I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Sure, fly in and visit for 3 hours once a year and decide you know how to fix a stubborn man with with a broken brain. 😡😤👿
AND I am not at all ready for another presidential campaign season!
I would be tempted to stay on an island. Sip a tropical beverage for me!
❤️🙂
I’m sorry that on top of the sick calls today you had to hear the neighbors gossiping . That’s terrible . They have not got a clue I’m sure of what is really going on .
It’s 82, sunny with a nice breeze right now in Aruba . I don’t want to leave this Island and go home 😭😭😭😭
I am sorry that your caregiver called in sick.
About the neighbor, try to ignore her. She has absolutely no idea what you are going through so she shouldn’t be talking about you.
I hope that your caregiver returns soon.
It’s 78 degrees here and sunny!
We have the long, hot and humid summers. My daughter hates the humidity and I think that’s why she fell in love with Denver.
Let’s face it, the Rocky Mountains are beautiful. We are flat as a pancake here.
She loved being able to drive to Vail, Breckinridge and other parts of Colorado to experience being in the mountains.
I can’t imagine living with snow like you have. My daughter and her Siberian husky miss the snow in Colorado.
I am still puzzled about my southern daughter loving the snow! Her dog loves to play in the snow.
venting - sure it's caregiving. Hope you figure out a way to avoid this hole again
need sorry about your dh's foot problem. I hope it is easily fixable and that's the last of it for a while.
way - don't you love the armchair experts! NOT!!!!
My whine - it snowed and all grass is white again, and it is still snowing ❄🌨❄
I first thought it could be gout. Foot issues can be related to the antibiotics as a side effect.
They are going to do an ultrasound and testing to see if they can find out what is causing the swelling and pain. Meanwhile, he will continue hobbling around on crutches.
I feel there is a difference between enabling and helping someone over a hump.
I have no issue with helping someone over a hump when they simply need a push to get started.
Anyone can find themselves in a position of needing a little bit of help now and then.
I’m talking about a person who has suddenly lost their job or something of that nature. In other words, someone who didn’t bring their circumstances upon themselves.
I think it is incredibly difficult not to want to try and fix things that are going downhill fast.
Whenever I foolishly tried to fix something beyond my control I made things worse for myself and them. I had to learn the hard way to step away.
I was young and naive. It was also about trying to spare others pain. I would have given anything for my parents not to have to deal with my oldest brother’s issues.
I learned that no matter who said what, my brother was not going to listen to reason. He was in too deep and sadly he lost his life to drugs.
He was a talented person who owned his own business and had a wife and children only to lose it all due to his addiction. He wouldn’t go to rehab. God knows, I tried to get him to go. He was an interesting guy. He would go cold turkey and stay sober for awhile and then relapse again.
Knowing that drugs cost him his life breaks my heart. It’s been years since he died and I still find it disturbing.
We don’t stop loving our family because they are not making wise choices. We may hate what they have done. We can’t allow them to rob us of our lives.
Even after we succeed in not being overly involved, we still hurt inside. Healing takes time.
Sometimes we find beautiful surprises in life and other times we feel frustrated, hurt and sometimes even angry, but mostly just plain sad about certain things. I had to see a therapist for quite awhile before I was able to get a grip on my emotions.
Your doctor should never have told you steps don't matter. Any activity is better than none.
My ortho doctor told me to walk as much as I'm able to. Use the stationary bike too. Even if you're not getting your heart rate up it's still benefitting your health.
Walking or riding the bike even at a slower pace helps build strength and stamina. It also helps with circulation and muscle tone.
You keep walking at any pace you can.
I feel like I'm making little bits of progress; hopefully, DD will find her footing.
Thank you so much for your beautiful post on Lea's thread today!
My own DD has been learning the consequences of 'swooping' herself lately. She saw what I did from a step away.. yet I suppose one must live it to really learn.
I am about to watch her take a big step into the unknown.. for better or worse time will tell. It's all *experience*.
I'm following JoAnn's 'show the way' not 'be the way' too.
You know, I learned the concept of "swooping" here.
As long as I was always stepping in to be the solution, the problem wasn't getting solved.
Glad that your husband received good news and that they were able to cauterize the vein.
Also very happy that you are able to spend time with your granddaughter.
I think it is horrible how some families use children as pawns and don’t allow children to see extended family, grandparents, aunts or uncles because they aren’t seeing eye to eye at the moment.
Problematic daughter and I have been able to have civil convos via text around granddaughter care and pick up.
I am finding that restraining myself from over-doing for her (volunteering to pay for stuff mostly) feels good. So much less resentment on my part.
At times, it shows that the post didn’t go through. Then quite a while later the post will show up.
I have had this happen when sending or receiving texts on my phone. A delay in seeing the text. It’s supposed to be sent immediately but sometimes there are quirks!
Checking to see if I can post again. I have only been able to send and receive messages.
The site wouldn’t allow me to post on the forum. Quite a few people have had difficulty with posting on the forum.
Before that, I couldn’t even login to my account.