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Gemfire,

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Frazzled.

Oh my God, Yes! My MIL said at her father’s funeral, “You see all these people here, they were all invited to my wedding, but no they couldn’t attend a happy event but let someone die and they come out in droves to stare at them in the casket and now they are mad because my father requested a closed casket and feel like they wasted a trip!” Just crazy!
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Frazzled, my dear grandma used to say, “Give me flowers while I am living.” My precious grandpa planted a gorgeous flower garden for her. She always had beautiful flowers on the kitchen table.
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I can’t find my appetite. I get so tired. After putting the bedside commode in mom’s room, it’s even worse. I cook, feed mom and hubby. I end up eating a piece of toast or an apple or a container of yogurt. I know I am not getting enough nutrients.
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Needhelp, My mom used to say the same thing about flowers. She or I always bought a bouquet at the grocery for her living room. Later when she couldn't get out, and also for the 2 years she was bedridden in my home, I always had one or 2 bouquets in her room. One little thing I did was to put a tiny vase on her food tray with one little flower from my garden in it. When it was too cold for flowers I would use another decoration or a silk flower on the food tray.
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Must admit that when the wind gets really strong, I get a little afraid as it whistles through any cracks or the tall trees blow back and forth. Add that to the news reports, and I am getting worried. So I went to pick up my dH, even though he had his bike last night. Funny, the wind subsided by the time we got home, so he did not believe me how bad the wind was.

Gladimhere,
I believe you about the storm cyclones! Stay safe!
Is your kitty scared?
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FrazzledMama, I have a melodramatic mourner under my roof, my sig other.

When I first met him many moons ago, he would talk about dearly departed relatives. Did I learn about their childhood, their work, their spouses, their children, where they lived? No. All I learned about them was how they died, and the week prior to their passing.

Good grief, imaging spending decades and decades on this earth only to be remembered for the day they died :P
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FF, after going through the very rough 2yrs. with my mom and then her passing away, I found it helpful to go through old photos just to reinforce that the last 2 years were a very short time and not the whole story of my mom's life. It really helped to go through photos from all the years and see her smiling in them, with relatives, on vacations, etc. When mom was in the nursing home for rehab there was a bedridden lady in there who slept all the time. Next to this lady's room door her caregiver had put a photo of her young and in her wedding gown. Everyone passing her room door could immediately realize there was so much more to this lady's life, and all the people's lives in this nursing home. I think that is also why so many people put photo boards of their loved ones lives up during calling hours.
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I hate my mother. Oh yes, I love her, too. But she is NPD, and yesterday and today, the hate outweighs the love. I will not mourn her when the day comes... not soon enough. I will always mourn what she could have been had she not been NPD. So sad, and even sadder, I see one of my children headed down the same path. Again, last night I spent hours and hours reading how to fix NPD, and looked for a book to give to the NPD to fix themselves. It's a joke.... it doesn't exist, and wouldn't matter if it did. They are superior... they do not say I'm sorry, and one of the rare times, it was said, she didn't know what it meant, and had that blank, dear-in-the-light look. And one last whine, IIII am so sick of writing things about "I" and one day when all of this is over and III can return to my normal life, no one will ever hear me say "I" again because it will be all about others... again.
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I think it was in this tread that we were talking about the 2 part shingles shot? Oh boy,, hubs and I were able to get part two yesterday.. and boy do we hurt!! The first shot was no problem, but I was actually not able to sleep on that side last night. This sucker better work!
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Our latest screwy move.. Mom eats doughnuts, a box a week. The grocery store often puts them in the bag on their end and I don't catch it until I get home,, so we have a broken but still perfectly edible doughnut in the box. I have explained to mom this happens at the store.. but today she fired off a letter to the doughnut company.. about their selling broken doughnuts.. Tried to explain to her, then just figured.. Its not me! So off the letter will go.. She is convinced we will get a years worth of free doughnuts..
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Let us know if you get free donuts out of her letter! That is funny, at least. Our families can provide free entertainment. Can’t they? Haha
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Katie22, thank you.  I have been feeling blue all day.  My BIL died March 29, and my Aunt Rose the next day.  I spent a lot of time with her in Nursing Home and saw her smile during her 6-day 'coma'.  I knew she could hear for awhile.  Then life got busy, and I am still not done with all finances and paper work.  But today I just sat in the May weather that graced us for today, and remembered how awful this past winter has been for all of us here.  What a great idea to look at the pictures.  Rose lived with us 7 years, and was part of my life for decades.  Looking at the positive will help me get to sleep tonight.
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Ming and bomb cyclone? No, didn't scare her, in fact she loved chasing anything that would blow past the Windows. Picture the tornado in the Wizard of Oz. Hey that should be on this week, seems always around Easter.
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pamzimmrtt, Could you let us know in a week or so about your shingles' shots? I've had plenty of vaccines but that is the only one I am actually afraid of, that I would get a small case of shingles as a result.
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I sure will Myownlife. No problems with the first shot, so far just a really sore arm with this one, and a lump.
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Thanks, pam. I'm sorry it hurts. So far in my OLDDDD life :) only one vaccine has ever hurt.... the tetanus, and it hurts every time.
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Waiting on long list for my 2nd shingles shot.  First one needed an aspirin.  They underestimated how many of us believe in vaccines.  I wonder if it's because kids our age got polio, and other disabling diseases that can be prevented now.  I'd rather have a sore arm!
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Today I could whine about my dog eating one of my warm, lined, leather gloves.  Last night I was mad, but now I see it as a sign that snow shoveling is over!
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Delicious! 🐶
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By all means everyone get the 2 part shingles vaccines if you can. I have heard that at certain times in parts of the country they may not be available due to a shortage but that problem eventually gets solved.

We have a friend who has had a severe case of shingles for over 6 months. The doctors say he will have permanent scarring and nerve damage. They have never seen a worse case. I am not trying to scare anyone but rather hoping that those who can get the shots do. There is some soreness but nothing compared to the misery shingles brings.



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DH is having kidney stone surg on Thursday. Needed his cardio to sign off on dc/ing the blood thinners, pxing the short term Lovonex, etc.

Just so anxious about this whole procedure. good thoughts welcome.
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Just showed the empty bedroom here to 2 prospective new roomies. I need to follow through on my plans, get a 2nd roommate in here. It's fine, just nerve wracking to meet new people and wonder if I'm saying all the right things or not. It's a nice apartment and priced right. I guess that should speak for itself. More people coming tomorrow. I just get nervous! Idk why, really.
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Ali, just be careful in who you bring into your house.... I talked with someone today who had just completed the eviction process for a tenant in his home who had problems and created much chaos.
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Ali, I would get nervous too. It would be hard to select a roomie that you think will work, then could be completely different living with them. Out of high school I once lived in an apartment with two roomies. It was tough, they were very good friends and there were disagreements that always left me on the outs with them. Had to get police assistance to get my things out of there. Do you really need to find one more? How about someone with a job that takes them out of town frequently.
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Barb, I am wishing DH and You all the best on Thursday and for the recovery!
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Ali,
Recommend that you consider input from current roomie after you have narrowed down the choice to two prospective tenants. Not giving her the power to choose, but asking for her input on their suitability. Imagine how nervous a prospective tenant would feel.

I divided a house rental, and rented out 1/2 of the downstairs with two bedrooms, and was to get the other room rented. The tenant rejected anyone new, and later moved in a person secretly, not paying rent. The person had a gun under the mattress on the floor.

They left when I gave the bill for the entire rent, increased the rent, and required a deposit with a new 6 month lease. I never confronted her.

Another idea would be to rent out the room to airbnb, temporary shared rentals, meet all kinds of people. You do have more than one bathroom?
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My whine is that the tone of the forum seems to have shifted, a lot of the responses are harshly judgmental and intolerant, or maybe it's just me?
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Willie, the only problem with that statement is where a person is coming from with their perspective cause I have personally been accused of being judgemental when all I was doing was praising my mom. Certain people on here took that to mean I was judging them for complaining about their parents which I wasn't.

In fact I felt judged by them. So like I said I guess it all depends on what a persons personal perspective is. People have a tendency to project.

Other than that things are pretty much the same as always on here IMO.

I say this with love.
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IDK Gershun, reading some threads feels like witnessing a feeding frenzy in the shark tank with one negative comment after the other. I know that one of my faults is that I can be too quick to judge so I try to be mindful and give people the benefit of the doubt.... maybe I'm feeling that now that I'm no longer a caregiver I'm not relevant.
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