I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Peace to you and your family.
Look after you! Her husband is not in charge of your life to tell you what to do. He sounds like a bully taking advantage of you. Only you can out an end to that. (((((hugs)))))
BrynLee - how did you end up taking care of your sister? When did she move from her place to yours? Under what circumstances?
My deepest sympathies and condolences. I'm so sorry to read about the passing of your cousin Nick. My thoughts are with you.
Dear BrynnLee,
I'm so sorry. Working night shift and caring for a loved one is very tough. I would try and engage a social worker or some community support. It's not fair to you. I know us women try to do it all, but it takes a toll. I hope would some other family members or friends would come forward to support you.
Barb, so sorry to read about your cousin. (((((hugs))))) He does sound very brave and realistic. I hope I could face a terminal situation with half the guts and pragmatism.
Maple, amazing how some can think they're experts because they read or heard something, and yet they haven't been in the trenches and wouldn't have a clue how to handle the reality of dementia daily care. It's easy to have all the answers if you don't know the first thing about it. lol It's maddening, I agree.
I'm back in school, back at the books. It's been a shock to the system. I'm planning my work-week (more like work-days, anymore) better around school requirements and I think that will help to keep the worst of the stress overload down but I have to start the work earlier and balance it out over more days. I was really wiped out this past month and enjoyed resting the past few weeks from school and hopefully am over my "burnout" stage.
I am taking some new supplements every day, some things suggested in this thread, actually, plus being more diligent about taking iron which has always been very low in blood tests. Some days are better than others for fatigue but I'm making it work. My reliance on sleep aids concerns me some but it helps my daily life. I feel much better after deep, long sleep and don't think I can get it on my own, not consistently.
No real problems here. :-) Just life stuff, and trying to be my own advocate for ongoing fatigue issues. It's hard because I'm not sure where to get any help besides Dr. Google. lol
Hope you all have a good week.
But, right now, I am so uncomfortable it is very hard to fall asleep and stay asleep. Last night got a good night's sleep, finally, with the help of three Tylenol PM.
I tried managing with occasional diphenhydramine OTCs for years but it wasn't getting it done. Now I take zolpidem every night and often add one Tylenol PM or a little Zzzquil on top of it if I'm not asleep within a couple of hours. Seems like a bit much to me but what can I say, it works and I'm less fatigued and irritable.
When I was working out regularly, my sleep improved a lot. But exercising every day vs taking a pill at night... one is definitely easier and less time consuming lol.
I see the zolpidem as temporary help while I'm in school. But school could go on for awhile and it's not recommended more than a few months at a time. It is what it is. I might be creating some problems for down the road but I'll deal with it when I get there. I've asked my docs often about foreseeable problems with continuing to take zolpidem but no one's said it's really that terrible. I'm wary though, because I've been prescribed habit-forming things before with no warnings and had to learn the hard way that withdrawal can be hell.
Happy you're on the road to recovery, Glad, though still very sore. Must be a relief to you to be on the other side of this.
Yes, I feel a bit better every day, still doing anything really tires me out.
I take various things to help me sleep. Gravol, Benedryl, Zzzquil sometimes.
I have ativan for anxiety and occasionally will take half of one at 1.0mg to relax me.
To be honest I've felt guilty about this for years but hearing that others are in the same boat makes me feel better. I have been trying to workout more lately and eat on more of a set schedule which also helps.
These days anxiety about my cat Daniel having cancer has made sleep a little trickier. I go to bed anxious and wake up sad. We've got him on a steroid now for palliative care. We aren't going the surgery or chemo route cause it would be awful expensive and wouldn't buy us much more time with him in addition to all the vet trips etc. his quality of life wouldn't be great.
I am happy you slept well and hope you continue to do so. Wishing you a speedy recovery. Hope this is all behind you real soon.
Thank you to everyone reading this and allowing me to vent and have my "whine moment of the day"
wishing us all well!! :)
my “whine” moment...
it’s hard for me to find the right balance between helping my LOs, and helping myself.
there are many things in my life i need to sort out.
there must be a solution. i have faith i’ll figure out how to balance things.
hugs!!! wishing us a continued great summer!
...i like the quote:
“when something goes wrong in your life, just yell ‘plot twist!’”
:)
bundle of joy :)
But still, it annoys me...
Be more food aware, check it out.
My eggs had watery whites.
The steak is tough because it has too much water.
Stores are now selling expired or older products, even fresh salsa.
Then, there are the fish that have (supposedly harmless) worms.
I started shopping for fresh produce at our local farm. I noticed the produce has not been fresh at our regular grocery store since the start of the pandemic. I called the produce manager and complained but still not fresh. I think the dates are wrong and expired.
Now of course they blame the FCC and another carrier for blocking\interfering with the signal. Why can't Viaero just take responsibility, give people discounts\credits on bills. Explain that they screwed up! This country is so messed up on so many levels!