I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
This is ridiculous for the beginning of March.
I am glad I got the mail yesterday. Brrrr 🥶
I even confronted her about it yesterday and today. I’m so sick of her lazy selfishness. She’s opiate addicted and alcoholic and goes to rock concerts drunk and is only 53 but she’s so disabled and weak?
she admits when pressured that she’s never worked since 1988, that she’s literally done nothing...told me when I have had health issues (rotting teeth) or anxiety over finances (not able to save, no health insurance=no medical care) that I should just go marry a rich old man.
jokes on her cuz I’m already putting in job applications and I will report her malingering and alcoholic & opiate addictions and the abuse and unregistered guns, and I’m gonna warn the agency about the racism. My fiancé is marrying me and we’re going No Contact. Maybe she needs tough love so she can learn how to stand on her own...
with all the rain, the door has swollen and doesn't catch right unless the deadbolt is locked
this old house
ah madge - scary!!! I was a bit scared going through the house the other day, but as I proceeded everything I could see looked normal - thankfully. My doors change with the weather too.
He moves heavens and earth for my mother, but she seems to get more and more grumpy.
And she is already guilty tripping me. Saying she loves me a ton, I am a wonderful son, I am the only one blah, blah, blah... she says she only feels peace when I am with her, but I feel more and more tense around her, thinking twice, three times what to say - i.e., what she wants to hear. Gotta have tons of patience.
So I am completelly following her schedule, as she demands having me at her side every waking hour. She ates several times a day and I can't say "I don't want", as she starts to ask why, if I don't like "x" food anymore, used to like as a kid, how umpolite it is to let someone eat alone, etc.
I am going to bed after 2 in the morning just to have some "me time".
Don't get me wrong, I love her, but I am counting the hours to go back home. Just another two days and 23 hours.
Even more respect to those of you who don't have this escape (the way things are going, I will have to take this step soon). Hang in there and all the best.
EDIT - Five minutes ago. She finishes eating a fruit, gives me the plate with the peel and says "throw these away and put some 'x' there, the plate is clean." I do so, give to her and she says "no, it's for you". I complain with an "aw, mom!" and she starts "now I want, there." and "I don't know why you're grumpy today",,"I will have to bother your father, since you're in bad mood". I try to explain, she just closes her face. Sheesh!
I have been squeezing Meyer lemon into big jugs of water, putting tabasco sauce on all my foods. I chopped up garlic and jalapeños and made salsa, which has been my go-to for the past 6 months or so. I don't feel particularly run down. Why do I keep getting sick? :-(
Mucinex for coughs seems to be helping. It has been a tough winter for me with all this sore throat, achy head, stuffy nose, congested chest, bunch of business. Blech.
Feel better soon. This winter has been brutal for so many. -24 chill factor here now. It was a COLD February. March and April are our snowiest months, so far from done.
I'll live. I just wonder why so sick this season, but I think maybe the extreme cold has something to do with it, at least in part. Temperature swings have been severe here, seems to me even more so than typical.
I worry about the animals and people out in it.
Hope you get to feeling better real soon~Take good care~
But I shouldn’t be on the whine thread, it’s 80 degrees here right now (11am) and I’m having breakfast at one of my fav restaurants in PV.
Today will be spent at Home Depot, then checking out the facility that my mother will go to next week, after that, shopping for a stove and washer/dryer. I’m tired just thinking about it but at least I’m NOT cold 🥶.
I wish ya’ll were here.
(How come they don't have an emoji for envy?)
How do you do it! Amazing, nice place Puerto Vallarta!
Avatar= the face of envy!
Oh well. I'll go dream of summer and swimming in the pool for now. But first I need to do some exercise to get in better shape.
ali - hope you are feeling better. Have you been assessed for CFS?
My whine is that I got chilled after being out yesterday, I was sooo cold inside though it was warm. I put on an extra layer, my boots, got a heating pad, hot drink and a wool blanket, and finally warmed up. Don't seem to be suffering today thankfully.
And taxes, ugh😵. I hate even thinking about filing taxes.
I was advised to choose amongst my 3 children for financial and medical POA. I was told if one didn't feel up to it the responsibility could be passed on. I am sure it feels unfair. I wouldn't know exactly because I am an only child. There are so many stories on this forum of siblings fighting. Maybe if you don't have that issue you could feel a bit of relief. Sadly life is often not fair as I am sure you fully realize.
Mom's financial and medical POAs named me and a sib "jointly and severally", which meant that either one of us could act independently.