to figure out the overnight trip. I feel worse than if I had just kept mom home and went to work. Next year I am picking another week, this week has just been cursed
Rose went to a rehab SNF, and liked it at first. It is More than an hour away, and I was too sick to drive or visit at first. 2calls to nurse sounded hopeful, but the Care-plan meeting was awful. After 2weeks, only 2 people at meeting, and neither one had worked with Rose. No PT person or his report, just Social Worker and head nurse. Both had differing opinions of PT progress. SW tried to scare me into signing Rose up for permanent wing, since she had stopped making progress and may soon be off Medicare PT, and couldn't go home with need for 24/7 supervision. Nurse told me she HAS made some progress already. She will never stay there for long. I've tried to reach PT when he was in, left messages to call. Nothing for a week.
Meanwhile, when I asked if they understood the limited DNR, the nurse cut me off with' We don't do them here. We call ambulance and someone else decides.' SW made a number of incorrect assumptions about us and Rose, and
I was yelling before the end. That was one of the times my friend and R's home caregiver interrupted saying, we need to discuss and decide later.
We were told Rose hated their cooking. She had gagged once (nerves?) so they switched her to purée food, which she pushed away. I told them she hated baby food and would refuse to eat, she's as stubborn as me. They said she wouldn't tell them. The nurses in the hospital could read non-verbal cues, but they can't? They say they've worked with dementia, but I doubt it. The worst part was the cna helping Rose transfer back to bed from wheelchair. She was close to abusive. Too angry to deal with all of it yet.
My brother was to go today and let us know his impressions, but he and wife now have that horrid cold hitting everyone. Tues I'll see an SNF close to home. I already filled out application. No bed available yet. Will also have her doc order in-home PT for the next week. I have 2 caregivers lined up for more hours, and can get more. Wed. I have 2health apps, so I can stay sane and healthy. I'll keep trying for a PT report, and if I don't get it, I'll 'kidnap' her home, with my own cna who can transfer her into car.
Well, it is midnight, and now I am a bit less stressed. Maybe I can get some sleep. Whine on, Caregiver Warriors!
My whine today is how the heck do folks get wheelchairs in and out of the car? And it also slides around when we are driving. If I put down some gripper material to stop the banging around then I can’t get the chair out unless I lift it. I am 5’3 and have short arms too ugh! The chair weighs about 25 lbs so not too terribly heavy just bulky.
Happy Monday everyone!
Me: Well, it's understandable you don't know what day of the week it is because you don't work, don't look at the calendar, of course it's normal to lose track of the time.
Her: (totally ignoring what I just said) Well what day is today...
Me: well Mom I just said it's Monday and we just had the weekend and I just worked today.
Her: Oh you just don't understand...( yelling angrily now). I JUST DON'T WANT TO GET OLD!!!!
Me: Well, sorry that's the way it is... are we going to go through this every single day? I don't want to get older either, but I am... SO WHAT !
Edit to say: This always follows the pattern of her being complimentary and pityingly saying to me something along the line of..... you do so much to take care of me, you go out of the way.... and then 5-10" later, she's being her nasty self. But QUEEN that she is, oh no, poor her!
Myownlife....we have a saying in our house for fun .....we have “6 Saturdays and one Sunday “ every week because FIL loves to go to church on sunday and out for lunch afterwards. It’s his big day out! But maybe on the helpful side - a big light up Digital thermometer which shows the day and date in her room or bathroom ? When FIL asks what day it is we would say did you check your thermometer or desk calendar and he began to look for himself before asking us.
I’m also tired of being COLD!!
The house hasn’t warmed up to 59 degrees yet and my nose, toes and fingers are frozen.
I keep telling myself this will all be over in a couple weeks.
Mom is still recuperating from bronchitis so a change of plan on taking her to the new facility BEFORE we drive down. I guess I’ll fly back and get her after she’s better.
I know there’s a Margarita with my name on it sitting on the beach for me. 🌴🍸☀️