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LOL Gershun!
I've turned into a curmudgeonly hermit, the last two years of going nowhere and seeing nobody have cemented the introverted part of my personality firmly in place.
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When my sewer line collapsed they dug a pit in the backyard and broke the pipe to drain into it so we could at least use the bathrooms. Yea kinda gross, but what is a septic system anyway?I

Or you could bring in a porta pot.
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Golden, call your wastewater provider to ask what you can do. Have they even been contacted by the contractor for necessary permits? I am suspicious since this seems to be taking so long. Initially, they told you it would be repaired by tuesday. Have they even run the camera down the line yet?

Those cameras are water tight.
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cw - I was an firm introvert before covid. It's not so bad!

glad - I essentially have a septic field in my backyard now but it is not draining well. I am managing. I really couldn't lug a porta potty about. Today I called the project manager and haven't heard back. I know I am not the only project they have to deal with but I had hoped to hear something by now. Then I would have more information to make a decision as to how to proceed. Sil is setting up a room in dd's house which will help. It's cold out today and not great for me to bath then go out in the cold. I am rethinking taking a hotel room which would be quieter and possibly covid safer than dd's house. If I brought Rocky with me we could chill out together. Showers here today and tomorrow so we both will be inside most of the time. I think I'll wait for a callback from the restore co.
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glad - just saw your post below. I mentioned earlier that the water level hadn't gone down enough to use the camera. Yes it is water tight but the water is murky. Tuesday the guy came and dug a hole and found the broken pipe. Couldn't they have done that earlier? The estimate of it being fixed by Tuesday was before they found they couldn't get a camera shot. Supposedly the project manager was informed on Tuesday afternoon that the break had been located. I think I should have been informed of the next steps by now. The city public waste department says to call the restore people of your choice and if you call the city to investigate you will be charged.
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Yea, they should have told you next steps by now. Seems they could have drained that pipe.into a pit in the backyard. Then vacuumed it out or something. It just seems very strange. Ask the city sewer people for a list of contractors. Do you have Better Business Bureau there? Have you checked ratings of the contractor?

I think I would have the city take a look. At least you known that they will give you reliable info. May be the best dollars you spend on this project.
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44 years ago - husband's accident which severely limited his mobility
33 years ago - husband stops bringing in regular income; he does artwork
16 years ago - husband's first brain tumor; can no longer do artwork
10 years ago - husband's second brain tumor; becomes deaf, stops working around house
8 years ago - I retire and husband gets upset when I plunge into activities
7 years ago - I come home from mother's funeral to realize I can not go away and leave him any more
5 years ago - husband diagnosed with dementia, stops leaving house; my outside activities severely reduced
1 year ago - husband hospitalized five times for rampant infection
2 months ago - husband treated at home by hospice
today - our 50th wedding anniversary
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One of my staff tested positive for Covid today. He was to attend a conference this next week in Richmond. Hoping he is feeling better soon. It is back. Or should I say it is still here.
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dear chlokara,
:)

compassion hug!!!
verrry tough events, the past years.

HAPPY 50th ANNIVERSARY TODAY!!!!! :) :) :) :)
amazing!!! golden anniversary!!! :)

i wish you and your husband a wonderful celebration!!!
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Dear chlokara - Wow! What a tough life you have had. I hope in those 44 years since your husband's life changing accident, there were many moments of happiness, and not just all suffering and enduring.

Congratulations on your 50th anniversary. Hope you enjoy something special for you and your husband.
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Chlokara: Happy Golden Wedding Anniversary!
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Hello Chlokara! I hope your 50th wedding anniversary was great! That's very, very special.
Hello all! I hope you're well!

I just scrolled down below, and noticed that my challenge to myself was 22 April '22 (1 month ago!) (I said I would try (1) not to whine for 7 days, (2) focus on my life).

Update: I failed, and gave myself F- and F-.

HOWEVER, suddenly I succeeded (A+++ and A+++). But it's totally by chance. Totally unconnected to my own self-discipline. What happened is: the situation is OK now. My mom is all right. No emergencies. I've been able to really work on my life. It's been an awesome feeling. I got a lot done (FOR MY LIFE).

Good luck to all!

I give myself a new challenge: for the next 7 days: don't postpone. Get it done now.

OK, I'll update again in a few weeks. Knowing me, I'll start off with F-, but maybe I'll be lucky and go to C+.
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Was thinking about taking flannel sheets off of my bed today. Maybe next week. Major temp drops the next few days, overnight down to low 40's or high 30's.
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Can't believe it, my desktop computer was only 2 years old and it crashed. The computer guy [we have him on speed dial] said it was a part failure. He said it would make more sense to order a brand new tower then for him to order all the parts he needed. So I ordered a new desk top.

I just hope he can put in the old hard-drive and pull off from it onto a memory thingy items I had on my old computer, that weren't saved on a website, and place it onto the new computer.

Right now I am using my sign-other's desk top computer. It is throwing off my whole routine. It's like going into a grocery store you're not familiar with :)
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freqflyer: Perchance do you possess a remote hard drive where you periodically backed up data from your desktop?
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Llamalover47, nope no back-up equipment. Seems like computers, along with other appliances, are having shorter and shorter life spans. The desk top I had prior was 5 years old, prior to that 10 years, and prior to that 12 years. I see a pattern.

As technology moves at warp speed, the older stuff doesn't play well with the new technology. Gotta buy new.
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I bought my refurbished desktop PC when I move here in 2013, it struggles to get going again if it gets completely turned off so it stays on 24/7. I've been meaning to buy an external hard drive and a tablet for back up for years now....
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freqflyer: It is helpful to have a remote hard drive. I must remember to back up my data as I haven't done it in a while. Sorry that you don't have one.
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cw: Good plan on the external hard drive.
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I am not in burnout but I have already cared for my mother and father. I have my uncle now living with me because his home has steps to the only bathroom and his wife my aunt can not clean him up if he was to have an accident because she can’t stomach it. I don’t mind at all that my uncle is here. He’s like my second dad. My aunt his first wife who passed was like a sister to my mom. We are pretty close. Well his wife now has not set up home health care which is what my uncle says he wants. He originally was sent home with hospice but the man isn’t ready for hospice and the hospital told him he had no choice. So me having been through this had the hospice nurse explain the difference and he said he wants home health. He has been here now over a week and no one has set this up. Hospice does not have him as a patient. We are lucky that we still have his oxygen. Do I have the right to call and set up his home health care since he lives with me and I am his night time caregiver or is that my uncle’s wife’s responsibility to have it set up even though she really hasn’t done anything as of now. I just want the man to have a nurse look him over and make sure he is doing well.
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Joekool94: Welcome to this thread! Do you have POA for your uncle?
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Joekool you certainly do have the right to report your uncle's living with you and ask for his needs to be assessed. Isn't his wife aware that he's going to need support? - it's one thing for her to be relieved you've taken over, but she can't keep control and turn her back at the same time! If she won't get in touch with his health care team, ask for the number so that you can.
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Joekool, Just call his doctor and ask the doctor to order the home health. The HHC will speak with uncle when they come out to evaluate him. He can sign for himself it sounds like.
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I sent a private message to Joekool94 today, informing him that three individuals (myself included) had posted on this thread.
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Happy weekend to all! Just a little update on my challenge to myself.

2 months ago, I told myself to stop whining - for some days. I failed, then miraculously succeeded, but the only reason I succeeded was because my mother's well now, so there's nothing for me to whine about.

1 month ago, I challenged myself to: not postpone. Get it done now (whatever's on my 1-mile long to-do-list). Well, I'm giving myself a Z- (in other words, way below F).

Off I go and try again.

Good luck to all!
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With aging eyes I found that the turquoise color for the titles here were being harder to read. Then I remember that symbol at the right bottom corner of this page [blue circle with a white figure with arms stretched out] that helps one make changes on how the text, colors, etc can look.

Bravo, I was able to change the turquoise titles to black, now I can read them so much better :)
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venting - keep trying!!!

ff - I hear you. I've lost that icon/symbol. Anyone have any ideas how to get it back?

Feels like I am going backwards with prepping the house for sale. I'm not but sometimes it feels like it. I have such a limited energy budget many days that things can start piling up again and anything extra is too much. Now I am having to nurse the new sod on the back lawn. It was not a good batch and looks like a patchwork quilt in greens and yellows. Mainly greens thankfully. And I don't have the energy to bitch at the project manager.
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Golden if you are zoomed in, try zooming out so you see the entire page.

They need a traveling icon.!😉😉 The icon disappears when I am zoomed in

Golden, my guess with the sod is that it dried out too much before it was installed. May have even gotten it free as a leftover from another job. Did they do any soil prep? Primarily leveling the ground by saturating it with water? Add any organics to help it along?

It will probably be fine. Patience.
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My whine?

I watched a zoom presentation tonight from p.ink a group that awards grants for mastectomy tattoos. There are very beautiful tatts out there if you reconstruct. And there are parlors out there that participate each year. I asked why the websites of those parlors are so dedicated to reconstruction and nothing if a woman decides to go flat! I was brushed off, no response from any of the artists on the zoom.

Wow, FF. I changed to b&w an so much easier to read. The turquoise was almost blinding, too bright, contrast.
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Now that you mention it I've lost the disability icon too - perhaps it's one of those things that is unavailable when you are in a different region/country?
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