I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Don't for heaven's sake do what I do and feel every suggestion she makes as a criticism of what you've been doing - it can make you into a very prickly person indeed. I'm trying to do better.
kat and henzoo... although I care for my mother and I know it's not the same as a spouse but... I hate to say it's refreshing to read that others are doing what my mother does but it kind of is. Solely in the I'm not alone category. The chanting and endless pacing had me buggy.
I've noticed that the changes in her aren't that subtle anymore either. We are not supposed to go by the "stages", however, with this mobility issue and rigidity starting I'd say 7a. Between my carer and myself we try and keep her movements going... we toss a beach ball back and forth and use those rubber band things to strengthen arms n legs.
Susan, thanks for the Overstock tip! I did order her one. A folding lightweight pretty blue one with a built in seat belt. Now I need to find a transfer board and an easier way to get her in the SUV. However... we have a program her called Dial-a-Bus. For $2.00 bucks they'll take us anywhere... especially Dr. Appointments. They have a lift and everything so it will make it that much easier on both her and I.
Lois is right, if you can get more help it is imperative to do so and find ways to make it a little easier. No point to run ourselves down if we can help it. Easier said than done... I know
About the coldness. He was hypothyroid, tho his blood tests were supposedly OK. After reading about it on several internet medical sites, I tried Iosol Iodine - just a few drops a day. The Dr. said it would not hurt him and it really helped.
He never registered a 98.6 degree body temperature- one sign that the iodine was needed.
He's been gone now for three months. I miss him, but know that he is at peace and where he said he wished to be, daily. We were married nearly 71 years - quite a big change.
Good luck - take care of yourself and don't wait too long to get help - do not run yourself down! Big hug going your way...
I mangled a watermelon one day, after I had clean up the mess and was back in the livingroom, hubby came in and was trying to tell me that THAT WOMAN in the kitchen didn't know what she was doing and made a big mess (so true) LOL
My heart truly goes out to you with loved ones with Alzheimers. What you live with on a day-to-day basis would take a saint to deal with.I wish I could hug each one of you; you are angels on earth.
She see's her primary doc first of next week. He needs to give her something a bit stronger to help her sleep at night. This just can't continue, it's too harmful to her well being. She needs to gain some strength back... I know she's tired. I just hate this stuff... just hate it. I couldn't get her in my SUV ... had to ask the neighbor guy to help me lift her in, bless his heart, he just scooped her right up and in she went. Then he gave me the biggest heartfelt hug. I just cried like a baby.
Yeah, it bothers me also when people question her. Even the dr and nurse where asking her silly questions even though I told them she can't answer them. You can see the frustration in her eyes... just stop there and simply ask me.
Well, I guess it's time to find a nice lightweight wheel chair for her. How do I solve the issue of getting her in my vehicle? Oh... she's also very rigid like? I asked them yesterday what is causing her rigidity? Why is the answer always "old age"?
kat, I am really sorry for what you're dealing with. There is such an inherently different emotional pain in having one's spouse ill and with such a sad illness.
Went next door to the grocery store and the guy that collects the carts rushed over to me grabbed the cart and said" I"ll put those in the back seat for you get in the car out of the cold young lady" Well I do enjoy the attention but am not sure about the young lady part. i guess when someone calls me "grandma' I will have to say I'm not your grandma" haven't decided yet. I don't mind people using my first name Mrs sounds stuffy these days.
2 staples in her head later.... bet her a** sleep tonight.
mine too.