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Caregivers need naps too :(
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That's why she is the mother and you are the caregiver!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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My whine moment today is that my mother, whom I sleep with, is that she had set a goal for today to start doing things for herself; taking her medicine on time, walking, making her own sandwich etc. Last night she decided to not sleep and kept me awake all night. While i have had to continue on with my day today as normal; grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry etc. She has been comfy sleeping in her lazyboy chair all day.
When do I get a nap?
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I am sorry for you, toomuch4me. My heart goes out to you. I hope you get the chance to move your toxic father out of your house. Or that you get the opportunity to move away from him. The relationship is abusive and I hope you put yourself first and soon. I pray you get peace and recognize that you don't owe him your life, health and happiness. He's a toxic person and just because he's your biological father doesn't mean you shouldn't cut him out of your life. Honoring parents is a two way street. It also means that parents honor their children by doing right by them. Honorable parents don't treat their children like doormats. Why you are stuck with him when he clearly has a better relationship with your sister is perhaps something you can share.
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Being a caregiver to someone you STRONGLY DISLIKE is not a good fit. Even as a child, I did not like my father. Now I can see why. He is very mean and two faced. My mother and I were very close. He was always jealous when she paid attention to me. He would refer to me as "that child" or "that girl". He would smile in my face and be playful then talk about me behind my back..horribly. Now that I am forced to live with him as an adult, I hate every moment. Physically he has come a long way. However he still sits around waiting to be served by me. If I do not bring his medicine upstairs, he tells me "you didnt bring me my pills young lady " as if I am an employee. When my sister comes around, he sits down next to her to watch TV, go to movies etc. Praises everything she does. Meanwhile he looks at my children like they are discarded trash. He only talks to them when my sister comes around. Being here brings back all of the memories of childhood. How he used to talk me like I was nothing but a fat loser. My children do not like him and I will not allow him to be nasty to them. He treats my oldest like crap. He gets jealous when my children want to be around my sister. After she goes home, he calls her up to complain about them. My sister has moved back to the same area. However her role is to stop by and entertain him for an hour then leave. He expects that I am going to wait on them like a good little slave woman. Im so frustrated and angry every day.
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Right there with you on the water intake, Jeanette! Mom has slowed way down on her water intake, and the last thing I want is her to be dehydrated or get a UTI, so I push the water intake while trying to keep up with the extra laundry it creates....kind of a double-edged sword.
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Hey all.... if you want rain water, it's here in Oregon.

All is fine... dealt with a bout of dehydration. (really? she drinks lots of liquids)
If they say so, then I guess it's so. (I''m monitoring all water intake now) Since I'm flooding her with water, she's peeing loads more, which means she's now peeing in the bed, her pants and the floor. OK. Least she's not dehydrated right? (she drinks more water than I ever have)

Sent my son a text saying grandma didn't feel so well and the paramedics took her to the ER. He posted it on FB!!! Then comes the calls from oldest bro. 3 of them.. I sent a text asking him if everything was ok? He said that's what HE wants to know. All is as to be expected. 2 days later the SIL in Alaska calls ( no, I do not answer) so.... guess who asks to stop by? Yes, the oldest bro. Haven't seen him (or anyone) in months I said, of course stop by. He does. Seems so uncomfortable watching mom, helping her eat or even hold her hand! Grrrrr

When he left I thanked him and told him he's off the hook now, he can go report to the other a**holes.
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CM, I find myself doing that as well - and it usually ends the same way every time...."Well, sorry, but I gotta go now!" (said by the sibling on the other end after they ask how Mom is doing and I have the nerve to actually TELL them exactly how she's doing...).

Learned the hard way to just keep my mouth shut. Older sibling today wanted to know what was going and and I told her I couldn't exactly talk at that point, but that it wasn't anything terrible, just what goes with the territory. She claims to understand because at one point, many years ago, she worked for a short time in an assisted living facility. Um...right church, wrong pew, sis. You may understand the basics, but you were performing those tasks for strangers - not your mother. Big difference.
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im gonna capture rain water as soon as i get myself a big water tank . the farm store sells em pretty reasonably . the renter has rural water running but i know the rural water here comes from lake edgewood . too many lakeside houses , no adequate septic fields . the renter can pay for that polluted swill if she wants but im going another direction .
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Susan, I was once so tired on the phone to my sister that I unthinkingly gave her a blow-by-blow account of the previous night's activities, right down to the bit where my mother tried to use her bedroom commode while I was already in the bathroom swilling out the last lot from the internal bucket. I could hear her hair curling from fifty miles away. Too much information…

Captain, don't worry about the developing nations. They never feel obliged to pay it back. Where I live there are cows down the road and we've got room for a pig and more chickens. Earlier on I was glumly wondering how hard it would be to dig a well - probably not too hard, but how are we going to heat the water I was using for my shower, eh? And my kids are all in London. I can't see them feeding 6-8 million people on the proceeds of the city farms. Mind you, there are plenty of rats, foxes and pigeons to go round before they have to start eating each other.
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pam. the us central bank has been enslaving growing nations for 200 yrs by loaning them money at rates that can never be repaid . the bric block nations are about to set up a global financial system that will challenge the usa and at least create competition . bric ? brazil , russia , india and china . i for one think its about time .
i dont have a whine today . i wanted to do something nice for edna so i got her a small cloth purse at goodwill and attached it to her wheelchair arm . its pretty nice for her cause she stashes things all over her chair and person , then loses track of them . i put a new turn signal switch in my truck and installed a free ceiling lite in my bunker . my fluorescents were getting so old theyd overheat and blink out every 45 minutes . that was getting old .
if anybody wants to hear an outrageous feminist joke , private message me . you know i love and respect women but this joke is funny .
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Whoops, I forgot to add that older sibling called and asked how Mom was doing (and of course, Mom is in the same room, so it's not like I can say much), so I said "ok" - well, then she wanted to know exactly what was going on. I had to gloss over it and say, "it's nothing really bad, just goes with the territory...". (sigh)
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Having a very surreal day....Mom is not doing all that great in the memory dept. this week, which means I have to follow her around like a shadow, making sure she puts on an incontinence pad (hard lesson learned there, 2 additional loads of laundry later, I "got it"), making sure she takes her pills, making sure I only give her what she can eat for ONE snack at a time (if I give her 2 snacks on her tray before I go to bed, she will eat them both at once and then raid the kitchen for more - like 3 ice cream bars in one night)....I'm starting to think maybe I should just stay up 24/7 to watch her....
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Captain, Dow chemical gave us panty hose, a stellar moment in the 20th century. And ummmm Hurst made shifters. Hearst owned the lumber, the paper mills, the presses and probably the newsstand too. Global banking? Iran set their own banks up after we repeatedly froze their accounts, Then China established it's own banking system. We continue to shrink.
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FF, one word: caterers.

Captain: we are? Blimey! - they kept that quiet!
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Your SO is very smart.
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Tomorrow is my Mom's 97th birthday.... Mom and Dad will be at my home on Sunday for a birthday dinner, cake and gift package opening. Past couple of years I have really lost my energy regarding birthdays, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter. I should be delighted to do these things but I have never been Martha Stewart, Julia Childs, or June Cleaver so entertaining is a project that totally stresses me out. Yikes, all the work involved. I get tired just thinking about it.

Maybe my sig other has the right idea... throw some money into a greeting card, buy a birthday cake put on some candles, sing happy birthday, and order carry-out. If I was a son, Mom would be just as delighted without all the fuss, stress and fatigue :P
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Hope you are right Capt. Lets hope it can be done peacefully You forgot to mention Monsanto and their genetic modification of our seeds.
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detroit residents are turning empty city lots into mini farms . i think the future is going to astonishingly resemble the past . the return of industrialhemp will be a game changer . motor fuel can be produced from hemp seed at the family farm level , and indeed was in the past . hurst and his timber empire wasnt the only conspirator that demonized hemp production . there was also dow chemical with its nylon products and big oil .
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i think good changes are coming . as ive mentioned der spiegel had a wonderful story last night about the dismal failure of capitalization and the global banking model . think tanks are admitting that producing trash products and shipping them around the globe is not sustainable . the usa just now produced the storage battery concept that will make wind and solar energy more reliable and also discovered a new type of safer nuclear fusion that may well negate the necessity for burning fossil fuels . im pretty optomistic about the future , we just have some very serious adjustments to make in moving forward . i think a form of communism is where we need to be . its already taking shape as the usa and uk are beginning to require community service in exchange for assistance . meanwhile the barter system is as vigorous as its ever been in history and growing in rural areas .
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Oh, My... I've done my share of canning, but mostly fruit. Our eldest daughter 'put up' enough meat and veggies to last them on a sailing voyage in the Carribbean back in the 70's. She still has the boat, plus several nice motorcycles to re-cycle, now that she is widdowed. She and her hubby were adventurers. We talk a lot now that I am a widdow along with her... are planning a River Cruise next year together...

But I digress.. It is really just horrible that we must think of the end of times - I was born at exactly the right time, I believe - had the best of the old and the new. 'Just hate to think of what might be happening next and fear for the future for my seven grandchildren and three great-grands...

I wish you all and all of your dear ones make it through - lets all pray a lot and get the country/world back on track..

We need to imbue those 'statesmen' in DC with a lot more Godliness and less political might and live up to our Great Constitution. There! Sermon over..
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Maybe there would be a shortage of the stuff that fuels their foolishness!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I doubt anyone would wan't home canned stuff. They can take my store brought supplies, they won't have an idea how to make their hamburger bun with my pail of raw grains or make a hay box cooker. What fun lies ahead.
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i have a gasoline generator veronica but part of the reason im canning is so i could live fine without power if necessary . ya know i always meant to test my moonshine in a small gasoline engine to see if it would run but its something i just never got around to . we are led to believe that creek water has too many parasites for human consumption but im saying BS . our family lived most of my childhood drinking and bathing with " filtered " water from our muddy pond . by filtered i mean it was only strained thru a few tons of pea gravel before being pumped into the house .
i dont think civil unrest will ever be an issue in the usa . law enforcement is incredibly powerful and have the ability to arm millions of deputized civilians in a matter of hours . im not paranoid of law enforcement . the dealings ive had with them in the last few years show them to be pretty civil if you treat them with a bit of respect . at one hearing i had for petty vandalization the judge asked me right away if i was in a position of elder care . they were taking that burden into consideration when i myself didnt realize the potential for frustration and lashing out that came with the caregiving gig . i was thrown in the slam and given a semiprivate cell instead of being thrown into an overcrowded drunk tank .
i have 7 more qts of venison on but this time im bringing the temp up very casually .
in ww11 the germans had fuel availability problems and they built double chamber wood stoves to run their trucks . the wood fire in the bottom chamber done nothing but scorch wood in the top chamber . the gases from the scorched wood were combustible enough to run the engines .
ive read that in the event of a complete breakdown in society that kids / teens would be your worst potential enemy . they wouldnt have sense enough to barter so they might try to take what they want by force . im way ahead of em . i plan to cook em and eat em .. suckers !!
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Capt can you put something on the hot plate so the canner is not in direct contact while heating up. mayo jars are definitely not strong enough for the pressure. i use regular jam jars for jam and the original lids. It you fill them as full as possible the lids will seal themselves as they cool and suck the center of the lid down. It keeps just fine that way no need for refrigeration or anything. Works for hot pickles too so if you have the lids those mayo jars can be used that way.
What are you going to do for power when TSHTF? Just curious - I have my own ideas
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I bet that it was pressure canner mishaps, not regular pressure cookers, that are what people remember when they tell you they'd never have a pressure cookers. And captain, your grandkids will have good memories of "putting things by" - I canned, sun dried, pickled, did cloth diapers and my kids are have integrated all they osmosed in their lives today. It really is critical that our kids learn these skills like gardening and seed saving -
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i had a couple of jars of venison break last night . it was because i heated the canner too quickly . i heard them snap as the cycle was starting . the bottoms came out of the jars neatly and without a stray shard . i carefully salvaged the meat anyway . the venison is so tender that a person with no teeth could eat it . ill run 7 more quarts tonight and put another spacer in the bottom of the canner and of course bring it up to temp more slowly . i noticed all the loudmouthed jars i used were old mayo jars too . fine for water bath but no go for pressure canner . my electric range sucks too . it regulates by coming full on and then shutting off periodically . that isnt helping one bit .
ill get it right . its been 15 years since i pressure canned anything .
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Not an outcome I am planning Susan but I do remember many accidents in the '50s when pressure cookers first hit the market of explosions. there were even some deaths if I recall. The secret to not having jars crack is to heat the jars and fill with hot food before placing them in hot water in the canner.
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Veronica - funny you should mention the old canner. I very distinctly remember my mom using one of those to can concord grape juice - her first attempt - and somehow, one of the jars broke inside the canner and the pressure sent the weight flying off and ricocheting around the kitchen, followed by a solid stream of scalding hot, deep purple liquid shooting out of the top of the canner like a grape geyser! She had purple-stained tea towels for years.
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Pam we are at 1600 feet so all pressure canning has to be for longer and at 15 lbs per sq inch. I have an old canner with a weight would like to upgradw but can't justify the expence.
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i read online last night that the electricity used for canning is miniscule in comparison to running a deep freeze year round . id never thought about it in that light before . ive just never felt the same security in having a freezer full of food that could go bad in a few days without power as the security i feel with a cellar full of preserved food .
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