I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Laser the stones, after getting a second opinion.
Is it not inadvisable to have surgery over the Passover?
If the surgery were emergency surgery, then understandable, it would take precedence over the holiday.
The scheduling is convenient for the doctors, not the patient's. Try scheduling for a Monday?
Is there time to be off blood thinners prior to the surgery?
A second opinion from a doctor please.
We both want to get this over with. I don't want to schedule any extended vacations until he has these procedures and the "after". I'm sorry if I sound like Debby Downer, but my guy is a medical lemon of sorts. Last polypectomy ( at Memorial Sloan, arguably the best hospital in NYC) we went away after a couple of days; he started bleeding and he ended up back in the hospital with a transfusion. Transfusions are these days quite contraindicated for artificial valves. A year or so ago, he was in the ER and his INR was 17; major med center refused to transfuse and cardiologist agreed; apparently transfusions can cause major damage to bio valves.
I need to learn to be patient, I think.
Yeah but.....he is your lemon!
All the best wishes and prayers for a good solution.
I have a hobby, watching "X". I didn't mentioned it once this weekend, but my mothers is since yesterday making planes, saying we will lunch earlier so "I could watch X with her." That means she talking on the phone, asking me what is happening and all, trying to follow something she does not like. I know her heart is on the right place, she is adamant to spend time with me, but thiss will ruin two hours for me and her. How can we have a bit of "me" time without passing for selfish?
Or just bite the bullet - "mom, I love you dearly but I'd rather just watch X on my own. I know you really don't care for it and just wanted to spend time time with me, how about we do ABC together instead".
The worst part of this is the people that frequent this site will attack and correct statements made that are either incorrect or from an inexperienced person or even troll. People, do not attack, instead respond to the original post, no reply, without feeding the trolls or correcting their thoughts and opinions. That does nothing but raise ire.
Just, please settle down.
There are always going to be reactions to controversial comments, sometimes it's hard to let stuff slide. I try to ignore it unless it's coming from someone who has been on the forum long enough to know better or it seem particularly offensive to the OP.
Not needed, useless, confusing, time consuming, and attracts trolls.
For me, it comes down to how I'm using AC these days. I get on only for a few minutes at a time, but it's also an important connection for me, and if I have a tip/input/feedback for someone, I want to speak to that, let the poster figure out if it's relevant info or not.
I'd be the first to say that the way I'm doing things lately isn't the best. I appreciate those of you who take time to read profiles, and previous threads, etc., and keep the big picture together, writing comments that relay info concisely so I don't need to dig for it. I do a lot more reading on AC lately -- in the Questions -- than I do posting. I think I learn as much or more than I have advice. I haven't ruled out applying to local Gerontology programs at universities. AC helps me to see where my interests lie.
WHINE: I'm still coughing, and coughing up goo, and it's been 6 1/2 weeks since this started. I'm over it. I went to a Korean-style health spa a week ago. I should've spent more time in steam sauna to try to clear this out but... also it's not exactly a nice look, to be hacking up goobers in the shared steam sauna. This bug has been a stubborn one.
Whine completed ( at least for the moment )
Riverdale, I am also dismayed at the housing market a couple states over from you. The granite craze ruined things for a lot of people, and our state has a huge property tax rate. Homes either sit on the market if they have no granite, etc. or they are snapped up sometimes on the same day, especially condos. There is also a bizarre trend of building "luxury housing" next to undesirable places.
One year we didn't mulch at our old place, and I raked the existing mulch a bit and it looked like new mulch for awhile, maybe you could try this and see if it works in your garden. I wish you all the best in selling your home!
Selfish thoughts I know, so sorry!
mom keeps saying she's dying and with so many passing the last couple of weeks I wanted to keep an eye on her plus with occupancy falling they're cutting back on staff - I hand fed one resident dinner last night and helped another while my private caregiver took care of mom
My DH lost an uncle in an accident a couple of weeks ago. Someone he grew up with, but had seen maybe twice in 20 years (kids and I had never met him due to his family living out of state), so he was sad and some tears were shed, but he is honestly doing okay....mainly sad for his mom because it was her brother.
Well, we have a SIL (married to DH's brother) that was not super close to the deceased that has posted songs, tributes, tagged me on Facebook in public mourning posts, messaged me with songs, etc., and she has been going on about it now every day for the whole two weeks. Even the immediate family has not done that. She just messaged me to see how DH is holding up (he really is okay, honest). DH shook his head and said, "She just can't live without some kind of drama."
This SIL is otherwise a sweet lady and we get along well, but sheeze Louise, she did the same after my mom's death and she never even met my mom! At mom's viewing, we also had family members here come out of the woodwork that couldn't be bothered to ask how mom was doing while she was alive, and of course twisted sis, who mistreated and stole from her, who wanted to act like they were so distraught and make her memorial about them.
I just shake my head at these types...
Frazzled, it takes all kinds for sure.
But, I am looking forward to it, should be very interesting.
Extension to file taxes
Still due by April 15th.
Just a complete mess here and the snow had stopped this morning by 5 or so.