I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I wonder if the system has been hacked or the data being held for ransom. It is just too strange and stressful and ticking me off.😰
Up at 3am to take hubby to the bathroom, ( happens 2x every night between 2am and 5am) helped him change his diaper, change wet bed pads try to get back to sleep, seems as soon as I shut my eyes he needed up again, this time he wanted to take a bowel movement, waited up 45 minutes nothing happened so put him back to bed, I am now wide awake. Made coffee and watched the sun come up. Husband woke at 9am, took him to the bathroom helped him on the pot and as he gets diaper rash put desitin on his ass..helped him into a new diaper, washed his face and hands, combed his hair and dress. Put hubby in his chair by the window and got his coffee, juice and meds, gave him his insulin shot and went and removed the wet bed pads and sheets as he had soaked through 2 bed pads and started the wash. 11am he wanted pancakes and bacon for breakfast which I made him now because he has no use in his right hand and partial use of his left he can only use a spoon and food goes everywhere.. (reason why we don't eat out anymore).. cleaned up the mess and helped him to the bathroom, changed his diaper and he wanted to try to do a bowel movement, it was successful but he blocked the toilet in the process (again!), had to remove manually the larger deposits and spent next two hours unblocking the toilet. While he was on the couch and I was plunging the toilet he decided to wet himself and it went through the diaper onto the seat cushions, 4pm I am washing seat cushion covers. Seems if I don't take him every two hours to the bathroom he wets himself, 3rd time I have cleaned the couch so now have to have a bed pad on it just in case he wets again. 5pm took hubby to bathroom as soon as his diaper came off he peed all over me, the floor and his shorts.. 5:15 its put him in the shower, another load of laundry and floor to wash and I still have to cook and prepare dinner aghh! He then makes the comment you're getting fat, wonder why when I don't have any time or energy for myself😡
I have to be honest here. I was reading this post early this morning and I burst out laughing so hard I thought I was going to wake up my mother and family.
If I did not know better I would think it was made up. I know it is not funny to say the least. You must be exhausted. Would you be able to hire some help at night?
I take care of my elderly mother and have been caring for her for over 21 years. We put my mother on the commode every two hours during the day and she wears pull ups. At night we turn her every 3 hours clean and change her. I do not get her up to the commode at night. She uses a night time depends with tabs. I clean my mother after she finished on the commode and on occason getting her up she urinated and it went on my leg the floor and my shoe. We tell her it is ok because I know she can't help it, but it it not pleasant. I have more work to do , wash floor, wash up, and clean my shoe.
Caregiving is difficult that is for sure. Any help from family? How about hiring a home health aide a few days per week. I do not think you can keep going on like this, I have help now but I did it alone for eight years. I puree my moms foods for over a year and now hired a personal chef, it is not that expensive as one would think, my mom loves most of the freshly prepared meals. It is called Chef for Seniors not sure if the company is in your area, but it would not hurt to check. I find the chef so helpful. I hope things get better for you. A plan should be in place in case you are able to continue caring for your husband. The stress and lack of sleep can cause health problems. You might think about another option but that is your choice to make. Your husband is fortunate to have a loving wife as yourself.. The best to you both.
Glad, I feel your pain. I've was having wifi issues recently when I switched providers to save some money. I had to use my phone hotspot to watch my school live classes because wifi was dropping out so bad and so often, and found out that my unlimited data was limited to 5gb for hotspot. Apparently live classes use a lot of data. I got my worst grade ever for that first live seminar, prof said I needed to be "more chatty." lol I was too busy trying every which way to get the seminar to connect. Anyway. PITA. I hope you get it sorted soon.
hug!!
i hope everyone is ok!!
this website has helped me a lot.
i must say, however, sadly, with all the good advice i read, and my well-meaning advice that i post, i’m not getting anywhere.
—i’m not doing a good job saving myself
—i continue to be angry with my siblings (for example today my LO spoke to 1 of my brothers. i got very mad that my LO spoke so sweetly to my brother who does nothing to help)
—i continue to be angry against the caregivers: they did something awful a few days ago; unilateral ultimatum, forcing my LO to make a decision in 2 hours; no time to find alternative private caregivers; ugly people, awful behavior
—huge crises turned up; i’m again helping 24/7 and not helping myself
—i have a huge frown
—1 person continues to verbally abuse me; i’m very angry
i arrived full of energy, happiness, wanted to spend time with LO. (i don’t live with LO).
instead, huge crises happened.
i don’t know how i’ll balance/get back to working on my life/creating my life.
bundle of joy
Dang internet issues! Century link equipment arrived yesterday. Installer was here in the morning. New house, no land line ever. To get line from street to house? $800.00! Decided to return equipment. Then yesterday afternoon a major century link fiber was cut. No century link phone or internet for anyone since yesterday!
Thinking I will try using hotspot on my phone and up my plan again. Thoughts or experience anyone?
We have not tried Satellite, but Dh's mother is having trouble with her provider(s) that she has tried, so dH is looking around and making suggestions for her.
For residents without a wired infrastructure, satellite internet is likely their "go to" connection type because all it needs to work is a clear view of the sky.
Checking in my area, locally, the speeds are slower for satellite.
I will ask him if there is something about a Kindle that works like a phone plan.
As for a phone line installation, that price is very high at $800. Maybe ask the neighbors what they did. Try to find out if your home even has phone jacks and wiring already inside. It should.
Not an expert, just a home owner.
If you are going to need to work from home, check on data limits.
Also, check with your employer if they can pay for your internet requirements.
The only time we have ever had any problems with service is when we have parked in the woods and trees are blocking our line.
Be prepared for some sticker shock though.
Fast forward to today. Since L did most of the housework, laundry, cooking, etc, I had become very spoiled. I had set aside today to sweep and mop as the dog is shedding and the dust bunnies were the size of elephants.
About 10am, my hubby yelled from the bedroom that he needed help. This usually means he needs his pull- ups changed. I walked into the bedroom to see him covered in blood; blood soaking the sheets, blanket, comforter, mattress pad and 3 pillows; a trail of blood leading to the bathroom.
A small blood vessel on his cheek had burst while he was asleep. Pressure and cold compresses barely slowed down the bleeding. I finally remembered the powder we have for trimming the dog's nails if we cut them too short. That stopped the bleeding.
I've down 3 loads of laundry so far with 3 more to go.
Sone days I really regret giving up alcohol.
So I get him in the house, told him to shower. While I blasted his pants and shoes in the driveway.
He said he felt fine. I chalk it up to dehydration. He has been lethargic. I had him at the Dr last week and he seemed fine.
He didn't eat much at dinner (usual) but of course, had room for a big bowl of ice cream later!
Getting tired of cleaning up his s*** literally.
Not sure what to make of it, he said he had to get to the bathroom during church, I asked him why he went to the picnic he said he felt fine. I guess his lady friend won't be taking him out for lunch or dinners this week..... That's OK, I can't stand the lady, she is "Persona non Grata" in my house or anywhere with me. Long story.
My guess is that he went to the picnic because he couldn't find an opportunity in private to face telling his lady friend that he needed to go home *now.* Then by the time they got there...
I've been on clean-up duty a few times... The hose in the driveway! Love it!
I am now humming if you go down to the woods today, you're sure of a big surprise..
What the heck is the difference between network password and WiFi password. I think that was my problem trying to setup first kindle. I think it is asking for WiFi password, but I had lost all patience after getting it activated.😬
But this problem, no access to technology, is big ; we are now requested a digital identity for all the documents concerning retirement, school, etc.
I did mine but do not know what to do with my mum: so far, it seems that children can't do that for their elderly parents, she should go to the cityhall but she is bedridden and because of the pandemic, they won't come home.
https://www.agingcare.com/discussions/caregiving-for-a-narcissistic-mother-do-we-do-it-out-of-love-or-out-of-years-of-guilt-and-programmin-463032.htm
My suggestions is for you to distance yourself from this woman. Yes, she gave birth to you, but that doesn't entitle her to treat you like dirt and ruin your life. If you want to, you can find other ways to help her without having to deal with her in person.