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Nikoleta987, unless you are going out and about and are exposing yourself to people who don't social distance multiple times a day you don't really need to be so obsessive about washing and sanitizing. Gloves can be a good alternative to constant hand washing in that case, just remember that the gloves are as dirty as your bare hands so don't touch your face!
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My "whine moment " today!!
This seems to be the only place I can totally let it all out!
The last 2 years have totally drained me!!
Lost my Dad, my dog, my good friend to an asthma attack of all things, my brother to suicide and my precious Uncle.
I have unexpectedly become responsible for my Aunt and now my mother .
Diagnosed with colon cancer 3 weeks ago. Screw up with my colonoscopy. Site of malignancy wasn't tattooed so Surgeon has no marker to go by. So I'm "prepping " again tonight for a flex sig tomorrow. I have no answers!!
My Mom is playing the quilt card because I have only gone 3 times to talk to her thru the window at her ALF while she is suffering thru quarantine. I call her twice a day every day!
My Aunts dementia is spiraling down fast and there's nothing I can do to help. She's wanting to call movers to take her and her belongings home! The saving grace is that she forgets the thought moments after it pops into her head.
To top it off, my hubby cracked "a joke" about the lack of sex!! Maybe TMI, but come on!! Really??
I know that some of you have things so much worse!!
Do you ever just want to get in your car and drive away??
My apologies for my little pity party!! But it does feel better to write it out and Hopefully let it go!!
God bless you all!!
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Jodi (((hugs)))
Yes I do want to get in my car & just drive away sometimes too! I am planning a walk in the hills or along a creek now that some restrictions have eased. Friluftsliv from Scandinavia. It's a concept I came across & have embraced. Also listening to forest birdsong for a bit of relax-time out, but John Denver works too! What happy music would you drive off to?
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Beatty,
Tom Petty "Free Falling "!
John Denver sounds good too!!
I would pop the top on my Wrangler. Sun on my face and the wind is my hair!!
Thanks!!:)
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xray ((((((((((hugs)))))))) Too much. Time to put you first! Going outside into nature helps. It's good for you. Take the time. 🌲🌳🌴
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This isn't a caregiving whine, it's hardly even a whine at all but...
I went to the grocery store this morning and took the opportunity to swing through the Tim's drive through on the way home and of course there was a big line up out onto the street. I was making a right but there was a woman who had been waiting to make a left who had obviously been waiting a while when space opened up I waited for her to go ahead of me, then some POS whipped around me and ahead of both of us. I've been reading of all the wonderful selfless acts of ordinary people but in real life I keep encountering people like the one today - what the h3ll is wrong with people?
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Sigh! What do I do with 6 jumbo romaine hearts. I ordered 3 regular ones. Anyone have some interesting recipes for romaine other than salads?

Romaine soup?
Romaine stir fry?
Roasted romaine?

At least it's not onions. One lady on f b ordered 3 onions and got 3 bags of onions. She was weeping as she prepped 3 bags of onion for freezing. The tears were partly from the onions and partly from frustration.
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Well Golden I love salad,, but that's a lot! You can use them as wraps for sandwitch fillings, or grill them as a side dish. Roll them up tight and have them with dip? Shred them and use them as a base for stir fry instead of rice ( I hate rice) ? Shred them and have sloppy joe over them? See,, Us vegie lovers can come up with lots of uses!!
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OMG I am aching! DD got a new headboard to make more room in her condo bedroom,, so hubs put it together for her, and moved her HUGE sleigh bed into her living room. We told her not to sell it, we would store it for her in case she buys a full size home someday. Mom has a huge bedroom, so today hubs and I decided to bring home the sleigh bed, and put it in moms room,, easier to store her headboard. Well this turned into a comedy routine!! He brought it home,, we managed to wrestle it into the house. I could barely lift the base onto the deck,, hubs yelling I need to see a Dr if its that bad. Me yelling I HAVE!! I need a knee replacement and I am in my 60s! Why the heck do you think I have FMLA at work!! He gets apologetic.. He just hates to see I am no longer 40! He gets the headboard and slats upstairs,, then gets the dang base to the stairs ( I swear it weighs a thousand lbs) Up it went..not easy. He gets the bed together,, we get it dusted,, and put the box spring in.. opps we forgot the slats! Now we are both laughing! Off go the box spring.. finally get it done and made. She better love it! It really does look great though. and its no higher than her old bed. Hopefully I can walk at work the next 2 days!
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Oh Pam. That was a lot of work. Mum better like it!!!

Found recipes for grilled romaine, stir fried romaine, romaine soup. The grilled recipe looked good. I love a big salad so I will be having lots of those and I do like lettuce wraps. I may offer some to dd and family.

ETA - working on the first one. Chopped one up and added an Asian Sesame dressing. It's good but I won't finish it tonight. I foresee salad with my scrambled eggs in the morning. 🥗
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My BIL uses romaine lettuce instead of spinach in his spaghetti sauce, I suppose it would work for any other kind of dish you would put spinach in too. Or maybe you could share just it with your DD?
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Made blueberry jam and it did not thicken. Waaahhhh!

I guess I can use it for ice cream topping and make a blueberry ginger pie.

I just wanted to have blueberry jam readily available for the next few months. Drats! Now I have to start over.
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Isthisrealyreal,
Depending on how much blueberry jam you made, you could fix it by adding more pectin and sugar. I would check it out on Google to see how you can correct it. I love blueberry jam, yummy.
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Some jams also take a while to set, so maybe it needs more time?
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Thanks for the ideas.

I am not sure what went wrong, I think I may have added to much lemon. Not sure why it didn't set up.

I have never had any luck improving the results, so I think I will start over and use what I have for other things.

I don't like the idea of uncanning 4 quarts of jam. To much additional work to be honest. We are already in the 100s and canning is so hot, I think I will wait until next weekend to tackle another try.
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I came home from work tonight.. first problem.. LOL.. we buy Moms wine by the case. 4 bottles at a time,, 2 glasses a night.. lasts a long time. She comes up and tells me we need to start buying 1 bottle at a time. She is always wanting tons of back up "everything".. soap, TP.. you name it. So this is weird and I ask her why? "Because I may not be alive to drink it all".. WTH?? Why do you think that I ask? She thinks she has gout.. her toe is warm but not red.. "Mom,, no one has ever died from some gout in their toe these days" I will call the Dr on Monday, see if they can get you a prescription again.. Its a pity party here !! She says she knows that.. No other issues.. If I can't get her out of the house to socialize soon I'm going to shoot myself! I know she is feeling useless and misses my Aunt.. but getting her to do anything is hard. 2 nights ago she "dropped"her cig and fell from the couch onto the floor trying to find it. She was fine, we got her up,, could not find the cig.. hubs found it stuck to the back of her bathrobe.. yet another big burn hole.. I now buy her bathrobes at second hand stores! Next day she says she laid there for 30 minutes yelling for us,, try 5 minutes! We are terrified that she will burn the dang house down! We cant get her to listen, so I am about ready to hire another CG to "visit" with her .
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Pam,
Any chance you can get Mom to switch to vaping??
At least you wouldn't have to worry about her burning the house down!
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At least you still have hair :(
I seem to be losing more than ever,
I do not wash hair only 2 times a week.. I want to keep what i have.... and this doesn't seem to work either... Guess I should have kept my aunt's hats... She made so many fun ones...
I will sport by brother and dad's style..... bald.... , spotted.. or whatever you want to call it... Maybe spray it, and add yarn to it?
I even told my daughter I wanted a son so I don't have to bother with hair. Yup.. I am not a hair dresser... or stylist.... That went well with her... So now, she will not allow me to attempt anything that has to do with her hair... as a kid,,, pigtails was my go to style for her... :-
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Pam...I had a friend who had a party and the cig fell in the couch... Well, they stuck the couch outside on the lawn.. Next morning, the couch was pretty much gone,,, burned... Good thing that they moved it outside.

My cousin's mom was on oxygen,,, fell asleep with cigarette... cousin lost her house basically... They got out ok... They finally put ma in a nursing/assisted living place... She lost both legs to bad circulation due to smoking.... and a kid was visiting his grandma at same facility... Kid said that lady doesn't have legs....
well my aunt didn't want to be known as the lady with no legs,, so she had her hairdresser dye her hair purple... IT WORKED!!! She was then known as the lady with purple hair.... :) She was a sweetie....
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My SO never goes to bed until 4 am and because I usually go to bed by 2 or 2:30 if I don't get to sleep right away I end up sleeping too late. I bought headphones for him but they are not compatible with his TV. I still work part time so I can't always sleep late. I reminded him about the melatonin but I can't make him take it. It's starting to irritate me because he falls asleep in the chair on & off all day and night but yet is wide awake when I need to sleep.
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Mayday my hair is falling out too, and breaking off, I am trying Biotin gummies.
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My major whine. My wonderful boss of the past 11 years died from the C-19 virus, all within one week :((

I am heartbroken.... and I am angry. Angry because this could have been prevented if only he paid attention. He refused to stay home, was out and about as he didn't like staying home. He refused to wear a mask in public. And forget about hand washing, he felt his leather gloves were good enough.

He knew something wasn't right when he pulled up to the golf course for tee time and he was too exhausted to get out of his vehicle. He had digital face-time with his doctor, and the doctor said it was pollen allergy and prescribe some meds.

I remember my boss wanted me to come back to work three weeks ago, as I was working from home. Work was extremely slow due to the virus. I dug in my heels and said "no". Told him I was listening to the scientists, to which he said "they don't know what they are talking about". I heard other sound bites that sounded all to familiar. Ah, I knew where he was getting his "information".

Sadly there is no do over, compared to other illnesses when one usually gets better and learns from it. The C-19 virus will grab you and not let go as almost 100,000 lost souls have found out. We all though he could fight it, but we were sadly wrong.

What a sad loss.
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ff - I'm so very sorry. I certainly understand your grief and anger. His death was preventable - by him. (((((((hugs)))))
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Oh FF I am so sorry!
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FF so sorry for your loss. How old was he and did he have any underlying conditions?
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FF - I’m so sorry to hear about your boss. You two go back a long way. Such sad news.
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FF I am so very sorry.
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FF, I am so sorry for your loss. And very glad you dug in your heels in when he asked you to come back to work.
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Finally having a meltdown!!
The last 7 months have been Hell!! Just about the time I was getting a handle on the fact that I am now responsible for my Aunt and my Mother, I was diagnosed with colon cancer.
Yesterday I actually got good news! The colorectal surgeon says looks like they got all the cancer! No further treatment at this point. Just repeat colonoscopy and biopsies in 3 months.
Totally happy, but tonight I couldn't wait for my hubby to go to bed so I could just bawl.
I am freaked out, tired, angry, overwhelmed and outright confused.
I know I need to let it all out (hence this post), but it's so hard when you feel like you need to hold it together for the sake of our LOs.
I'm truly grateful for this thread and all of you!!
Where else could we go to emote!!
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((((((( hugs))))))) xray! Great news about the cancer! Nothing like a good cry to cleanse the spirit. Sleep well.
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