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Dh made Cream of wheat this morning, for both of us.

I came into the kitchen, and he is stiring what looks like 3 + cups of milk/water in the pan. Asking him, what recipe did you use to get that much liquid? What? That cannot be right, you are adding only 3 1/2 tablespoons of Minute Cream of Wheat?

Seems he wanted 3 servings, so added the liquid for one serving, plus two servings. He took the tablespoons for one serving. He took the liquid from nearly 4 servings. Then, he added salt, from what recipe? First thing I tasted....

I intervened, saying I would help stir, so he abandoned the project.

The box expired in Sept. 2018.

I told him kindly, that if he messes up a recipe, that won't get him out of cooking occasionally. I do it all the time, and not on purpose.

We ate.
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Sue,
Ain't moving fun?
Pile the boxes along the outer walls and some windows, instead of the center of the rooms.
It will provide extra insulation, and no one can hear when you scream.
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Pammzi,
There are white tablets of vitamins appearing very much like the white Tylenol caplet.
One is Bromelain 500 mg. that I take for pain caused by physically over exerting.
This is just one type of pain, I know.
It is a pineapple based enzyme, and may be contraindicated for patients taking certain meds. So check with a doctor. I am not recommending this, only as an example.

If you put the Tylenol in the pill minder, then keep the bottle nearby with only a few
"white tablets", Mom will think she is still in control and not miss the extra tylenol.

There are so many pain solutions, but right now, if I had to choose just one product, it would be Doterra Deep Blue, topically applied essential oil.

I understand your Mom is in lots of pain. Has her doctor tried other meds?
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Thank you Send! Yes she is on a lot of pain meds including Oxy. lidocaine patches and more. He did allow her to take 2 of one of them in the morning, and she has been good with the 4 Tylenol a day ( In fact only has taken 2 daily since the apt). Yesterday she was seemingly somewhat better, and slept well last night, but seems worse today. Showered downstairs in the handicapped shower, and did well with that. Of course the PT guy called today while hubs and I had the pups at the vet, and he has some sort of (indian) accent.. so we "think" he is coming at 9 am tomorrow,, great time for an 88 YO who moves slowly..LOL. So early tomorrow I will have to declutter the dog toys.. and I know he is going to want the rugs gone ( which mom loves the rugs.. feels they are warmer) But we shall do what we must. Good idea on the other pills if it comes to that. I do use some DoTerra oils, may try the Deep Blue.
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Bluestar.... ty! BUT, mother doesn't want any help. She would rather be nasty... I am definitely rethinking cancelling my trip out of town for my vacation next week. I'd be happy staying home alone, but she just saps every bit of niceness from everyone.... especially me. I think I will look at alternative ways to finance my vacation and rebook a few days out of town.
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Two backgrounds facts before the story:
1 - Some years ago, there was a water shortage in my parents' town, so they bought a watercooler they are using since.
2 - Due to mobility issues, my mother now wants to have always a little bottle of water with her. You know, those small, 300 ml ones.

On with the story:
She (M) asks me to call my brother (B) on the phone. After the pleasenteries:
M - I have no water.
B - Oh, I will drop some before lunch, can you wait until there?
M - You can take even longer.
B - Let me understand, is there any water at all? In the cooler?
M - No, there's water in the cooler, I just prefer the brand x one.
B - Ah, ok, I thought you were dying of thristy.
M - Who said anything about it?!
B, on the phone, me at her side - you just did.
M - My two sons are against me!!

How can I make her understand the diference between "I have no water" and "can you buy me some water, please?" without being even more confrontational in her head?
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I’m tired of him going to the fridge every time he gets up from his chair. I’m tired of him putting things from the freezer into the fridge. Im tired of him touching everything without washing his hands. I’m purchasing childproof locks for both refrigerators today! Wish I would have thought of this sooner. Little things are just that, little, but they add up and can be overwhelming.
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Well the PT eval went well! It probably helps that he is adorable,, and she got an hour and a half of attention. The house passed muster, he loved the handicapped bathroom better than the one across from her bedroom for showers ( of course, it has a walk in and bars and seating, not a step over tub) And he took no hostages! She asked me to go upstairs ( 8 steps) to get her meds,, he said "you go, I'll follow you",, and off she went! Medicare will pay for 8 weeks, then more if needed and approved by her Dr ( who will of course) So she has a hot date on Mon and Thurs for the next 8 weeks, either him or another young man ( yeah!! ) Of course I also know he is married, has a baby, where he lives.. my mother can be a hoot when she wants.. She offered him coffee and breakfast.. He did accept a lifesaver for a sore throat.. LOL So hubs and I are optimistic this may work, or at least she will try.
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Mom: I want to talk to you (in the Mom condescending tone)

Me: I ignore (because I actually have a job that I work from home) and later walk on the patio because I thought it was my daughter and her boyfriend and was being funny and said ok, I'm calling 911 ! Turns out it was Mom talking to the dogs. So, she again says....

Mom: I want to talk to you ...
Me; Ok, what
Mom: You don't need to spend the money to get the bathroom redone. '
Me: I've got it, Ma.
Mom: persisting... going on and on about it
Me: I've got it Mom! I will take care of it.
Mom: Well I want to go back to my home. ( 3 hours away in another town; has been living with me begrudgingly for 1 1/2 years)
Me: (seriously thinking to myself now... you know what ... this last year and a half has been miserable for a good portion of the time.... she is so ungrateful... maybe I will just pack her up and take her back... BUT I will NOT be visiting, NOT be taking her to the doctor, NOT doing all the errands that she CANNOT drive to) and just wait for a call from the police saying something is wrong.

She can afford for her bills to be paid, but she CANNOT pay them herself, she gets mixed up and overwhelmed about all of her medications, OMG.... another Friday night ..... should have gone on my vacation out of town and had daughter keep an eye on her......
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Myownlife, burning out, are we?
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Hubs ate all the donuts.
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My whine moment today....having to pass by the rehab roommate of FIL while said roommate I s sitting in a wheelchair facing the door (and anyone entering) and finishing up using a urinal which he then puts on his tray table and never washes his hands. Can’t unsee that...also, said roommate is about 50 years old and watches cartoons day and night with volume turned up. Ok that’s actually 2 whine moments so I promise to skip tomorrow. Lol!
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mally1, you are right on the nose! I think from now on, when I have a whine, I'll type in " WHINE !! " instead of so much detail :)
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I have a query. My Husband and I went to Hawaii for a holiday years ago, when we first met actually. I noticed some of our pics we took from that vacation are in my in-laws photo albums. Pictures of me in my bikini! I never ok'ed this. I don't want these pics in their albums. Do I have a right to remove them since they are pictures of me even though they are in their albums?

Hub's Dad is a perv. and I hate the idea of him looking at these pictures of me. In fact it grosses me out.
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Gershun,
Borrow them to make copies, telling his Mom you have lost your copies.
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I asked dh to remove them for me and he says he will. If not I'll just take them next time I'm there.
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Today my brother came by and my Mom started yelling at me that I didn’t mail her letter. So funny, she gave it to him and he put it in my mail box. I had been to our mailbox 3 days in a row without telling me she had a letter. My heart is deflated
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Daughteritis, That was downright mean of your brother and not funny at all.
My brother thought he was being funny when he started to shove a dead mouse at me.I fell and hit my head and shoulder and hurt for days afterward,then he denied doing it.
I don't know why our grown brothers won't grow up.
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It all boils down to brothers think they are being funny even when the only person laughing is them.

Funny, not funny!
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I've always disliked guys who "clown" all the time. EVERYTHING is not funny. Maybe that is why I married my husband...he is fairly serious most of the time.
Had a furnace repairman who thought everything was a joke..drove me up the wall.
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My brother and I were real jokesters together growing up but now I'm more serious and he still wants to guffaw 24/7. He thinks I'm snubbing him now when I've just grown up and he hasn't I guess.
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Funny what a half hour in time will do...... when I read these new postings today a half hour ago, I was chuckling and going to post... wow... no whines today.

Within the last half hour, mother has again spouted off about going back to her house to live ( 3 hours away) by herself and be alone. Unfortunately, I lost my temper and yelled that does she have any idea how sh***y she makes me feel each time she talks about that and says she does not want to be here. She never thinks about how anything she says makes anyone else feel..... talk about narcissistic. She is the definition of the disorder.
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I have noticed many narcissistic people will say hurtful things that we remember for a long time, yet they seem to forget they said these things. There are things said that were hurtful to me throughout the course of my life I wish I could forget. These things just roll of the narcissist's backs it seems.
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There's ALOT of hurtful comments I wish I could forget.Alot of them from my brother's and other's about my weight growing up and so many made during the loss of Mother and your'e right Katie,they go on happy and well and we get to carry the pain forever.
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Ah, katie, that is so true. Mother would come out with some humdingers, and two minutes later it was all over for her, but the rest of us were wrung out, My sis says what she wants to then denies she said it. Then she smiles to someone else and comments that J (me) seems a bit out of sorts today. Oh, the games!!!! All I can do is avoid her.
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I guess this is a whine. I arrived home in a taxi yesterday and as he pulled into the driveway I saw my front door was wide open.. It had snowed during the day and I could see no footprints so I walked into the front hall carefully and everything I could see looked in place. I asked the cab driver to stay at the door while I looked through the rest of the house. Everything was in order. My dd had been there last week to water plants and I guess she didn't pull the door firmly closed when she left. I had asked her on the weekend to go again, but when I called her yesterday, she said she didn't have time. I was pretty upset about this so we didn't talk long. I gather my granddaughter is in bad shape again the past few days, but when I spoke to dd last week after she had been to the house, she was in a good mood, so that doesn't explain it. When I leave - my house or when I have looked after it - her house, I always check that the door is firmly locked before I leave. I need to talk to her again and also find out more about the granddd, but I have to wait till I am more over it, I have no idea how long the door was open. My gas bill is likely going to be horrendous, I am thankful we live in a good neighbourhood, but lpeople walk by to and from work every day.. Anyone could have walked in. I will talk to the neighbours and see if they noticed the door, and another time when I am out of town, if they see anything to give me a call. Always something!!!
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Golden...wise of you to ask the taxi to wait ...reminds me of several years ago my elderly neighbor directly across the street from me asked me to watch her house while she went away on a trip. I took in the mail every day for her. One morning I looked out my window and saw the front door wide open. ( I always used the side door as requested). It had started to snow and was also windy. I called the police to come check it out since I was home with my two young children and didn’t want to leave them. Two policemen arrived without boots or even jackets and I watched them slipping and sliding up the driveway to the neighbors house...they kept falling and were covered in snow...it was like watching keystone cops and I was laughing so hard....I did feel badly for calling them because it turned out the neighbor’s daughter came to get something from the house and forgot to close the door.
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About 2.5 years ago I arrived back home after being gone for ten days to the door open. It was a house I was renting and thankfully in a low crime area. The wind must have blown the door open, got very windy there at times. Everything in order other than the living room ceiling covered with probably several hundred Asian beetles. Ugh! They look like lady bugs but nasty creatures that bite and stink to high heaven if you squish them. Gathered them up and threw them out for several hours just when I needed to put up my feet and rest from the drive.

My whine today, apps running in the background on my Fire tablet. Don't know what I need to have, but have to manually stop apps that I don't know what they do or I didn't download. Several Alexa apps I don't even want. And of course I cannot find a list of apps that are necessary to run my Fire. And many of them start themselves.

And these apps drain the battery very quickly.
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blue -seeing the cops must have been funny. You did the right thing by calling them. I have started to think more rationally about it and I am going to have a new lock system installed. This was in the plans anyway. I will make sure it has a good solid deadbolt.
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glad - I remember the asian beetles!
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