I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I absolutely don't like yelling but she can't hear anything without my yelling and repeating at least 3 times.... then she gets mad at my yelling and misunderstands what is said and gets mad because she thinks I am saying something totally different and gets offended.
And THEN I made the mistake of yawning loudly, so Mom gets up in a huff with her walker and mutters all the way back to get ready for bed. That thing about caregivers not outlasting the person they care for..... tonight I am just tired and can't laugh anything off, and feel "done".
mom used get so annoyed because he always has the TV BLASTING! every time she said something, he thought she said something entirely different because he can’t hear. If she yells, he gets mad and says “you don’t have to yell”. When he mishears her, he gets mad because because he apparently hears her nagging or say something offensive to him? Either way she can’t win!
She used to say he wouldn’t admit he needed hearing aids. Then when he did admit it, he refused to get hearing aids! Well guess who needs them know and won’t admit it? And won’t get them? my mother! Shes not bad with the TV yet but she doesn’t hear me at sometimes and when she does head me, she hears me wrong! My dad finally got hearing aids but won’t wear them regularly....but it’s better than nothing. And now my mom can’t hear! So I feel ya. Tired of the selfishness!
Apparently, in our province anyway, it's a bad year for ticks (or good depending on your perspective). I guess my walks in grassy treed areas are going to be replaced by pavement walking for now. I have lived here 40+ years and walked in and beside the bush without an encounter that I am aware of. But being a bad year and having found one in the house I think it is prudent to be careful.
cw - I did check the kitties and haven't found anything but will need to check regularly as they are in and out all day. Pumpkin is not quite her usual bouncy self today Fortunately they don't go in the bush across the street which would increase their chances of picking one up. As if covid wasn't enough -sigh!
And I found out I am allergic to a brand of kitty litter we are using. Thankful it accounts for the bit of chest congestion I have been having So I guess it is masks until I have disposed of it all and then crystal litter for both boxes.
I think you might be assuming this is a matter of pride and refusal to "look old." But there's a lot more to it than that.
My older cousin pointed out to me that putting your hearing aids in is better compared to turning on an incredibly bright light than to wearing glasses. These are amplifiers: they don't sharpen sound, they make it louder. If you've never worn hearing aids and you put them in, it's like somebody turning up the volume on your iPod - very uncomfortable, so uncomfortable that you aren't either able to hear whatever it is you wanted to listen to.
The solution is patient practice, becoming habituated to louder sounds once again, re-training your brain to process different sounds, working with a good audiologist or technician to adjust the aids' microprocessors. It takes ages. It's worthwhile, or at least I think so, because the benefits aren't limited to improved hearing: they're also associated with maintaining all kinds of good mental function and mental health. But do not underestimate how much work is involved.
I've never used hearing aids myself but surely $5K digital ones have come a long way from their predecessors, which were indeed simple amplifiers.
I did vow to get my hearing checked when I turned 55. Mm. I will! - just as soon as lockdown eases up... 😐
My whine today - found the basement flooded again this morning. The guys who mowed the lawn didn't put the downspout extension back in place and we have had some heavy rain. I am investigating hinged extensions which can be flipped up out of the way for lawn care. Sil came over and helped me move some stuff around and up off the floor.I borrowed an air purifier from them. The floors are pretty good now but I will do a final clean once things dry out more. I've done my share of mopping for a while. I need a break!
I have had some drainage problems too. No flooding in the basement but window wells that become aquariums. Buider blame landscape. Landscaper has put in corrugated pipe from downspouts to replace extensions. Still needs to come bury it and finish landscape. But the corrugated pipe seems to be working.
It's so hard to comprehend!!
Rhetorical question I know, but I am truly disheartened by the disturbed people that make their way here, only to spread their caustic rhetoric!!
Just want to say that you all(excluding the Martyrs) have helped me tremendously through this past 8 months!! Caregiving, regardless of how you're doing it, is life altering and stressful.
So a HUGE THANK YOU!!
I appreciate you all!!
We all need compassion ❤️. I think finding that place on the spectrum between martyr & charcoal is a hard, life changing experience. And very personal. Some folk have even found they could care for one relative (easy going frail) but not another (aggressive, lack of insight) & face guilt over this. Our own situation & health changes too.
Shake off the haters & dance 😀.
I sympathize. My hubs has several pics of me with my hand blocking my face so I get it.
Awwwe technology!
Ya gotta love it!! Lol
Just what you needed, more frustration!
I guess I am banned from the friendly neighbour club. A lady walking her dog stopped in front of the house to let him smell my junipers. I asked her not to let him pee there. She glared at me, yanked her dog off the bushes and strode down the street in a huff. Gosh, there is a wide green belt and forest across the street for them to go on. Maybe it's time to get out the ammonia bottle and mark the edge of my property. I kept away a bunch of cats that way years ago. They were "going" under the concrete stoop in front as the fill had settled and gave them access. I trickled ammonia around the property and they never came back. I think they figured a really BIG scary cat lived there. 😹
I don't have to worry about people walking there dogs cuz I live in the country. I do however have deer! They eat all the pretty stuff I plant.
Do you think that ammonia would keep the deer away from my hydrangeas? Is it safe for plants??
I've tried spoiled milk, vinegar and even a motion sensor skeleton dog that I found last fall. Lol
Nothing works!!
Guess maybe I am the unfriendly neighbor too! Lol
xray - deer are another problem. They used to eat one of my cedars every winter till we finally sawed of the lower branches so there was none they could reach. Since the fire in 2016 I haven't seen any thankfully. Never did find anything that worked with them though I didn't try the ammonia. In small amounts I don't think it hurts the soil -least it didn't when I used it. The Fish and Wildlife guys said put an old coat or something with human smell on the tree and that would keep deer away. I didn't as I figured the coat would disappear pretty quickly. 🤔
Now the anti-whine, Company C is a father and 3 sons operation keeping the boys busy in the summer, of which I approve, so I think I will stay with them. They will also do dump runs and generally be helpful if I need muscle Dad supervised the son and worked with him which was nice to see. The price was "What you want to pay." He's a good business man. I think (hope) I have a good resource here.
I thought I could just set one company up to do the work. Somehow I didn't think it would be that complicated. It seems to be all off the cuff up here.