I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
linda, i was just talking to the 83 yr old man upstairs . after a bout of gout he was told that everything was bad for him . this guy is the picture of good health and takes no meds at all . i dont think hes going to give up anything ..
They just put me on zans. I will take as directed and be aware of the addictive effects. Giving up cigarettes and sweets might trigger a new addiction. I need to find a healthy one fast as a prevention. Man, I wish I still liked sex. sigh.
wine can be made with any recipe. the pressure canner only distilled it into 150 proof shine .
How I would love to come to IN, put you to bed, cook you healthy, YUMMY meals, take care of your aches and pains, and dole out your meds.
Unfortunately....... you are such a major horn dog, that once you saw how hot I am, you would be much to hard to handle. Oh well. ;)
my health was pretty good untill I retired at 68 then all the problems reared their ugly heads and I get in trouble for refusing some of the advice and investigations. Why find out if there is nothing you are going to do about it and the darn medicine might poison me anyway. I told one very nice lady dr this morning she could describe me as "an elderly non complient retired RN"
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i usedta make and bottle wine but after learning to distill it in my pressure canner i never bottled any more up , only made 151 brandy .
not a good hobby for me . doc said my kidney numbers only recently showed up high . thats bs . my va data online has shown elevated kidney readings since a failed interferon treatment 7 yrs ago . i called the nurse telling her my kidneys hurt just a couple days before the treatment was aborted . i should have drank considerably more water during this last treatment but i was never told why , only to drink plenty of water . i still dont drink enough of the crap . haveta find some kind of solution for that and start eating more properly too . more immediately i think i have a zan addiction going on . i scarf em down two weeks a month then dont feel like i need em the remainder of the month . im not embarrassed about it , its one more thing i have to fix . doc dont know ive been abusing tramadol either . ill bet my kidney readings will look much better in december . i stopped to talk to a 71 yr old friend this am about his lifestyle . charlie is probably the oldest hippie i know . hes quite healthy , has given up all but a couple puffs of weed a day and doing quite well .. MOST old people give up their vices but not one dam minute before theyre forced to ..
im just realizing when i dont have zans i get agitated . not visibly but physically . the liver hates stress more than any other organ so it gets pissed . duh . it requires zans to get to normal -- the very definition of an addiction ..
try terminal dementia caregiving for 6 yrs without some kind of crutch and let me know how that goes . lol . thats why im not embarassed to discuss the matter ..
Dad called me this afternoon saying Mom doesn't want to go.... she wants to keep her Will the same [oh dear, that Will is a landmine it's so out of date].... so I went over to their house....
Turned out Mom thought tomorrow was the signing of the new Wills without her input.... Mom didn't realize it was an initial meeting just to chat with the attorney [Dad tends to fail to talk these things over with her].... once she realized she won't be signing any papers she was willing to go.... WHEW !!
If it wasn't for this website, I would have had a huge hissy fit, but I kept my cool :)
It would be astonishing if your poor kidneys weren't complaining after all they've been through - did they say anything about what kind of damage and whether it's reversible?
i have a construction friend who had a heart attack a couple of years ago . he was flown to indy , had bypass surgery and was back home in his own bed in a matter of 24 or so hours . medicine is sure changing . our local hospital has hardly any inpatients now. in fact the third floor is a makeshift dementia institution . too many years we kept building hospitals for the sake of job creation till the system became unsustainable .. equally good medical care can be provided in a dam army tent and has been in the past and present . i still say indy va is the future of medicine . go directly to blood draw , the analyzed results will be on your docs pc in 45 minutes or less . there is no guesswork , all BLOOD work .. prescriptions are ready for pickup in the pharmacy in a matter of ten minutes after doc visit is over . must be a lot of malcontents up there bucking for ptsd disabilities tho . ive seen the va police force grow from one man 15 years ago to a force of 15 - 20 officers now . every now and then some clown will come cruising down a hallway yelling all kinds of conspiracy crap . two unamused officers arent usually but a few paces behind him .
its sad when my life is so boring that a va visit becomes a social event for a day .. meh . still better than popcorn and movies. bletchhh ..
How I wished I was back in the hospital [decades ago one would stay 7 days in the hospital after major surgery... today it's out-patient].... one could heal quicker staying in the hospital [yes, I know, more risk of catching something], there were professionals changing your bandages, someone cooking 3 good meals, someone cleaning, and always someone stopping by from the hospital team. At home, if you are a woman, you are pretty much on your own. Thank goodness my sig other didn't say "what's for dinner?" the day I came home :P
i dont think my kidney function is terrible veronica . the letters are the va,s way of making us take some responsibility . i just do not drink much water . sitting here swilling some right now i can see why . this tastes like a combination of assrot and pvc glue ..
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Capt you only recently lost your mom and before you had time to really grieve took on your aunt and now that will also soon be over. that leaves you with no elders in your like you are the top rock on the pile and it's lonely up there.
How bad did the VA say your kidneys are ? Good idea to give all up all your vices. start with the pills and booze. Are they talking dialysis or just trying to frighten you into a healthier life? Lots of things to consider but start by the obvious ones.
I usually stand in the kitchen for 10 minutes chatting then I need to leave.... I know my parents hadn't talked to anyone else but each other, and Mom is hard of hearing now, but I am just too tired.... plus their home is way too hot which makes it hard for me to catch my breath. I hate to chat and run.
If only they would have moved into that beautiful retirement community just down the road.... [sigh]
((((hugs))))
Boni, take back what you said!!!
Nah, don't think I will be asking any of my brothers for anything. If they cannot see the obvious or have any emotion when it comes to their mom, who am I to bring it to them. They are my OLDER brother's. You'd think they would know better. Even if they dislike me....it is no excuse. None. Once upon a time a year or so ago, all 3 of them had the nerve to get mad at me for allegedly portraying them as "monsters' on FB. This is when they lied about where they were taking mom and left her unattended and she fell....black eye, bloody nose...and not one of them cleaned her up or got her ice, just drove an hour home for me to take care of. So... yeah, if the monster shoe fits... they wear it very well.
Lisa, my caregiver will be here tomorrow. We work well together and if need be, she is willing to extend her hours. Much better than my useless brothers. I once read a post on here... the person was asking if they should even notify the sibs if the parent passed away. At that time I thought it was an awful thing. Not anymore. It's as if she's already gone from their lives and they just keep going as if nothing matters. Sorry, I just do not get it nor do I want to.
Anyway, she enjoys going for rides now, so we shall do just that. :)