I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I see the heart Dr tomorrow for my 1 month check up. I want to know when my energy will be back!
BoniChak, I do the same thing that you are doing for myself. Recently I bought some books on Aging Care and I was shy a few dollars, so I threw into my on-line cart "Eldercare for Dummies" and it has turned out to be THE best of the books I had ordered. Now if only I could convince Dad to do the same thing. Poor guy, he was an engineering and computer whiz back when he was in college in the 1940's, one of his buddies invented the capacity of memory for a computer. Dad use to write computer code, etc. but today's technology has him so baffled :(
Boni, glad to see you back in action! :-)
FreqFlyer...if you live in the area I think you live in, I can't blame you for not wanting to drive or shop. No thanks! I'm not a big city girl by any means. I have made ONE trip to Chicago my whole life, and though I *love* the cultural opportunities over there - so many things to see and do - I don't know if I'll ever go back, unless it's on an organized tour of sorts, where I don't have to drive myself. That was a nightmare.
I am trying to get my Dad [93] to shop via the Internet, then he can spend all afternoon in the Home Depot on-line store instead of having me roam around the real store with my empty cart while he decides what he wants and needs... usually at the check-out Dad has only one item. But Dad doesn't want to pay the shipping and handling associated with on-line stores [me banging head against wall].
Are we having fun yet?
Fellow sufferer
Try your best hun... and my prayers are with you and a speedy recovery.
No matter whom I questioned... answers were looked at in "The Book".
No matter how many times I tell them mom is super sensitive to meds.... it's all clinical Look, I get it. I really do. BUT.... when I tell them what's been happening, and the ER see's NO response to pain......7 minutes for a Cat Scan....?? Really?
I almost caved today , almost.
Not ever again will I let this happen to her. Never again.,
Drugs never meant to heal. They "treat" symptoms while wrecking havoc with the rest of the body. Makes no sense to me.
Long story really short, Doc took her off the Exelon patch which she;s been on for years!!!!! I questioned her going off rapidly he checked his book... said it was fine and put her on Depakote Grrrr. Asked the pharmacist the same question... is it SAFE to just stop a drug after years? He checked.... fine.
Meanwhile all hell ensued for weeks!
Dehydration. Serious confusion. Non responsive. Lethargy. Incontinence. You name it, my poor mother endured it
Today I video taped her.... took it to the docs office....saw docs nurse (whom I do adore) a few hours later, ON the patch again and off the depakote.
She's up, awake, ate a healthy dinner.
WTF is wrong with our medical system??
had a nice day today . heather is working with me again for a while and like ive said shes very meticulous with instructions . we had a late start and still got a lot done .
going to chi this sunday for our alice cooper concert with cubicle and salad shooter . indoor theatre type venue . the music ought to be clean and sharp . the loud volume isnt necessary indoors so theres no distortion . looking forward to it .
I strongly suspect that she has no recollection of her emergency stash, and that this is the latest dementia thing -- she's put her previous obsession w/her insurance aside, and now, she's onto this. I contacted her care person and said the bank visits were getting excessive, and do whatever's possible to NOT take her anymore. She does NOT need to be doing any banking. No need for any more cash for a VERY long while, all her purchases are done via credit card. I also spoke to her banker, and am STILL playing phone tag with her doctor, pleading for that letter. At this point I'm not sure what magical properties the doctor's letter posesses, but the banker keeps emphasizing that it will help him organize her accounts. We're currently co-trustees and joint account holders, so I think with the letter, he'd be able to give me authority--even though I already HAVE POA, he still wants the letter, so I'm doing my darndest to get it.
Captain, I hear ya about the "whackos". I just don't have the patience for most people and their own particular brand of crazy. Got my hands full, at the moment :)
Love and understanding, sweetheart, love and understanding.