I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I suspect the moral might be, unfortunately, that there is no halfway house between do-it-yourself, i.e. yourself, and the skilled professional. What really used to stick in my throat wasn't the mess, or the time wasted, or the fact that it didn't actually save any serious money in the end - it was the obligation to smile and be grateful. Even light-hearted quips like "oh! - and you've even done the carpet, too - shall we get another can of paint and finish that bit in the corner?" were misunderstood as base ingratitude.
I picture you and your mother sitting there in the garden with pickets' billboards saying "can we come in yet?" and "is it safe?" Oh boy, what a homecoming! Hope you're both settled in again soon.
We'll get through it - I'm just frustrated with it. And now, when I should be out picking up the cat/birds from the sitter, I'm waiting for mom to come out of the bathroom. She is SO close to a fall, I can almost see it coming. Her back is hurting a lot from the trip, and she requires my help to get up out of bed now, and very tipsy when she walks to the bathroom....I can just see this fall coming, it's just a matter of time. (She will stay in one spot when I'm gone to get the critters and groceries - bed or chair, one or the other.) We have another vacation trip coming up later this year - and I'm worried. I keep asking her if she thinks she'll be able to do it, and she's determined to...so we'll try. Her mobility is declining so quickly, though.
My whines for you kiddo !
Not easy but you will get through it after all you get through everything else. Dusty Hugs
Returned from vacation last night w/Mom to find that my friends who were supposed to have 2 rooms and a hall in our home painted when we returned didn't complete the job - in fact, they were still in the house, windows wide open, yelling at each other to hurry up when we pulled in the drive. They had plenty of notice that we were on the way, and kept asking for another hour and a half...then another hour...I finally said, "Sorry, but we've been on the road for 12 hours and we are coming HOME. Mom is exhausted!" So we get there, and they're still scrambling to clean up and finish everything - so I get mom out of the van and into her lawn chair and I start unloading the van so I can get stuff in the house as soon as we're allowed entry. For the next hour and a half, Mom and I sit on the lawn, surrounded by our suitcases, boxes, bags and dog....like some kind of refugees from a third world country. Mom's cranky as heck, and so am I. Even the dog is looking grouchy.
We finally are allowed to enter....and it looks nice...except that they didn't finish. The trim in the living room has been removed and is in pieces on the floor, not painted - so that has to be done. Everything is covered in a fine layer of dust, because they neglected to use the drop cloths I bought to cover things - including all the dishes in the cabinets (doors were removed to paint cabinet frames, so dishes were all exposed), my computer desk and everything on it, including my computer and keyboard, the telephone, the glass-topped stove, pots and pans....everything. I couldn't even cook a meal here today. I had to go out and pick food up. The ceiling in the living room needs another coat, as do the windowsills - I can see major thin spots in the paint. I mean, I know they're not professionals, but the job was just too rushed. The thing is, I knew they had other things going on this week that were going to occupy their time, so I told them if they couldn't do it, not to worry about it, we'd do it later - but they insisted on getting it done.
I'm not a super neat freak, but....come on now! (Did I mention I'm paying for this work? It's not being done as a favor. I laid out a huge amount of money before the trip to buy the supplies, only to come home and find I have to spend hours cleaning up.)
So my day has consisted of:
-wash laundry from trip
-help mom get out of bed and back in (she's exhausted, has slept all day)
-wash sheets after mom wet the bed
-wipe up floor from bed wetting incident
-more laundry from trip
-pick up "lost" incontinence pad found on bathroom floor and wonder if Mom has one on...
-run out and pick up dinner from a local diner, because I can't use any of the dishes or pots/pans here yet (and we don't have a dishwasher, unfortunately - but trust me, it's on the list)
-10 hours of work for clients (a work in progress)
-restock groceries (haven't done yet....)
-pick up cat & birds from sitter (not done yet)
-clean out van and wash it after our off-roading adventure (not done yet - it's 89 degrees out there...probably do that around 10pm when it finally cools down)
(sigh.)
Its a mess and until i get POA theres nothing i can do. I just hope i get on this plane as im burntout with her now i shake when i hear her getting up and have been avoiding her lately as shes in a right mood. I just have to hang in here and see what doc says but dont you know she will act out a right little play with him but i dont think this guy is that stupid! Roll on holidays do you know im actually nervous about being out there again and socialising??? HELP! what a life!!
The cost of your glasses is shocking. Will the big clinic give you a prescription that you can have filled elsewhere. In case you don't know it is not necessary to change the frames each time, they can just pop in new lenses.
Good idea about getting rid of the pain that certainly worked for you. Are you bending your neck back at work to see your monitor, that can get very painful and cause headaches especially as you have osteoporosis and you neck probably has some damage. Try sitting on a big cushion so your monitor is at eye level or lower. I sit in a recliner with my laptop on a board on my knees so I am looking down slightly and that is very comfortable as my arms are also supported.
Wow... never thought I'd miss work!
I use computer glasses, they computer glasses has been a godsend for me.... I have anti-glare on mine.
Same here regarding water, never was a big water drinker, just a bad habit. I've heard where ice cold water can give one a headache and/or stomach ache .... For me, I have my water at room temperature and that helps.... out of all the bottled water out there, I prefer Deer Park... I keep a bottle at my desk at work, in sight, to remind me to drink it.
With this last eye glass, the doc asked me how often am I on the computer. When I said all day at work and then at home, he took that into consideration with my new eye glass. With the progressive lens, it works perfectly as I use this laptop because my eyes are looking down. At work, my computer is a desktop. So, it's in a higher position - the position of my lens for seeing far. I will see if the regular optometrist is able to issue an eye glass just for reading a computer at eye level.
After I posted here, I went and rested on the sofa bed. OMG, my headache pain was really pounding. I swear, I felt my vessels expanding as if about to explode. Have you ever tried that? Just lie down, with your eyes closed and just Concentrate on the pain? It was very painful and scary. After a while, I felt the pain easing off. But I continued to rest my eyes until I felt no more pain. The Excedrin finally kicked in.
CM, I rarely drink water. I can't stand the taste. When I try to drink water, my stomach starts heaving. I've tried putting lemon in it, with ice, flavored water from the store - and it made my acid reflux act up. Thanks for the reminder. I will try to make it a point to drink at least 1 16oz bottled water a day.
I ended up getting some prescription
My other half used to do headstands in the office when he got computer headaches. If you're not a yoga fan, you could try taking a two-minute break and walking/stretching in the fresh air, maybe? Your brain is asking for more blood! Wish you better x
Kaz... so sorry you felt my question's annoyed you so much. I was being concerned for YOU, since you do not have poa. Here in the US it can get a bit sticky. Again... not my business, just an observation. Enjoy your Holiday :)
Lots of nice people send me Hugs but the total never goes up.
So someone round here must be stealing them when I am not looking.
No I am not paronoid, but thanks for asking.
Whoever you are you can put them back no questions asked.
I suspect it is a Troll they never get any.
Then the grocery store offered on-line grocery shopping which is GREAT !!!! You order and the next day just drive up to the front of the store and your order is put into the car. OMG, what a time saver. Had to laugh, I took Dad so he could see how the pickup worked and he said "first time I've been grocery shopping and didn't need to unbuckle my seatbelt" :)
Seems like your mum is quite dependent on that card, what is she going to do if you have it with you?
I don't think I could hate someone who just spent a lot of money on a vacation for me. Even though I'm sure it's earned.