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So funny you should ask. I just looked up her profile to see when she was here last. I'ts been a while......sept. I hope she's ok.
I see the heart Dr tomorrow for my 1 month check up. I want to know when my energy will be back!
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ba8alou, I haven't seen Garden Artist on here for awhile, I always enjoyed reading her postings, hope her Dad is doing ok.... haven't seen Texarkana in a couple months, either, wonder how her Mom, the dogs and the church ladies are doing..
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Freq, shopping is an activity to our parents. Like a concert or a museum would be for us. (Banging head) spent many the afternoon in Bed Bath and Beyond so that mom could examine toothbrushes and compare the price of tissues. Boni, so good to see you back! You taking care of yourself? Does anyone know where Garden Artist went?
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That is great news, looloo
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I hear that, FreqFlyer! I lived in VA for 16 years, and drove my kids up to the zoo in DC a few times, and have been on that beltway more than once. Those few times of driving that 6-to-8-lane insanity were enough for me. Give me my good ol' 2-3 lane rural highways here in Michigan. I'll take those any day. (We do have larger freeways around places like Grand Rapids and Detroit - I just avoid them whenever possible.) And don't get me started on my drive from Michigan to VA to see my son and driving on the turnpike....which involves going through a tunnel.
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SusanA43, I look back to when I was younger, one time I lived in Maryland and drove weekdays to northern Virginia, on the Capital Beltway, to get to work... and it was one hour each way... and I thought nothing of it. I want that old me back !!! Now I can't go any further than say 3 miles here in northern Virginia. Give me Mayberry :)
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Veronica, I am so ready to move to a 55+ retirement community myself... I can see it now, my parents call me wanting me to drive them somewhere and I would have to tell them no I can't because the community bus is taking us on a sightseeing trip, or the community is having a Hawaiian luau at the indoor poll :)

BoniChak, I do the same thing that you are doing for myself. Recently I bought some books on Aging Care and I was shy a few dollars, so I threw into my on-line cart "Eldercare for Dummies" and it has turned out to be THE best of the books I had ordered. Now if only I could convince Dad to do the same thing. Poor guy, he was an engineering and computer whiz back when he was in college in the 1940's, one of his buddies invented the capacity of memory for a computer. Dad use to write computer code, etc. but today's technology has him so baffled :(
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Looloo, that's excellent news! Yay for you!

Boni, glad to see you back in action! :-)

FreqFlyer...if you live in the area I think you live in, I can't blame you for not wanting to drive or shop. No thanks! I'm not a big city girl by any means. I have made ONE trip to Chicago my whole life, and though I *love* the cultural opportunities over there - so many things to see and do - I don't know if I'll ever go back, unless it's on an organized tour of sorts, where I don't have to drive myself. That was a nightmare.
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Tell him the shipping cost is less than the cost of gas to get there and he will be saving money. I do most of my shopping on-line, including groceries. I get free shipping often if I spend a certain amount. Sometimes buying one more little something for $3 will save you $8 with free shipping.
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Why don't you just move into ALS yourself, that would show him!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Wish I could convince my Dad that I really really really do hate shopping.... just because Mom loved to shop doesn't mean that all women love to shop.... [sigh]

I am trying to get my Dad [93] to shop via the Internet, then he can spend all afternoon in the Home Depot on-line store instead of having me roam around the real store with my empty cart while he decides what he wants and needs... usually at the check-out Dad has only one item. But Dad doesn't want to pay the shipping and handling associated with on-line stores [me banging head against wall].
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My whine just got turned upside down, yay :) The doctor agreed to provide the letter for my mother's banker. I can pick it up this week and bring it in. WHAT a RELIEF...
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Yay! I can post! Thanks AC. It looks like the post I was trying to do last night has gone through. Busy day, but will be back later. Thanks y'all. Extra thanks to Jessie
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Hey, Boni! Good to see you back. How are your doing, girl?
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Comming in loud and clear Boni over and out
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juddabuddhaboo, you are so right about drugs that can wreck havoc on one's body. I was put on what I call an anti-cancer drug after having breast cancer and that medicine was worse than having the surgery. After 4 years of dealing with all sorts of non-user friendly side effects, and trying different similar drugs, and trying different manufacturers because of the fillers, I had it... I stopped taking the meds. My risk of the cancer returning was about 12% so I decided to take that risk so I could live a more normal life. Even though I had stopped 8 months ago I still am having the side effects but not as severe, which tells me meds can latch on for months after the fact.

Are we having fun yet?
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Samara thank God for good neighbors. Borrow a pair of Moms depends but wear a pair of tight fitting panties of your own over the top. That keeps them snug enough to stop the you know what from running down your legs when the worst happens.
Fellow sufferer
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Yes folks yet another sleepless night with my mom, but my little sister is the best and she has sent me off for a 2 hr massage. So this is a whine and yay moment! Have a great day Caring ya'll
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My neighbor came to ask for 2 sticks of butter, and when she saw my pale face, offered to drive to Walgreens for some Pepto......usually I don't do OTC stuff but the gigner tea didn't seem to help (all day). So at least now I've had one whole hour of sanity! God bless those good neighbors.
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Oh Samaara..... I do hope you feel better by morning. We caregivers are not allowed to have sick days ya know?

Try your best hun... and my prayers are with you and a speedy recovery.
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I am suffering diarrhea / nausea, but somehow have to cure myself overnite, as I have to take my mom to her doctor in the morning.....if I cancel, it will be 6 or 8 wks before another opening. And she really needs to be seen. So I guess I will pray for miracule. There is no one else to take her to doc. And I feel so sick, but can't not go. Am taking ginger tea in hope it will help.
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I guess it is safe to say that I am NOT happy about ANY of this.

No matter whom I questioned... answers were looked at in "The Book".

No matter how many times I tell them mom is super sensitive to meds.... it's all clinical Look, I get it. I really do. BUT.... when I tell them what's been happening, and the ER see's NO response to pain......7 minutes for a Cat Scan....?? Really?

I almost caved today , almost.

Not ever again will I let this happen to her. Never again.,
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You said it all judda. What a f****d up world we live in.
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It's all about drugs, money, insurance companies, banks, drug companies, schools that teach healthcare is about drugs...healing the person, knowing the person, honoring the body wisdom, it's all out the windwo. Thus such stories abound.
Drugs never meant to heal. They "treat" symptoms while wrecking havoc with the rest of the body. Makes no sense to me.
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I am pretty pissed tonight. Thankful, but still annoyed!!

Long story really short, Doc took her off the Exelon patch which she;s been on for years!!!!! I questioned her going off rapidly he checked his book... said it was fine and put her on Depakote Grrrr. Asked the pharmacist the same question... is it SAFE to just stop a drug after years? He checked.... fine.

Meanwhile all hell ensued for weeks!

Dehydration. Serious confusion. Non responsive. Lethargy. Incontinence. You name it, my poor mother endured it

Today I video taped her.... took it to the docs office....saw docs nurse (whom I do adore) a few hours later, ON the patch again and off the depakote.

She's up, awake, ate a healthy dinner.

WTF is wrong with our medical system??
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of course , love andtolerance but sometimes when you see a person in a bad situation a closer look might reveal seriously skewed priorities that put them there . careful about helping the helpless . learned that as a young gut . id work 6 days a week then spend sundays lying under my junk automobiles trying to coerce them into getting me by for another week . it never failed on the way to work monday id see grown men broke down on the highway . i finally realized they partied or watched sports all weekend while i worked on my junk car . i learned to leave them by the roadside and go on to work on time .
had a nice day today . heather is working with me again for a while and like ive said shes very meticulous with instructions . we had a late start and still got a lot done .
going to chi this sunday for our alice cooper concert with cubicle and salad shooter . indoor theatre type venue . the music ought to be clean and sharp . the loud volume isnt necessary indoors so theres no distortion . looking forward to it .
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Cm, maybe about 3 years ago, my mother did stash a bit of emergency cash in her house. At the time, she showed me where it was, and told me the balance -- pretty substantial -- and said she would be adding to it. I always have to be so careful whenever I say anything to her, so I said something like, "I think you should have more than enough for any lengthy emergency!" She did her usual, which was to look through me and not acknowledge what I just said.
I strongly suspect that she has no recollection of her emergency stash, and that this is the latest dementia thing -- she's put her previous obsession w/her insurance aside, and now, she's onto this. I contacted her care person and said the bank visits were getting excessive, and do whatever's possible to NOT take her anymore. She does NOT need to be doing any banking. No need for any more cash for a VERY long while, all her purchases are done via credit card. I also spoke to her banker, and am STILL playing phone tag with her doctor, pleading for that letter. At this point I'm not sure what magical properties the doctor's letter posesses, but the banker keeps emphasizing that it will help him organize her accounts. We're currently co-trustees and joint account holders, so I think with the letter, he'd be able to give me authority--even though I already HAVE POA, he still wants the letter, so I'm doing my darndest to get it.
Captain, I hear ya about the "whackos". I just don't have the patience for most people and their own particular brand of crazy. Got my hands full, at the moment :)
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Captain, tradition has it that the defining difference between Yorkshiremen and Lancastrians is their attitude to humanity's little ways. The Yorkshireman says "t'whole world's cracked 'cept thee and me, and I'm none too sure about thee." The Lancastrian sighs and says: "there's nowt so queer as folk."

Love and understanding, sweetheart, love and understanding.
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the first old guy i just mentioned spent his last 20 or so years living with a neighbor lady . bout 4 years ago the lady passed away and her heir grandson came to town for the funeral . directly afterwards he withdrew all the money from her accounts that he was entitled to and hauled ass to las vegas with it . id like to think theres some middle ground between being a miserable old miser and spending thousands in inheritance in one weekend .. people are nuts . i see now why i dont have more friends . by the time you weed out all the wackos theres nobody left but aunt edna . shes demented and still more calculating and focused than anyone else i know .
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