I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
If anyone on here has made you feel like you're not that isn't good.
People on here who have not yet gone through the last days and death of their loved ones definitely need our perspective for sure.
You just ignore the haters Willie. That's what I try to do. Some days are easier than others.
You are exactly right-about the tone of the forum shifting to a judgmental attitude.
I have noticed it too, but do not know what to do about it except to stop posting just before a full moon, when behaviors (especially bipolar) may escalate and the likelihood of being attacked is higher.
You are not irrelevant! Some of your advice to others has personally affected me and will forever.
Keep on fighting the good fight!
Gershun, you are not wrong. Haters are going to hate, sometimes that is harder to ignore when they are coming after me.
Especially, us oldtimers should be able to recognize and ignore the cruelty that seems to be present. Just keep it tame and understanding. If you find threads absurd and unbelievable just leave them alone. Please. The negativity is overwhelming.
Gershun, I think it is wonderful that you and your mom had a great relationship. Just because my mother and I don't doesn't mean that should be that way for everybody else. You have given me hope.
AC has been a lifeline to me just when I thought no one would ever understand what I was going through or that I would never get answers to my questions I some how found this forum. I think God knew I was at my breaking point. Now, I can read other people's questions that help me with my own decisions that I have to make. But also, it prepares me (as much as it can) for what is coming down the road. I also can just vent when I need to. I really try not to be mean or negative just 'matter of fact,' and supportive.
My point is that this forum needs all of you. All of your collective wisdom is how this place works!
Hugs to each one of you! 💘
And you are a hero in your own right!
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Thanks, everyone, for your input about my roomie hunt. I've had a few people come by. The only one so far that wants the room is someone I wouldn't want in here. She smelled funny, like she was badly in need of a shower, or she was a drug user, or *something.* It's too bad, as she seemed like a nice young woman but I won't be renting to anyone that seems remotely unstable, no thanks, not happening. It's only been 4 people total to come by so far, and I just need to keep looking for the right fit.
My current roommate, R, is accommodating to whoever I choose. I've talked with her a few times about her preferences, but she's even more open minded than I am about all this. I'm picky, R not so much. lol
I *ask* for "female grad student" in my ad, but really, anyone sane, normal, and gainfully employed would work. There's a young man, actually, who I just texted and asked him if I made the room available NOW, would he want it. He's just moved to Chicago from Ohio, and just started a new job, and he's a young gay man and he'd be a fine roommate. I want another female grad student but I'm learning that I'd better just take the first sane, stable person who wants it. lol
I have to get up early and there's been a helicopter hovering overhead for 30 minutes
and, what's up with all these electric scooters ?
aside from folks looking out of control when riding them on the sidewalk - they abandon them in any place they stop
When I found AC, I was googling how to take care of 2 bedridden parents. AC was my lifesaver. I learned to accept a lot of things. I found a thread discussion that became my favorite. I was always nice to the posters there. Then one day, several attacked me. I saw so many 'likes' those attackers' comments. I grew up taking abuses from my family and school and didn't fight back. Here I was an adult, going through it again. So many of my AC friends private messaged me to just ignore it, walk away. I refused. Sometimes, when you spent most of your life being beaten down, every day - in school (bullies would beat me up after school and I came home crying) or at home - you come to a point as an adult. Do I cringe and slink away as my normal MO? Or do I stay and suck up to them? Or do I finally stand up for myself. And everybody wanted me to walk away. I couldn't. I finally grew a backbone and stood my ground. And yes, they were right. It got worse. I even pm another poster to please back off and don't defend me. I wanted to fight my own battle (because I never did growing up.) Once I did, I walked away.
And I got attacked again, in another thread, which is the one I consider my 'home' thread - where I feel the most comfortable in... This time, I recall some of my AC friends actually posted subtle supports for me publicly. sigh... One needs to be subtle here on AC. Otherwise it would just escalate the 'drama'. {{eyes rolling}}
these are not three wheel mobility scooters but rather skateboard things with a handlebar
Thanks to you all for the good thoughts and prayers.