I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Expected by whom? Do your father and ?brother actually ask you to do these tasks?
Um, actually it probably will.
He will get older & need more help: more cleaning, plus laundry, cooking, shopping, driving, appointments, medication management & the doozy, personal hygiene care.
Venting may be all you need for now? When you are ready to take Action, do it.
Like Dorothy, you have had the power all along to click your heels. You CAN change this.
That was my dad's favorite pie along with Lemon Meringue.
You probably feel like it takes longer to make the pie than to eat it!! :)
If you do want to change your situation, start a question & you never know, maybe some online support will help?
Your name is great. Just now made me wonder if you were a Bro whether the expectations for cleaning etc would be the same... 🤔
Many of us have dealt with this issue. It is so frustrating! It’s awful when people don’t do their jobs properly and you are carrying the heavy load. It certainly isn’t fair.
Take comfort in knowing that you are a competent worker. I sincerely hope that your hard work pays off in the end.
You know the truth and that is what matters the most. Unfortunately you cannot change how they feel. Of course you are fed up! Who wouldn’t be in your shoes?
Their opinion of you does not define who you are.
Such wise words. It’s a tough lesson to learn but very important.
I suppose it depends on the circumstances. If a coworker’s lazy work habits are going to effect business, then we may have to pick up the slack.
In any case, it’s extremely frustrating. We have all worked with some people who hustle while others drag their feet.
I hope when it comes time for a promotion the hustlers are recognized and the those dragging their feet are left behind.
The problems never end. Years ago I was in that situation myself.
My boss promoted me and my coworker was expecting the promotion because she had worked there the longest. She was furious and went to our boss and said that she deserved the position over me.
My boss calmly told her that I deserved it and that he expected her to work well with me. Of course, she didn’t. I had the authority to fire her, which is exactly what I did!
It’s interesting, how things work out. Even this woman’s husband told her that she deserved to be fired and that I earned the promotion by working hard.
Nhwm I am afraid my colleague is the friend/daughter or whatever of someone important for our company so I do not think it will change. I just hope she will get tired of this job an go away.
But tell me how you are, what happened with the hurricane?
It is 23.05 here in Italy... I am going to sleep as I get up at 6 a.m....
Read you tomorrow!
Un abbraccio
Sweet dreams! Hope you sleep well.
They have predicted a busy hurricane season and it certainly has been. The new one, ‘Delta’ is not supposed to be a direct hit. I’m hoping that it will not change course.
We will get lots of rain, most likely flooding. The good news is that this storm is fast moving which is good! The slower moving storms that intensify do a lot more damage.
I find most people don’t dress up much anymore. Everyone is casually dressed so people don’t need as many ‘dressy’ clothes.
After many trials, I found saline nasal & eye wash outs work for me. Cheap & simple remedy in high pollen season to get the evil out before my system goes into fight mode.
But dust is harder as it's everywhere! I use the antihistamines for bad days too.
Soldier on Barb, you have my sympathy!
Had my two level cervical fusion a week ago. I had to be readmitted to the hospital because my throat was swollen closed due to trauma.
I was unable to swallow anything! No pain meds or even my own saliva. Ugh!!
3 days inpatient, with steroids and fluids did wonders!!
Discharged Saturday and doing great!!
Thank you all for your (((hugs))) and prayers !!
Congrats on a successful surgery, and getting the aftercare you needed to feel better.
Hope it is a speedy recovery from here on out.
The allergies arrived here, and I have run out of Kleenex.
So, changing the clothes out of my closets too, there was some heavy dust on dH's pants. They are outside now, and I am still sneezing. Did not plan to wash that many clothes.
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I’ve been here about 35 minutes so far, looks like another 30 minutes to go. I waited through far longer wait times at doctors offices in the past!
Hoping you’re okay. Take care 💗.
Then with this toxic mold business I dealt with at my grandmother's house, that kicked off years of symptoms and reactions, too. I've been slowly getting much better over the past 3 years I've been out of the house.
I'm not feeling too lucky about rolling the dice with covid, although it's overwhelmingly a mild illness, per stats.
I don't want to be a spreader if I have it, and want to get a jump on treating it if necessary. It's going to be a long winter if every time I get a symptoms then I'm concerned about covid. But, what's the alternative? I'm upping my vit C and zinc to boost immune.
I'll get results in a couple days.
You are smart to get tested! You are caring about others for not wanting to spread it. I applaud you.
When I was caregiving, it was around the middle of 2012 and my muscles started getting really tight. I don't remember much from that year, and I missed Christmas for first time ever. I stayed in bed for months and I was having trouble walking and talking. And then all through 2013 was a very difficult year, and I didn't do much.
I'm not familiar with what GBS looks like in the body/brain. I used to say I thought I had some kind of nervous breakdown but I've wondered if it was GBS.
That's thankfully all in the past, but it seems I can get really severe and lingering reactions to things like EBV and mold. I really don't want to get any other virus, nothing else, ever!! lol I'm going to wrap myself in layers of bubble wrap, a moon walk suit. lol
But yeah, sigh, this winter is going to be interesting with the normal seasonal colds and allergies mixing in with covid cases. :-/
I had my flu shot already this year. I've never had a bad reaction to it, thankfully, but I know people who say it's made them ill.