I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Go for pizza if you want. But, don't feel you have to. Do you attend a church? Are there any community egg hunts? Do what you want on Sunday.
I am thinking that I will buy a small ham, just me size, asparagus, maybe make a meringue to serve with some fresh strawberries, parboiled browned potatoes.
But if you want to see them all anyway, how about taking a packed lunch? You might still be bored and irritated by the chaos but at least you won't be hungry as well!
I'm the one who moved back to our home town and away from everyone else. (my bad🙄) The distance for oldest nephew and family is only a little greater but in a slightly different direction so they can't really do both at once, plus youngest nephew doesn't drive so needs to beg a ride. It could all work out if I just jumped in and assumed the mantle of family matriarch and hosted. (once again, why am I supposed to always be the responsible one, I'm the youngest)
As I said before, my mother has several mobility issues, and refuses to use a walker and/or cane. She uses any avaliable arm. And today, she is adamant on doing the traditional Good Friday dish for the whole family. And since "your father gets nervous and shouts at me", I am the one who goes with her to the kitchen, getting the ingredients while worrying about her leaning on the stove, one ingredient, one complain about pain. I went to get a can of something and open it, returned to see her CLEANING THE LIGHTED FIRE STOVE WITH A PAPER TOWEL, and throwing the thing on fire on the floor, while wearing a large, long night gown. I started to say something, she cut me, saying it was the only thing she could reach, and for me don't be like my father, let she do what she wants, this could be the last time she cooks for our Easter, blah, blah, blah. So, I am not allowed to say anything, even suggest another, easier way to do things.
After that, she made a point to set the table, I try to give her the tableware fast, worried about she leaning on the glass table, she asks why I am nervous, if I am going to do things that way is better for me to go seat and let her alone.
Now I am having some un-christian thoughts. She asks me to warn her the time, because "I'll have a shower at such-such hour". And I am thinking "Please spend four-five hours doing it!"
But I must understand her side, there's very few things she can do now. Well, have a great Easter to those who celebrate it, and a great weekend to everybody else.
5 new residents landed at hoca - guess families want a happy Easter
poor nurse was ready to collapse - one hadn't had a shower in months; another accused everyone of taking her money and was wandering the halls
it was not a fun Friday night fiesta
I did stop her from baking a huge cake for 15 people as she always does, (we will be 4 people and one won't eat dessert), because I have made it a tradition to bring a bunny cake for the last 3 years. I will put on a pound or two, but at least there won't be that huge tasteless cake....
Happy Easter everyone, and also happy Passover!
Thus, I could see a draw back where Medicaid paid nursing homes becomes limited [due to State budget cutbacks] when a grown child can no longer take care of a parent and needs the help of a village in a nursing home. That universal income would not pay for 3 shifts of caregivers coming to one's house. Here in my area, 3-shifts of caregivers can cost $20,000 a month.
I wish there was some way to help level the paying field. Grown children who quit work are losing on average $350k during those years of caring for a parent. This cost includes the net cost paid by a company who offers health insurance, matching 401(k), profit sharing, paid vacation days, paid sick days, etc.
In my parent's case, they were frugal all of their lives being teenagers of the Great Depression. It was amazing how much they had in savings, stocks, bonds, etc. with just Dad's income. But they did it. Of course it was easier to save back then, as there weren't all these extra cost of new technology. And my folks survived with just one car as we were near a city bus route. Etc. Etc. Etc.
I didn't realize the cost of growing old here in the States until my parents needed caregivers, Independent Living, Assisted Living/Memory Care, and long-term-care. Thus I look at my retirement fund that I was going to use to travel, etc. and now I am holding those funds hostage for my own old age :P
spent a good hour trying to dispute a charge from hoca's RX provider -
the Viking has been off risperdal since Jan but pharmacy tried to deliver and charge - wrong Doctor, wrong dosage listed on invoice -
provider said it would stay as active on her profile until cancelled by her physician - never mind her primary didn't prescribe to begin with but now they want him to cancel it -
I understand mistakes but non sense like this gets my Viking up
Put it in writing that you will be reporting Medicare fraud. Let them handle it.
I feel the same way about our telephone and internet provider. I once contacted the utilities commission about their errors, and ~they~ cancelled it! Still issues years later. I get so upset that I will no longer call them
Grrrrrrr!
This story takes the cake: Several years ago my dad got a 42 cent bill from the cable company....my dad died 25 years ago and that account had been closed back then at a different address than mom lived!!! It took me 2 months and stamps worth way more than the 42 cents to get them to understand that the account was closed 25 years ago. Unreal!!
I could teach a rodent to go through a maze for cheese faster than most of these people can function......
katie - that's crazy.
I am whining about things falling apart - the two kitchen appliances and now my computer. Too many hours being spend trying to sort it out, and ph*t*bucket's new limits. Downloading albums, renaming, and trying to figure out where to store them now. Not on my external hard drive, as I originally planned, as I only have one working port! Can anyone recommend good online storage? I think I need a bubble bath 🛀 and a novel to recover. Chocolate wouldn't hurt either.
Hubs recommends the cloud.
DROPBOX is free.
Before you sign up, get a referral from a friend to receive an extra amount of free storage for you and a friend. You will need to provide your friend with your e-mail.
Amazon AWS is cloud storage, not free but cheap, hubs says it is hard to use.
These are recommendations by tech experts like Leo LaPorte, Adam Curry, John C. Dvorak, Kevin Norton (in the U.S.).
Other options include moving files to a thumb drive or a DVD.
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That can expand one port into four ports.
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So I am here, back at her house, had to abandom everything on my house/part of my job.
But she is fine. Is looking like a MMA fighter, but is fine
coyote - ouch. No fun. You need a break.
I tried liquid Ivory soap, was excited to try it only to be disappointed that it didn't smell like the Ivory soap bar, in fact the liquid smelled terrible to me :P
Any ideas on something that smells clean and fresh?
I've only been seeing her for about six weeks. Several weeks ago she told me she's leaving the counseling center. Today is my last appointment with her. :0/ I'm not sure I want to go through the process of "breaking in" a new therapist.
Ask her who she recommends for you to continue therapy just in case you want to continue seeing someone. Better than having to start researching again for someone.
Sorry she is leaving since she turned out to be a good fit for your needs.
Pam, so glad you mentioned that soaps that have moisturizers can cause the tub/shower floor to be slippery. I noticed that happening with the hair conditioners that contain oils. Even with a bath mat I feel like I need ice skates :P