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Glad, were any of them 3D artists?

I saw the results from an areola with a nipple tattooed and it looked amazing.

I think that women that don't do reconstruction just typically don't pursue any aesthetics, historically. Maybe that is changing.
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ff - getting rid of the turquoise does help!!! Thx.

glad - zooming out doesn't bring it back. Re sod - Some edges were yellow when it came. They levelled and added some topsoil before laying the sod. I have watered regularly. Like I said. It was not a good batch of sod. It will recover. I have seen photos of tats on women without reconstruction. They looked great!

cw - one of my laptops shows the icon, the other doesn't but I think it did a little while ago. Go figure!

Beautiful fresh sunshiny Alberta summer day today - 17C (67F) going up to 25C (78F). That's about my ideal range. 😎
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I hate the heat! Yesterday just over 100, today to be close to that and air conditioner is on the fritz. AGAIN!

Golden, May be clear your cookies?

Yes, there were 3D artists.
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Oh yes, it is tough and tiresome, for sure! Trying to keep nutrition in mind and keep the meals coming ... well, it is a burnout. My sister received "Meals on Wheels" - it was a life saver. Maybe it is available in her community. Contact the local Senior Center - often they have good info. Good luck!
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That pesky icon comes and goes unpredictably.

My whine is having had no water for over 5 weeks I now have too much. I had two basement floods in 24 hrs and a little seeping since then. The workers repairing the sewer didn't put the downspout extension back on properly and I didn't catch that. We are having lots of rain right now and obviously some came in. The downspout extension in back on properly now and so far so good though I am concerned about the water table rising high enough to cause flooding. Placed rolled towels along that wall and checking regularly.

Listening to Johnny Cash "How High's the Water, Mama" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AqszIxEa9PY

Every time I plan on calling the real estate agent something happens to prevent it!
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OK, thanks. I am new here. Was feeling pretty low until I read the comments. Some made me laugh, some made me cringe, some made me shake my head. But all made me see there are people dealing with a lot to support and care for relatives and loved ones. (Cue Michael Jackson's You Are Not Alone). My issue is so minor, so this buttercup is gonna suck it up. LOL! Thanks
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TJ - welcome and please share your issues. None are too small. We don't compare. Some of us are here post-caregiving - working on our "new" normals. My mother passed over 3 years ago in a nursing home, aged 106. I will be 85 this summer and getting really tired of water problems while trying to get my house ready for sale to move to something smaller. #1 rule for caregivers is look after yourself!
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I can’t even go there. Too many to waste everyones time here. But if I am going to say something, I’ll say when is it all going to end. How much more of my husband’s and my life do we have to put on hold? That’s my whinge and it’s selfish and I don’t care.
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My Husband sleeps untill 2pm today. Another entire day gone….I twiddle my thumbs…
The pattern: His demanding elderly Mother and controlling sibling consumes his mind. After he spends the day with his Mother (takes her to her appointments, shopping, gets whatever she is “craving” that day….he’s mentally and physically EXHAUSTED! Then when he get’s home his sibling contacts him either by text or phone often both and asks for a play by play of what he did with mother! How was the appointment? Where did they go? How’s Mother today? Can you send pictures? So he relives his exhausting day play by play in detail to his sibling. It annoys him though he says nothing to sibling. It’s EXHAUSTING for me to observe…no wonder he sleeps the next day away! It’s been this way for years. I wait and wait…clean house, do errands, take care of critters, work out…basically do life with a sleeping beauty Husband. I have discussed this with him. We have talked about it in therapy. We have talked about it with his doctors. They all say the same thing…priorities, boundaries, your health first. Nothing changes. I thought it would change after he retired. Nope. I am tired of waiting for him to get up! Will it change after Mother passes? My gut says no…
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My whine? The feeling it never ends. It's always something... and yet it's our job to ensure he stays reasonably safe and well cared for, and hopefully happy. It is exhausting doing the right thing, esp. with family that are intent on sabotaging when things are going well, because by God if it's going well then he can go backwards and undo what has had to be fixed repeatedly for safety RME. Let's not stop and consider/realize the reason he is doing well is that he's getting what he needs and just leave it be. sigh...so much sarcasm there.
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Staying two nights in a airbnb that I have used before. It is quite nice. But dang it, the Av's are not playing well tonight. I had to turn it off. Now the tv won't turn back on for the news. Something is up with the remote. And the buffering is terrible tonight!
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Ya got that right Glad. Horrible hockey game!
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First ever U.T.I., which I caught right away. Got med from emergent care.
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You, Llama, got UTI? Really? How did you know? What symptoms did you have? Sorry if I am being intrusive. You don’t have to indulge me if you don’t want to.
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Llama - get well soon!
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I am another one who had never had a UTI until last summer - needing to pee every 10 seconds 🙄 and bloody urine made it pretty clear to me that's what it was!
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Polarbear,
Just passing through this thread after being awake since 3:30 a.m..
May I offer an AgingCare article about the symptoms of UTI in the general population vs. the symptoms in the elderly?

"UTI in the Elderly: Signs, Symptoms and Treatments"

Enter that into your search icon above in the teal-colored navigation bar, looks like a magnifying glass.

Typical Symptoms of UTI:
Urine that appears cloudy
Dark bloody urine
Strong or foul smelling urine
Frequent or urgent need to urinate
Pain or burning during urination
Feelings of pressure in the lower abdomen
Low-grade fever
Night sweats
Shaking or chills

Lesser-Known UTI Symptoms in Elderly Individuals:
Older adults may not exhibit any of the hallmark signs of UTI listed above because their immune systems are unable to mount a significant response to the infection. On top of the lack of noticeable symptoms, many seniors do not or cannot express their discomfort to their caregivers.
Since elders’ bodies respond differently to infection, it is important to look for atypical signs and symptoms.
A marked change in mental state - but it is often mistaken for the early stages of dementia or Alzheimer’s disease, according to the National Institute on Aging (NIA).
Indicators of infection in seniors include the following symptoms, especially if their onset is sudden:
Confusion or delirium
Unusual behavioral changes
Poor motor skills
Loss of coordination
Dizziness
Falling
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My whine is that even though my mom's memory care unit is better than the last, they still have uneducated (in dealing with dementia), timid, and lazy staff everywhere. However, there are wonderful ones too. I'm just frustrated with the lazy ones.
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Thanks Send
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U R welcome Polarbear 🙂
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Sorry, Llama. UTIs are the worst. If you had the kind of pain I have with them, they bring the world to a halt while you try to get treatment. I hope you're feeling better. I have some recent experiences that I'll share with you and everyone.

I had a UTI at 18yo, and that was the only time I can recall explicitly having one. Now, I've had two since January. I've had some talks with different med pros who say this can be a new normal for women as they age and that repeat infection every few months is the reality for some. My PCP said, "You can do everything right and still get recurring UTIs." Please say it isn't true...! So I learned some things about how to avoid them.

To deal with possible repeats, I bought Azo Urinary Tract Defense to keep on hand. It contains methenamine which is an antibiotic. I'd never heard of it, but it's sold OTC online in different animal antibiotics. It prevents UTIs from worsening while giving you time to get to a doctor. And I started taking a D-mannose supplement, the stuff in cranberries that helps UTI symptoms. It works by flushing out bad stuff; bacteria can't stick to the plumbing. My coworker swore by hibiscus tea -- and I learned it's long been used in other countries to treat UTIs -- so I have that on hand, too.

Just sharing. I've had a crash course in UTIs this year.

Interestingly, my grandmother had one but had no pain or blood in her urine. I remember thinking her urine was cloudy, but that was it. I believe caregivers know this happens -- asymptomatic UTIs -- but just mentioning it again.

The only other advice docs had for me was to empty my bladder as much as possible. I started carrying a big water bottle with me everywhere.

I feel like I could give a TedTalk on managing UTIs after what I've learned this year! lol I hope no one gets them regularly, but apparently, many women do—my sympathies.
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Ali: Thank you. Very sick today. Will read your comments later.
golden: Thank you.
PB: I am over 75 years old. Unwell to read your comments today.
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Llama, feel better soon! May you have a fast and full recovery!
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Scary high fever of 102.9. Fortunately went down. Very low BP. Bedridden. Bad migraine, too, that never completely goes away.
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Llamalover,
It goes without saying that you are drinking lots of water.
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Send: As always.
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Llama, please get well. We love you!
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Gershun: Aww - thank you.
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Geaton: Thank you.
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Llama, hope you get well soon.
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