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My whine? My house is still on the market. Realtor's contract expires Sunday. Yesterday, I received a text requesting a showing this morning. Then another text a couple of hours later, canceling because the buyer has Covid. Evidently they will reschedule. But, darn I want this done!

Anyone want to live near where HGTV is filming the next season of Hometown Takeover? Maybe that will help get this house sold. they will be here for four months. My Saturday morning coffee shop is closed for awhile for a complete remodel. It needed it, it was kind of a dump, but the coffee and company are great!
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Glad, the homes for sale in my area (Lake Minnetonka, MN) are no longer "flying off the shelves" where homes were selling within *hours* of being listed and with bidding wars... in fact, sellers here are now dropping their prices after only 2 weeks on the market. The lending rate was so low and inventory also so low, that anyone who was thinking of buying already did (one of my sons included). House prices were inflated. Now the lending rates have increased and will keep increasing, but in the US we are having a recession for sure, with lots of economic uncertainty. I wish you a speedy sale!
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I took care of my Dad and then my Mom, not only for their elderly years to death, but for mom, it was emotionally stressful as she had a mental illness that no one talked about. I have 6 siblings and NONE of them would help me. When My Mom died, she named my sister as executor, who was/is a manipulator and has a personality like Moms who would smile on one side of her face and hurt you on the other side of her face. I never argued about any of the executor stuff and or what I got.....but it sure has hurt me. The most thing that hurt me was that NO ONE in my family acknowledged how tired and how hard it was for me to work 2 jobs, then get in my car and drive 50 miles to help my mom and dad. It was a slap in the face when my sister gave my brother dads car. It has now been 9 years since Mom passed and I am getting a little better from being exhausted mentally and physically, but the hurt seems to remain in my heart that non one acknowledged all that I did. My mom and dad really never did appreciated all that I did. But then again, they would half way say thank you during their last days. I sure wish my parents were here again, so I could talk to them about my hurt. My sister will talk to me but she twists words around and acts like she did all the work for them all through her life. She tells all her friends the same. I'm getting better, but cant believe it took 5 years for me to feel rested from the hard work and still mentally feel beaten up about my siblings treatments.
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Stillhurting I can relate to your story in some ways.

I looked out for my mom for many, many years. Long before she started getting old and frail. My siblings never really gave me much credit. I have always been considered weak in their eyes. So, I guess it made them feel superior and therefore to have to admit that I'd done something that they wouldn't or couldn't be bothered to do would be too much for them.

It's frustrating to be around people who prefer to see this vision of you that once was instead of recognizing that you are stronger than they like to think of you. I go through my days feeling strong and capable and respected and then when I communicate with my siblings at all suddenly I'm thrown back into that role that they designated for me.

I handle it by avoiding them. It would be nice to have a relationship with them but it's not worth it for me when they try to keep me down. I could find a cure for cancer and they'd still find a way to diminish it some how.

Feel good about yourself. You know what you did. God knows what you did. Screw your siblings! They don't deserve to have a relationship with you and you don't need their respect or admiration. Give it to yourself!
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I can relate to both Stillhurting and Gershun about getting no thank you's.
I did everything that my Mother wanted or needed for 9 and a half years while neither one of my brother's did anything to help Mother or I.
A thank you would have meant alot to me but it's been 6 years since Mother left and I still haven't heard one.
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And you probably won't get one Lu and that's okay. You don't need it.

Even if my sibs were to say something now it would be too little, too late for me. I feel so much better about myself now that I don't care. I carry myself a little taller now around them and it's humorous to me how much they still try to make me feel small. Sad for them that they need a scapegoat to feel powerful.
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I have certainly been there too!
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golden23, I am also a "landmark" type of driver. But over the years so many of those landmark's have disappeared due to new development. Tear down something and I am lost if nothing else is at the highway intersection. Guess I should learn the street names ;P


And I would give directions using those landmark's as they are easier to see than street signs.


Dad taught me to read a map at an early age so I feel more comfortable with my trusty map-book then relying on GPS. One time we were visiting my grandparents out in the mid-west. Grandpa had me drive. His directions were "turn North" "now turn East", to which I asked him to use "left" or "right" as I wasn't familiar with compass directions.
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Oh there are so many. My big one today is that our part time helper gave notice yesterday. She was great and my parents looked forward to her coming everyday. I’m at square one again and dreading having to start looking for a replacement.
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Fireworks?! Really?!
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Here in mine.
My father does not want to eat. I prepare very high calorie meals and he eats one or two bites. Gaining weight just cooking them.
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When I happen to mention that I have 94 year old parents, it seems the standard response is God Bless. I guess it is a cultural thing that Italians say when there is nothing else to say. I’m wired so tightly lately that anything pisses me off. I told the last person who said it that if anything God’s blessings should be on their caregivers. Petty and stupid but here you are.
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Maybe God's blessings "are" directed at you and not your parents HHF - I'm sure He knows you need them (and so does anybody else with aging parents)😏
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HHF,
Would it help to offer more hours, or a raise to your parent's helper?
I know the good ones are few and far between. Some will be leaving for school, but even then, maybe hiring the worker back for an occasional after classes may work?

Have you ever heard of Jordan Peterson?
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Send, I'm very familiar with Jordan Peterson, and I've read some of his books and watched many of his lectures and appearances on talk shows over the past five years.

I hate him. lol That's for many reasons, and all based on his terrible social theories. One example: He says females are the chaos in the world while males are the order, women cause men to suffer, and society should control women's sexuality and reproductivity. He argues that this is based on natural laws. He promotes sexism/misogyny as completely normal and natural.

I was just curious why you brought him up. I know his self-help stuff is popular. And I know my opinion and experiences aren't the only ones in the world. 💚

Funny, though, because I'm watching this video about JP right now in short segments as I break from finals work. It's a good debunking over three hours. https://youtu.be/hSNWkRw53Jo
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*Apologies if my last comment was abrupt. It was interesting to see him mentioned here because I've been listening to and writing stuff related to JP for the past few days when not consumed in finals. I'm in several Facebook groups for this. I'm not sure it was an appropriate comment since we do not voice our political, etc., views on AC.

I know his self-help has reached many people, and I'm all for that. 💙
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"we do not voice our political, etc., views on AC" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
You must mean we're not supposed to😏🙄
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Ali,
I thought Jordan Peterson is a psychologist.
Disclaimer:
Had no intention whatsoever to discuss politics.
Never meant to set you off Ali.

Maybe stay away from fb until you pass your finals.
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Another obstacle. Goodness!!!

R found a suitable vehicle to rent. The place I found that you could book one online at a good price, denied any knowledge of that when he went in person. But he went off today to E'ton with his tools (for doing repairs) to rent the one he booked by phone last night, and when he got there they wouldn't accept his driver's license which is on his smart phone. He says he hasn't used the hard copy for at least a year and off hand doesn't know where it is, with moving his stuff from the farm. The police accept the license on his phone!

I suggested he get to a registration office and get a hard copy rather than driving back out into the country and trying to find his old one. That was 4 hours ago and I haven't heard any more. I hope no news is good news.

My lovely lad who has been taking care of the lawn and garden says this is his last day. I will miss him. What a blessing he and his family have been to me. The clover on the front lawn is disappearing!!! He's doing a few extra jobs today to tidy things up. If he ever needs a reference I would be very happy to give him one.
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Frustrating, golden! Hope.that works out ok.

I have listed my house with another agent. Hope this one does something!

But, I am not encouraged, went to the website advertised on the sign, and it doesn't work. Agent says it is being updated.😧😧
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Hope this one works better, glad.

update - R got a temporary licence and they wouldn't accept that either as it doesn't have a photo on it. -so back to square one as it will take a month for him to get the replacement in the mail. A friend is lending him an older van, it is being serviced and I hope is road worthy. He will head north when it is ready. I'm not holding my breath.

My lawn lad will keep in touch. I said I would be interested in hearing how his last year at U of C goes. Then he wants to go on to a masters. In less than 2 years his family will move near to Stony. His dad told me they want to buy a small acreage there for retirement. Nice.

I wrestled with my printer/scanner downloading updates, restarting the router etc. for a while this morning and finally got it to scan. Some places will accept a photo, which is handy, but not all. I need another hot bath and a large mug of tea!!! ☕
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golden: Get some rest and a hot bath.💕
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Stressed because I’m hoping that the two helpers I found to assist my parents for four hours a day work out for a good chunk of time. I have a week vacation planned in a few weeks. It’s not fair to my husband our plans falls apart.
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hhflower - I hope the helpers are working out and you and your hub will take your vacation.

I can't believe this but we have another obstacle. It's becoming a soap opera. R was finishing part of a job - lifting the last floor board off with a prybar when a piece broke off the bar and flew into his forearm - just between the top of his glove and the cuff of his shirt. Drs said the fabric or even fat (R is very lean) would have slowed its progress. He was 6 hours in the hospital where they poked and dug and finally found the piece between two tendons and against an artery and decided to leave it there. He had a tetanus shot and is on a hefty dose of antibiotics. He was to have an MRI for a shoulder injury yesterday and come up today but the MRI has been postponed for a couple of months, and we will see how his arm is when they change the dressing. He needs to rest it. Fortunately it is his left arm and he is right handed but still...

The drs talked about future specialized surgery if the metal shifts or if he has lasting numbness in his fingers. I guess it will take a few more days to settle down so we can see what is happening.. My father got shrapnel in his shoulder in WW1 and it stayed there all his life and didn't cause him any problems. But, R does a lot of physical work with his hands and arms. I think R's challenge is to rest his arm specially these first few days. He doesn't take kindly to inactivity.

On the bright side, dd seems to be doing well with radiation therapy so far. And I have a dumpster organized for the 23rd . Sil and dgs will do the honours.

It is getting to the point where I am wondering what will come next. I was hearing on the phone about R's gory episode when Rocky who was sitting on the dresser looking out the window fell (or jumped?) behind the dresser, All I heard was a "thump". She was trapped behind there and tried to scrabble up the back then fled when I moved it so she could get out. Not like her at all.
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Golden, I'm glad that your daughter's treatment is going well, but yes, the rest DOES sound like a soap opera! (((((Hugs))))))
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golden: Hugs going out to you tonight.💕
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Sorry Golden, when it rains it pours it seems.

I never liked soap operas.

Just saying.
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Are my bones getting soft or what?! I bet it is just not paying attention to where I am going. Broke a toe, stubbing it on a door stop a few weeks ago, in the dark. Today, stubbed another toe on the coffee table, it is broken, middle of the day.

Good Grief!
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Glad, there is a lesson to be learned here. STOP STUBBING YOUR TOE!

Sorry..........hope you aren't in too much pain.

Hugs!
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glad: Hope that you heal quickly. Ouch!💕
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