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Internet still down! Had to up,my cell phone plan to unlimited data. I had used nearly 2gb in the last 24 hours because of the outage.

I wonder if the system has been hacked or the data being held for ransom. It is just too strange and stressful and ticking me off.😰
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Here is a typical day in my life now.
Up at 3am to take hubby to the bathroom, ( happens 2x every night between 2am and 5am) helped him change his diaper, change wet bed pads try to get back to sleep, seems as soon as I shut my eyes he needed up again, this time he wanted to take a bowel movement, waited up 45 minutes nothing happened so put him back to bed, I am now wide awake. Made coffee and watched the sun come up. Husband woke at 9am, took him to the bathroom helped him on the pot and as he gets diaper rash put desitin on his ass..helped him into a new diaper, washed his face and hands, combed his hair and dress. Put hubby in his chair by the window and got his coffee, juice and meds, gave him his insulin shot and went and removed the wet bed pads and sheets as he had soaked through 2 bed pads and started the wash. 11am he wanted pancakes and bacon for breakfast which I made him now because he has no use in his right hand and partial use of his left he can only use a spoon and food goes everywhere.. (reason why we don't eat out anymore).. cleaned up the mess and helped him to the bathroom, changed his diaper and he wanted to try to do a bowel movement, it was successful but he blocked the toilet in the process (again!), had to remove manually the larger deposits and spent next two hours unblocking the toilet. While he was on the couch and I was plunging the toilet he decided to wet himself and it went through the diaper onto the seat cushions, 4pm I am washing seat cushion covers. Seems if I don't take him every two hours to the bathroom he wets himself, 3rd time I have cleaned the couch so now have to have a bed pad on it just in case he wets again. 5pm took hubby to bathroom as soon as his diaper came off he peed all over me, the floor and his shorts.. 5:15 its put him in the shower, another load of laundry and floor to wash and I still have to cook and prepare dinner aghh! He then makes the comment you're getting fat, wonder why when I don't have any time or energy for myself😡
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Hello Born,
I have to be honest here. I was reading this post early this morning and I burst out laughing so hard I thought I was going to wake up my mother and family.
If I did not know better I would think it was made up. I know it is not funny to say the least. You must be exhausted. Would you be able to hire some help at night?
I take care of my elderly mother and have been caring for her for over 21 years. We put my mother on the commode every two hours during the day and she wears pull ups. At night we turn her every 3 hours clean and change her. I do not get her up to the commode at night. She uses a night time depends with tabs. I clean my mother after she finished on the commode and on occason getting her up she urinated and it went on my leg the floor and my shoe. We tell her it is ok because I know she can't help it, but it it not pleasant. I have more work to do , wash floor, wash up, and clean my shoe.
Caregiving is difficult that is for sure. Any help from family? How about hiring a home health aide a few days per week. I do not think you can keep going on like this, I have help now but I did it alone for eight years. I puree my moms foods for over a year and now hired a personal chef, it is not that expensive as one would think, my mom loves most of the freshly prepared meals. It is called Chef for Seniors not sure if the company is in your area, but it would not hurt to check. I find the chef so helpful. I hope things get better for you. A plan should be in place in case you are able to continue caring for your husband. The stress and lack of sleep can cause health problems. You might think about another option but that is your choice to make. Your husband is fortunate to have a loving wife as yourself.. The best to you both.
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Born, hands on caregiving to someone with incontinence, and who relies on your for everything, is so hard. If you get some outside help coming in, it would take some of the burden off you. And I think putting chux pads everywhere, or the washable kind, would help you out, too. We can take only so much imbalance in a relationship before we become understandably resentful, and if you're exhausting yourself that will take a toll. Are there other options for help besides you doing everything and being there at every moment?

Glad, I feel your pain. I've was having wifi issues recently when I switched providers to save some money. I had to use my phone hotspot to watch my school live classes because wifi was dropping out so bad and so often, and found out that my unlimited data was limited to 5gb for hotspot. Apparently live classes use a lot of data. I got my worst grade ever for that first live seminar, prof said I needed to be "more chatty." lol I was too busy trying every which way to get the seminar to connect. Anyway. PITA. I hope you get it sorted soon.
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my “whine moment”...

hug!!
i hope everyone is ok!!

this website has helped me a lot.

i must say, however, sadly, with all the good advice i read, and my well-meaning advice that i post, i’m not getting anywhere.

—i’m not doing a good job saving myself
—i continue to be angry with my siblings (for example today my LO spoke to 1 of my brothers. i got very mad that my LO spoke so sweetly to my brother who does nothing to help)
—i continue to be angry against the caregivers: they did something awful a few days ago; unilateral ultimatum, forcing my LO to make a decision in 2 hours; no time to find alternative private caregivers; ugly people, awful behavior
—huge crises turned up; i’m again helping 24/7 and not helping myself
—i have a huge frown
—1 person continues to verbally abuse me; i’m very angry

i arrived full of energy, happiness, wanted to spend time with LO. (i don’t live with LO).

instead, huge crises happened.

i don’t know how i’ll balance/get back to working on my life/creating my life.

bundle of joy
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Bundle, be patient with yourself, understand that it will take time. I am still angry with my twisted sisters that did little to help, actually caused more turmoil. It will take me lots more time, if I ever get there. It was so traumatic for me I think I actually have PTSD triggers as a result of that time. And my mom passed four years ago.

Dang internet issues! Century link equipment arrived yesterday. Installer was here in the morning. New house, no land line ever. To get line from street to house? $800.00! Decided to return equipment. Then yesterday afternoon a major century link fiber was cut. No century link phone or internet for anyone since yesterday!

Thinking I will try using hotspot on my phone and up my plan again. Thoughts or experience anyone?
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Glad, what about satellite internet? I've read it can be spotty on bad weather days, though, but they have it everywhere now. Hughes is the company in my area but there are others.
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If you need satellite internet, there is Hughes Net and Viaset.
We have not tried Satellite, but Dh's mother is having trouble with her provider(s) that she has tried, so dH is looking around and making suggestions for her.

For residents without a wired infrastructure, satellite internet is likely their "go to" connection type because all it needs to work is a clear view of the sky. 
Checking in my area, locally, the speeds are slower for satellite.

I will ask him if there is something about a Kindle that works like a phone plan.

As for a phone line installation, that price is very high at $800. Maybe ask the neighbors what they did. Try to find out if your home even has phone jacks and wiring already inside. It should.

Not an expert, just a home owner.

If you are going to need to work from home, check on data limits.
Also, check with your employer if they can pay for your internet requirements.
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We have Hughes Net on our motorhome and it has ample speed to do anything online.

The only time we have ever had any problems with service is when we have parked in the woods and trees are blocking our line.

Be prepared for some sticker shock though.
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My husband has started to sundown, and I can't get an appt with anyone for six weeks, He wants me to stay up with him all night, and talk to him. I really look forward to my sleep time because I have interesting dreams -- much better dreams than my life right now. I need to go to the dentist and I should be going to a doctor for the self-diagnosed nervous breakdown I am having, but I can't leave the house and I can't get an appointment. That will suffice for the moment.
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I am going to try verizon LTE, only $40.00/mo. Sounds like it will be good. Thirty day trial to see how it performs and $240.00 equipment refundable if not satisfactory. Fingers crossed. Watch out Viaero, if this works you will be losing lots of customers!
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I feel like I do not have any privacy from brother and niece these days. Still too many questions, motor mouth brother and noisy niece. I wish I could sit down and have my meals in peace especially my breatfast without them asking me "can I have some". I find it irritaitng to say the least. I am not a morning person and just want some quiet time. I explained to them but niece told me my food looks so good and I have good stuff. They both eat the same food but need to make it. My mom is an angel and respects my wishes. Easy to be with her in the morning. I do not cook in the summer much except for my mom. I cook and bake the other months. I am having second thoughts about cooking for them in the coming months. They are like hound dogs. The two of them like to be waited on and did not keep their end of the bargain and make me a decent meal once a month. My mother has a personal chef for her meals so I dont;t feel the pressure to shop frequently and I told them that.. My goodness they are adults. I don't think it is too much to ask. Lately I hide out on the front or back porch. I will not be cooking and baking for them a lot in the fall let me tell you. They are not respecting my wish to have my time. Thanks for the little whine. Enjoy your weekend everyone.
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Earlybird, make yourself some delicious meals for one and let them look on longingly...
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Chriscat, great idea. I think i will make their favorite which is roast beef , mashed potaotes and carrots. Strawberry shortcake for dessert and let them drool!! I am terrible. Probably won't last but hopefully this time they will get the message loud and clear.
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I bought a computer about a year ago. I put insurance on it for three years. The question I have is I am constantly mispelling the words. I type fast but did not seem to happen as much before I bought this one. Any suggestions?
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My whine of the day started on August 10, when my hubby's caregiver caught the Covid virus. She never ran a fever. Just experiencing severe fatigue. The agency couldn't send anyone else until hubby and I both tested negative twice in 48 hrs. But, as I explained to our case manager, we would wait until L could come back to work as new people confuse my hubby.
Fast forward to today. Since L did most of the housework, laundry, cooking, etc, I had become very spoiled. I had set aside today to sweep and mop as the dog is shedding and the dust bunnies were the size of elephants.
About 10am, my hubby yelled from the bedroom that he needed help. This usually means he needs his pull- ups changed. I walked into the bedroom to see him covered in blood; blood soaking the sheets, blanket, comforter, mattress pad and 3 pillows; a trail of blood leading to the bathroom.
A small blood vessel on his cheek had burst while he was asleep. Pressure and cold compresses barely slowed down the bleeding. I finally remembered the powder we have for trimming the dog's nails if we cut them too short. That stopped the bleeding.
I've down 3 loads of laundry so far with 3 more to go.
Sone days I really regret giving up alcohol.
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Working in my garage yesterday, Dad's "friend" brings him home from church and says "come get your father from the car". I go over and apparently he had a bowel accident x 100. He went to a picnic after church and had a blowout. pants shoes etc. Someone gave him a pair of pants at least to ride home.
So I get him in the house, told him to shower. While I blasted his pants and shoes in the driveway.
He said he felt fine. I chalk it up to dehydration. He has been lethargic. I had him at the Dr last week and he seemed fine.
He didn't eat much at dinner (usual) but of course, had room for a big bowl of ice cream later!
Getting tired of cleaning up his s*** literally.
Not sure what to make of it, he said he had to get to the bathroom during church, I asked him why he went to the picnic he said he felt fine. I guess his lady friend won't be taking him out for lunch or dinners this week..... That's OK, I can't stand the lady, she is "Persona non Grata" in my house or anywhere with me. Long story.
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You'd better get him some pull-ups. For bowel accidents, the securest sort are the inserts that go inside mesh underwear - Abri, Tena, Depends all make them, you can find them online.

My guess is that he went to the picnic because he couldn't find an opportunity in private to face telling his lady friend that he needed to go home *now.* Then by the time they got there...
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Tgengine, your picnic pøø story. Oh your poor thing!

I've been on clean-up duty a few times... The hose in the driveway! Love it!

I am now humming if you go down to the woods today, you're sure of a big surprise..
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I had to go to my office today after 2 days at home... Before leaving, I had to change my mom and the bedsheets... Left in a rush not to miss the train without breakfast, I don't even remember if I washed my face and combed my hair...
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Oh goodie, they've announced we're soon going to need a qr code on our phones in order to show proof of vaccination. I might have a smart phone but I have no clue how to go about doing that or if it's even possible with my very limited plan, hopefully there will be tutorials. On the other hand I don't have any plans to go to restaurants, movies or concerts anyway so maybe I can just skip it 🤔.
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Cwillie, we already have it here in Italy since the 6th August.
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I'm aware that it is already in use around the world Anche, people in China were reportedly doing it way back when covid was still a new thing in Wuhan. Our premiere was very much against the idea and I've been hoping it wouldn't come to this point here, and I'm worried that all kinds of businesses will require proof of vaccination beyond what is included in the mandate. I know several people who either don't have smart phones, are not tech savvy, and/or have no access to printers to print off a paper alternative.
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Anche,, I sometimes wonder if i am wearing deodorant!
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I have a flip top phone and that is all I need.Dislike the smart phone.
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Verizon router came today. Got it activated and laptop connected. Works great so far. That was all could manage tonight. I still need to get my kindles and tv's connected. I hate getting new technology setup! But, I hate my internet being out more, which is very frequent with viaero as current isp.

What the heck is the difference between network password and WiFi password. I think that was my problem trying to setup first kindle. I think it is asking for WiFi password, but I had lost all patience after getting it activated.😬
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Cwillie, here doctors and pharmacies are printing the Green pass for those who don't have a smartphone or printer.
But this problem, no access to technology, is big ; we are now requested a digital identity for all the documents concerning retirement, school, etc.
I did mine but do not know what to do with my mum: so far, it seems that children can't do that for their elderly parents, she should go to the cityhall but she is bedridden and because of the pandemic, they won't come home.
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I’m new to this forum. I sure hope this place can help me out. I’m alternating care of my Mother with my brother from a neighboring state. Have a sister who lives a long ways away and another brother who lives 15 minutes from my Mom but who pretty much drops by as the good son. My turn again tomorrow and I’m so anxious about it I can’t sleep. My Mom has always been kinda mean but my Dad kept her from being too bad. He passed away in December so my Mom is in rare form. Mean and hateful and ungrateful for anything I do for her. Never once has the woman said thank you or please for anything just screams orders at me then tells me I never do anything right and when I say I’m sorry Mom she says you sure are. I don’t know how long I can do this
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Libby, you will find so many others on this forum who have had the same problems that you describe, so you have my sympathy. You might like to look at the “care topics” on this website, as there are sections that will help you understand the anger or unhappiness that could well be behind your mother’s behaviour, and how you might deal with it. Providing care is an exhausting process, and you need to make sure you factor in some time for yourself, to recharge your batteries and to stay sane.
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Libbydawn, you should check out this thread about narcissistic mothers and their adult children who now have to care for them. You will be in good company.

https://www.agingcare.com/discussions/caregiving-for-a-narcissistic-mother-do-we-do-it-out-of-love-or-out-of-years-of-guilt-and-programmin-463032.htm

My suggestions is for you to distance yourself from this woman. Yes, she gave birth to you, but that doesn't entitle her to treat you like dirt and ruin your life. If you want to, you can find other ways to help her without having to deal with her in person.
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