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They were just really GROSS!
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Asian lady bugs, box elder bugs and cluster flies - the scourge of poorly sealed old houses. Ah, they're not so bad, just suck them up with a shop vac.
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Minus 22 F feels like minus 42 F. (-30, -40 C)
This is ridiculous for the beginning of March.
I am glad I got the mail yesterday. Brrrr 🥶
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She’s refusing to call her caseworker to come over for her yearly assessment. Part of me is jubilant because I can easily work for the agency and get benefits and weekends instead of this endless hell. Part of me is disgusted because one minute she says how she NEEEEEEEDS me to everyone else but she doesn’t care if my hip is injured from walking here in ice storms or if I have a fever and sore throat and coughing, she’s even threatened to fire me/“find someone else”. When confronted with her lack of caring about me she says anyone could do this job and yet nobody else ever did.

I even confronted her about it yesterday and today. I’m so sick of her lazy selfishness. She’s opiate addicted and alcoholic and goes to rock concerts drunk and is only 53 but she’s so disabled and weak?

she admits when pressured that she’s never worked since 1988, that she’s literally done nothing...told me when I have had health issues (rotting teeth) or anxiety over finances (not able to save, no health insurance=no medical care) that I should just go marry a rich old man.

jokes on her cuz I’m already putting in job applications and I will report her malingering and alcoholic & opiate addictions and the abuse and unregistered guns, and I’m gonna warn the agency about the racism. My fiancé is marrying me and we’re going No Contact. Maybe she needs tough love so she can learn how to stand on her own...
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I sat down for a little break Sunday while doing laundry and the wind blew the side door open - thought someone was breaking in -
with all the rain, the door has swollen and doesn't catch right unless the deadbolt is locked
this old house
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nomore - sounds like things are looking up. a new job, marriage and no contact are good. Focusing on her and her sicknesses only drags you down. Enabling her does neither her nor you any good. The agency can send someone else to care for her if she needs it.

ah madge - scary!!! I was a bit scared going through the house the other day, but as I proceeded everything I could see looked normal - thankfully. My doors change with the weather too.
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I just arrived at my parents house for the Carnaval holiday - for those who are not used to it, de facto days off from saturday to wednesday - entering the house, I saw my mother with watering eyes, saying "Finally someone who take good care of me." Of course, my father took ofence. Looks like they are bickering - again.
He moves heavens and earth for my mother, but she seems to get more and more grumpy.
And she is already guilty tripping me. Saying she loves me a ton, I am a wonderful son, I am the only one blah, blah, blah... she says she only feels peace when I am with her, but I feel more and more tense around her, thinking twice, three times what to say - i.e., what she wants to hear. Gotta have tons of patience.
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Just as I predict. All her praise and complaining is translating to "stay at my side doing whatever I say 24/7". She still does not want to hear about canes or walkers, so she is using my arm to go to bathroom (waiting at the door untill she finishes, taking her back), going here and there "since your father no longer has patience with me."
So I am completelly following her schedule, as she demands having me at her side every waking hour. She ates several times a day and I can't say "I don't want", as she starts to ask why, if I don't like "x" food anymore, used to like as a kid, how umpolite it is to let someone eat alone, etc.
I am going to bed after 2 in the morning just to have some "me time".
Don't get me wrong, I love her, but I am counting the hours to go back home. Just another two days and 23 hours.
Even more respect to those of you who don't have this escape (the way things are going, I will have to take this step soon). Hang in there and all the best.

EDIT - Five minutes ago. She finishes eating a fruit, gives me the plate with the peel and says "throw these away and put some 'x' there, the plate is clean." I do so, give to her and she says "no, it's for you". I complain with an "aw, mom!" and she starts "now I want, there." and "I don't know why you're grumpy today",,"I will have to bother your father, since you're in bad mood". I try to explain, she just closes her face. Sheesh!
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Coyote, you poor dear! Most of the time it isn't quite so bad with my mom. But.... there's always tomorrow :(
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My mom micromanages so badly that I only see her about every ten days; her paid helpers get to listen to it, poor things. Once I told her "STOP micromanaging me!", which helped for that visit.... oh, well....
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My whine: I'm sick. Again. This '18-'19 winter time has been one bout of illness to the next, seems like. Grr. I'm just getting over a sinus infection that lasted (seemed like) months, and had a clear 10 days, and now I've got a lung infection with a sore throat SO bad, it feels like it's surely going to be strep... But maybe not, maybe just very sore from coughing and drainage? I'm monitoring symptoms right now. If the phlegm gets any darker or throat any sorer, I'll go in to doctor.

I have been squeezing Meyer lemon into big jugs of water, putting tabasco sauce on all my foods. I chopped up garlic and jalapeños and made salsa, which has been my go-to for the past 6 months or so. I don't feel particularly run down. Why do I keep getting sick? :-(

Mucinex for coughs seems to be helping. It has been a tough winter for me with all this sore throat, achy head, stuffy nose, congested chest, bunch of business. Blech.
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Ali,don't forget the spicy hot V8 and find some hot and sour soup.. mmmm

Feel better soon. This winter has been brutal for so many. -24 chill factor here now. It was a COLD February. March and April are our snowiest months, so far from done.
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Great minds think alike, Glad. I just finished a big container of hot and sour soup. I added tabasco to that, too. lol It wasn't too spicy, just a little extra kick. I'm taking everything, doing everything, eating all the "right" foods, taking long hot showers and baths.

I'll live. I just wonder why so sick this season, but I think maybe the extreme cold has something to do with it, at least in part. Temperature swings have been severe here, seems to me even more so than typical.
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Ali...I'm so sorry your'e so sick and your'e right,it's gotta be this awful cold weather we've had this winter.It's 10 degrees here right now and the windchill is supposed to be Minus 10 to minus 15 in the morning.
I worry about the animals and people out in it.
Hope you get to feeling better real soon~Take good care~
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Winter is such a grind. Blech.
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I bought the book Being Mortal - read about half of it- and now I can’t find it! Maybe I need to be evaluated alongside LO 😜
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Again, my whine is boxes-this time it’s the UNpacking. We pulled into Puerto Vallarta on March 1st-exactly 7 years since we left to the day! (how weird is that?)
But I shouldn’t be on the whine thread, it’s 80 degrees here right now (11am) and I’m having breakfast at one of my fav restaurants in PV.

Today will be spent at Home Depot, then checking out the facility that my mother will go to next week, after that, shopping for a stove and washer/dryer. I’m tired just thinking about it but at least I’m NOT cold 🥶.

I wish ya’ll were here.
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Have you had that margarita on the beach yet?
(How come they don't have an emoji for envy?)
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Sue,
How do you do it! Amazing, nice place Puerto Vallarta!

Avatar= the face of envy!
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Olé olé olé olé 🍹
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Ms Madge.... followed by HOT HOT HOT!!!!
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My gripe for the day: couldn't find anything uplifting or interesting on AC today except the Jokes thread and Dorker's saga. Looked through some threads in the forum, found people squabble, and others ask questions I can't answer or relate to.

Oh well. I'll go dream of summer and swimming in the pool for now. But first I need to do some exercise to get in better shape.
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I did a rough draft of my taxes tonight 🙀
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madge - you are my hero!!!! 🎆🎆🎆

ali - hope you are feeling better. Have you been assessed for CFS?

My whine is that I got chilled after being out yesterday, I was sooo cold inside though it was warm. I put on an extra layer, my boots, got a heating pad, hot drink and a wool blanket, and finally warmed up. Don't seem to be suffering today thankfully.
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I don't know why I insisted that mom name both sis and I as executors, I'm doing all the work anyway and having to chase around for her signature on documents is just a p.i.t.a.

And taxes, ugh😵. I hate even thinking about filing taxes.
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She possibly named the two of you in the event a situation developed with one of you and therefore could not continue as POA. I am sure the burden creates stress. If she doesn't complicate issues and you feel you can handle the responsibility perhaps it is better for you to be the sole party doing the work.

I was advised to choose amongst my 3 children for financial and medical POA. I was told if one didn't feel up to it the responsibility could be passed on. I am sure it feels unfair. I wouldn't know exactly because I am an only child. There are so many stories on this forum of siblings fighting. Maybe if you don't have that issue you could feel a bit of relief. Sadly life is often not fair as I am sure you fully realize.
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Thanks Riverdale, mom has passed now so we are busy winding up the estate.
Mom's financial and medical POAs named me and a sib "jointly and severally", which meant that either one of us could act independently.
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(((CWillie))), I feel your pain. I was just appointed as administrator of mom's since she died without a will. Getting my sister to cooperate on ANYTHING is a challenge. I almost didn't do it, and I guess I'm probably a glutton for punishment, but I wanted to make sure mom's last bills and finances are handled properly. I still have to do her taxes for 2017 since I found out those were never done, and then whatever taxes she will owe for this year. I don't like to think about that part either :(
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Frazzled, I've read about your family over on the dysfunction thread, thankfully my sister is willing to cooperate she just has a hard time actually following through, so unless I am the leader and keep pushing her to get it done nothing happens. It just gets tiring after a while to always have to be the responsible one (and since she's my big sister, shouldn't it be the other way around?)🙄
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DST - spring ahead, lose an hour of sleep😫
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