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Ah Worried, I've learned to distrust anyone who does you those kind of favours on the road, too often the results are like yours. That driver should have never waved you on when they should have seen better than you that there was traffic approaching from the other direction, IMO he was just as at fault as you.
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Sorry about the accident, Cali. I’m glad no one was hurt. Your husband will get over his anger. Hugs!

Don’t be too upset with yourself. It was an accident. You aren’t a bad driver.
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worriedinCA - I'm sorry you had a car accident. You probably still feel shaken up. Do you have full insurance coverage? If so, it will take care of the other driver's car as well as yours. Do you think the damage to your car can be fixed or will the cost be more than the car's worth?

When I had my car accident (my fault, too) about 4 years ago, the damage to the car was too much, so the insurance took it and paid me the FMV for the car. It was enough for me to buy a used van, and still had some money left over. I was thrilled because we finally had a van for more space for the kids, and put away some money into savings. So, there was some good that came out of the accident. I hope there will be a silver lining for you, too.
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Worried -

1. Nobody hurt! Nothing else really matters.
2. You know what happened and what went wrong, lesson learned, you'll never do that again. Next best thing to its not having happened at all.

What did your MIL ever say when somebody had a bump? Even if she wasn't always totally sympathetic, I doubt if she'd want you to beat yourself up indefinitely. These things happen :)
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I hate when the cool weather rolls around my 90 year old mom who is healthy and pretty sharp which I totally am grateful for she gets crazy with the heat she lives with us and has her own apartment attached to our house but the heat is controlled by our house I get that she gets cold but it's only Oct. and by the way she only has 3 rooms and is set at 73 what really bothers me is that she won't put on additional clothing like a sweat jacket she wears a very thin shawl and not to mention she also has an electric fireplace and an electric shawl that she doesn't put on or wear I keep telling her to start dressing warmer and to use the electric it's much cheaper than using the propane gas I can't comprehend that logic and refuses also at night to keep the electric blanket on low I totally understand your body gets colder when you get older but really try to help yourself i'm just venting
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Thanks all! Yes I’m definitely shaken up. Doing better today but still mad at myself.

CM I’m sure MIL is sitting on her cloud giving me THE LOOK. I can totally see her face, she gave that look many times over the years!

Polarbear, yes we have full coverage on the car. It’s a 2017 model so I don’t think the cost of repairing will exceed the value of the car but we will soon find out! For a low impact collision, the front end is really smashed up. I called the insurance last night and filed a claim. Found out our deductible is only $250. It’s always been $500. Hubby must have changed the coverage which explains why the monthly premium is so high! I just noticed it’s $230 a month, I don’t recall it ever exceeding $180. (We have 3 cars on the policy).
That was definitely something good that came out of your accident! I don’t think we will be that lucky, if the car ends up being totaled out, I think it’s worth $17k at most? It was in perfect condition except for the shattered mirror. I wouldn’t mind getting a used SUV, with 2 kids in sports it would be nice to have extra room for all their equipment.

Cwillie, yep it’s a lesson learned for sure. I won’t make this mistake again and I’ll think twice about being the courtesy driver who waves others through. I mean I will still do it but I won’t wave until I can see that traffic is clear and it’s safe for the other car to go. I keep thinking to all the times someone has waved me through or I’ve waved them through, and not given a second thought about whether traffic was clear!
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Worried, the "crumple zone" worked, then! They're designed to scrunch up and absorb impact so that the forces don't get transferred to the important bit of the car where people sit. It looks terrible, but it is what's supposed to happen :)

At least this time MIL had something to give you The Look for?!?!?! - better than not knowing what you've done this time 😟
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So cal wildfire season

utilities are cutting power as a precaution against wind
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Tweety bird is not going to like it if the fire smells get too close.

Not sure which scares me the most, EQ, wind, or fire....

In a power outage, I would be so grateful to own an RV.
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It's 7:45 but I've had enough of this day, I'm going to bed. ☹️
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Goodnight cwille.
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Sorry y'all will miss Madame Secretary/Madame President, Sun. nights.
Ginger cookies too.
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i get agitated sometimes driving past our detectives offices . theres usually 2 personal trucks that the detectives own and precious little appears to be going on .
i envision them in there watching youtube funny cat videos . it isnt true though . the cases they are preparing often have tens to hundreds of thousands of pages of documents when its time to go to trial .
they are dedicated , brilliant , and hard working people - we just arent in a position to know whats going on .
i trust them but it isnt a default frame of mind . its a constant struggle to right my skeptical ' weak moments of doubt ' .
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Hang in there, Captain. Sounds like you have faith to me. Normal for doubts to pop up every now and then. It isn’t always in our best interest to get caught up in the ‘What if’s?’

If I could change anything in my life I would erase many of the ‘what if?’ moments because they created more anxiety than I needed in my life.

My whine moment is that I woke up in the wee hours of the morning with a hellish nightmare. It’s almost like a haunting experience.

It always amazes me how our subconscious mind works while we are sleeping.

My husband says if I spoke to a dream annalist they would be totally baffled. I’ve had some bizarre dreams that I don’t know if they could easily be interpreted. Some say that our dreams are messages or our subconscious trying to work it out, especially lucid dreams which I do have. Not sure how I feel.

My husband is one who doesn’t even remember his dreams upon awakening so he can’t truly relate to what I feel. That’s interesting to me also, how some are able to vividly recall their dreams and others cannot.

Our subconscious minds are fascinating to me. Some even feel dreams are premonitions. We can have strong premonitions any time though.

Once while traveling through New England I asked my husband to drive down this beautiful winding road. He asked me why. I told him I didn’t know why but I knew that I had to see where it led.

You have to understand that my husband is a ‘decisive planner’. He’s an engineer. He sees things in black and white. He drives with a direction in mind and follows a map!

I am not at all like that. I tend to fly by the seat of my pants. I see gray areas. I am an explorer at heart. Anyway, he reluctantly took the detour for me. It led to an amazing sight just at the foot of Mount Washington in New Hampshire where we found our favorite bed and breakfast.

Hahaha. Sometimes my annoying ways with my husband pays off. They say that opposites attract. I’d like to think we balance each other. His logic has grounded me at times and my carefree nature has allowed him to be more flexible when needed.
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strangely . when were having the most intense dreams we are in the deepest stages of our sleep cycle . hard to believe one could be battling dragons and getting the most beneficial rest at the same time .
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i sure had a funny one here while back . some cops were getting lectur - ey with me about some pills . i said " just arrest me , im not into your yap" .
a cute girl cop said she would do that , turned her behind towards me and told me i could even get the cuffs off the back of her belt . this started smacking of a dream so i chose to slow down time and play it out . my oldest son was there and sternly told me to " just get the damn cuffs " . i told him to totally fk off with his ' moment sullying BS .
guys such a buzz kill .
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Captain,

Yeah, sleep behavior is interesting. I have been known to sleep walk some. Freaked my husband out! Hahaha

Of course, I didn’t remember any of it. He travels with work. Early in our marriage we rented a two story apartment and he would fear that he’d come home to me crashed at the foot of the stairs.

He said my eyes would be wide open. I looked totally awake but did not answer him speaking to me and he realized that I was sound asleep, then suddenly would turn back towards the bedroom and get back in bed.

Don’t know how long I have experienced sleepwalking but as a teenager my mom placed extra locks on the doors. Hahaha.

You know how they say not to wake them because the sleepwalker will be startled? That’s true. Once I was in my kitchen and there wasn’t air conditioning in my parent’s home them. We only had a window fan in the kitchen. I was raising my arm and the tip of my finger hit the blade of the fan and woke me up. I didn’t know how the hell I got there or why I was there. I turned around to look at the clock and it was 3:00 in the morning. That was the only time that I awoke myself during sleep walking. What causes up to walk during sleep? I’ll have to research it.
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Captain,

Hahaha. You and I should keep dreaming journals!

One time when my daughter was an infant I had a dream that I was breast feeding my daughter and instead of milk she was drinking coffee with milk. Hahaha. My husband said, “Okay, that’s an easy one. You’re a caffeine junkie!”

I cut back on the coffee! Actually I gave up coffee during the pregnancy all together but my little stinker didn’t sleep well at night so I needed a jolt of caffeine to stay awake to care for her!
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A hotel (Hard Rock) being built here in New Orleans has collapsed. So horrible! It’s on our local news right now. Unfortunately, deaths occurred at the construction site and one person has not been located yet.

It’s a challenge to find him because of the danger of the building collapsing again. So sad. Search and rescue are trying to figure out how to get to the construction worker.
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i enjoy wild dreaming . im always in character so it tells me that i know who i am and that i approve .
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Lord, we have a second boil water advisory here in New Orleans. We have crappy drinking water here. I buy bottled water. Hate having to buy water. Are bottled waters regulated closely enough?

What states have good quality drinking water?
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NC water is safe to drink
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my town is google renowned for polluted wells . ( dry cleaning solvents ) . im not about to drink the sht . i switched to rainwater off the roof .
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Nasty crap in water! Ours isn’t good at all. Yuck!

Dry cleaning solvents. That’s awful.
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the town near me has to drill new wells . they will be charging about 150 a month for water and sewage soon . people are drinking toxic sludge and being robbed to do so . -- well , the dumb ones are . out here in the hills we have a tendacy to think for ourselves .
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Okay, wheels are turning in my head about the tragedy in our city right now. Hard Rock Hotel site is live on television right now. It’s just so sad.

The hotel was under construction and unfortunately collapsed. Sadly, deaths have occurred and one construction worker is missing. Search and rescue are desperately trying to find him. It’s dangerous because they don’t want to risk another collapse.

How do these buildings collapse? Engineering issues? Builders issue? They had a question about the concrete. Just a mystery at the moment.

Right now the engineers are working on a plan to secure the building? The construction company could not be reached for comments. Man, what a tragedy.
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when indiana was busting unions , union wages , and sht canning prevailing wage laws in our state a few years ago , i remember a big construction company ( wilhelm ) appealing to the state representatives . their message was ; we dont necessarily want 9 dollar an hour kids on our dangerous jobs .
of course they were ignored .
when youre paying 30 bucks an hour you can demand high standards .
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these engineers .
im working on a 150 foot long shop building and the engineers couldnt seem to make it work ' block ' .
my math is so poor i get a different answer every time i count my balls but i've never had a problem making something fall on either 8 or 16 inches. its , kinda , denoted right there on the tape measure .
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Captain,

My grandfather was a shipbuilder. I know there is a difference between building a ship and the construction of a hotel.

He was a true craftsman though. He could build anything. I agree with you. Indeed qualified individuals make all the difference.
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NeedHelpWithMom, have you ever watched The Craftsman's Legacy?  It's carried on one of the PBS channels, and addresses those people who like your father are true craftspeople, true artisans working with their hands.   

Thus far I've seen episodes featuring a canoe builder, basket weaver, metallurgist, saddle and hat makers, Windsor chair builder, weaver, quilter, and more that I can't remember.  Oh, yes, chocolate makers!  How could I forget chocolate?
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