I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Glad it didn't upset you though sallie :)
Nowadays, as I'm getting older, though, I'm finding my adventuresome spirit is tempered somewhat by my reluctance to deal with all the hassles of traveling with very young children or very old ones (as in my mom - lol). I dragged my feet and really just didn't want to come on this trip this time, and couldn't figure out why. Now I know why - because of all the hassle. Mom started out doing well on the trip, but now is being more difficult to deal with than usual, requiring me to help her dress (which she never does at home), resisting showering (even though everything is set up here for her to shower - in fact, it's easier than at home, because it's a step-in shower, not a tub), refusing to walk 10 steps across the motel room to get a snack (requesting I get it instead) - even though she walks about 18 steps across the room to get to the bathroom - probably because that's the ONE thing she can't ask me to do for her!!
The good thing about this trip, though - my brother and his family joined us for the first 3 days of the trip and made the journey up here with us - so when we stopped, they stopped, and he and his wife now have a full understanding - I hope - of what I have to deal with getting Mom in and out of the van, getting her to go to the bathroom when she should, etc. (At one point, she was refusing to get out of the van to go to the bathroom and had been sitting in the van for about 2 hours - my SIL was trying to convince her to get out and stretch her legs and go to the bathroom - Mom looked right at her and said, "I DON'T FEEL LIKE IT" in a tone that made my SIL walk away.) So I'm trying to look at it with a positive light - at least some of the family is now seeing what I'm dealing with on a daily basis.
I well know what it is like travelling with toddlers. two of mine were under 18 months when we made our first travelled to the US and it took us two days. Total nightmare especially as I did not want to come anyway 15 years later began our adventures with horses, not only do they need an unimaginable amount of gear but they also need a seperate conveyance which they may or may not decide they are prepared to climb on. Oh happy days.
...and people wonder why we drive a big conversion van w/handicap lift in the back. We need it to haul all her stuff!
Don't get me started on the motel room beds. Great beds. Comfy beds. But entirely too tall for Mom, who, as I mentioned, is very short. Sooo..when it comes time to get her into bed, she puts one knee up on the bed and I shove from the other side to roll her into bed in some sort of weird looking tandem ballet move. This occurs any time she wants to get into bed - so about 5 times a day and 4 times a night - meaning she wakes me up to get her back into bed after she goes to the bathroom at night.
Learning new and interesting ways to cope and deal with things here....
In the marketing people's minds, too, cats are girls and dogs are boys. But then in the Boddington's Bitter - "the Cream of Manchester" - ad campaign the cow character was voiced as a boy, too, and quite frankly they really hadn't thought that one through.
I hope your boy cats were neutered? I'm just picturing your mother trying to figure out what on earth those funny little round fur balls were on the cats' bottoms… :0º
My sis(bitch) still hate her right now! said mum should be in a home HERE do you know why so she can flit in easy from airport she dosnt give a sh*t that mum would be in a NH miles from me but luckily she dosnt get to make these decisions as im the "caregiver" mum will go where i decide. My sis wants its all mum in a home near the airport so she can visit mum AND visit her friends win win! for her!
I never knew selfish until mum got ill i cant ever see us getting on ever again. But i will say my piece when mum goes then move on.
Sallie like ive just written "ask your angels for help" if you dont then i will ask them for you! weve been through crap ive had a hard life what with mum and dad killing each other then my own ex being abusive lots of failed relationships now this crap with mum i deserve to be happy and youre too darn right i will be i havnt gone through all this for nothing!! I do believe the good you do comes back to reward you tenfold and my reward is coming!!
Stuff my siblings they will never be happy i am determined to get exactly what i want out of life when mum passes i will be so happy people will think im NUTS why is that woman always smiling? HA!
Watch this space! We all gotta have dreams if not whats the point! Where do i see myself in a years time my own home, a nice man, two donkeys, my cat and a golden retriever dog! You have to believe it will happen and ask for it!!
I have been doing this now since last year since my friend got me asking my angels for help! my life is bad BUT not as bad as it was and when i need a few things i buy a scratch card and win a small amount IE the other day as im going to spain i saw this fab dress beautiful colours etc i wanted this dress but couldnt afford it i went away bought a scratch card and asked the angels to get me that dress "i won 20 euros" the dress was 25 and im now looking at it!
I light a candle every night and beg for an end to all this suffering for mum for me even though i dont feel it my friend says things are moving along fast. And if i think about it things are moving mum is progressing and now shes fallen out of bed so i think its only a matter of time beofore something happens and the nurses and docs will take this more seriously!
Try it Book i was a big sceptic but i have to say since dad dies and spooky things happened to me i definetly believe. You have to believe for things to happen! Its worth a try!
The woman in the taxi said you must be lucky as shes seen me win a few times i told her about the angels and now in the past month she has won over 200 dollars?? So go figure!!
I do money rituals also as im desperate! yes im turning into a white witch! I have angel cards and i do them everyday to see what crap is ahead of me and its spooky i know when something is going to happen.
Also as its not that easy to attract good things "thank the angels for all that you are grateful for so far" the more you do this the more will come to you. I do this every morning brushing my teeth!!
You can ask your angels anything you want Green candle for money,red for health pink for love which is what im doing now so i am bound to meet a man on my holidays!!
Trust me try it i am not nuts!! let me know if anything in your life changes!! and good luck if i happen to win the lotto before you i will send you on a nice holiday!!
Anyway, I pick up the phone huffing and puffing, and she's terribly upset and completely confused. She had a very hard time telling me (what I think happened but can't be sure) that she called her dr. She's not able to process much at all, especially anything procedural. I had to explain again, exactly what took place, that led to this decision, and that there really is no recourse (I had responded to all of her ranting about taking action by making mostly noncommital "we'll see" type noises. It was the best I could do at the time). After this conversation, it seemed to sink in. God, I really hope so. She actually stated that she would then need to get rid of her car, wouldn't she? And I told her I'd help her with that.
Now, my mom has always been a narcissistic, critical, disapproving, rather mean-spirited, pain in the a**. But she told me, "Thank you for breaking the news to me so gently." I don't think she was being sarcastic (believe me, my ears really pricked up to decipher what she REALLY meant). So, I was thrown a bit by that. And I told her I'd call her today to see how her first appt. w/the home care person went, which I don't really want to do.
I told my husband it's a shame there's no holder for a shot glass on the treadmill, because I really could have used one! The sadness of it all just hit me, and I really prayed that this "Groundhog Day" of giving bad news would just please end. I think this hurdle has passed, so that is good. Now, onto the next one, sigh...
I always daydream of winning. I would choose the yearly stipend. On the first year, I would give to all my siblings. The ones who helped me (physically, morally, etc...) would get the larger portion. The non-participants would get a measly amount. After that, the yearly stipends would go to me and those who supported me. It sure would be nice to win. I just reminded myself. I need to pray tonight fervently for Karma or mother nature to please let me win the local giveaway. I don't even have to be present to win.
Kazzaa the point is that I care about YOU. And the point about that is, that I think hating people is bad for the person that does the hating. So I don't want people I care about and sympathise with to get sucked under by feelings that harm them and don't get them anywhere. That's all. I'm not lecturing anybody about their moral shortcomings - apart from anything else, I'm not in a position to. Big hugs.
Also CM we had a break in, the back door was KICKED in we had NO back door for 3mths had to put stuff up against it to stay safe?? my sisters even with my screams wouldnt pay for a new door so you can imagine how that makes me feel about them!