I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
He had minor surgery. We were told that it went well.
Then Easter evening he started running a fever. The nurse who answered the 24 hour calls said to go to the ER.
The ER doctor ran test and put him on antibiotics. He was sent home with scripts for antibiotics too.
Now he is saying that he has seen blood in the toilet after using the bathroom.
His follow up appointment is in early May.
He sent a message to his doctor on his portal.
My DH’s digestive system hasn’t been normal since he had his surgery. Then Easter evening a fever set in. He was sent home with antibiotics. Now he is telling me that he has seen blood in his stool a couple of times. I asked if it was on the toilet paper only or in the toilet. He said it was in the toilet.
He sent a message to the nurse on his portal. His follow up appointment with his surgeon is in early May.
And behold, the waters were smoothed!
If only it were that easy every time.
Also, my youngest looks a bit like a young Louise Fletcher, so one Hallowe’en she went to school as Nurse Ratched. Nailed the costume! Bwaaaa ha ha ha haaaaaa!
Went with DH to talk tough love to FIL about letting staff help him. I played Nurse Rachet . ( movie reference ) . We will see what happens . If this doesn’t work, I give up.
The thing is, my dh has always been long-winded. BUT with his MCI (mind cognitive impairment), it's gotten cringingly worse.
We made it through triage quickly and a lovely young nurse comes in to take his history. 10 minutes into him telling the story of how his aortic aneurysm was discovered after a stressful day at work where his boss yelled at him (telling the story of the chiro he went to the day before, his PCP the next day, the cardio doc the day after, the stressful family party...).
After I interrupted, told her what she needed to know and she left he said to me "was that too long?"
I told him all they needed was the FACT that he had an artifical valve and a Dacron aorta. He was shocked to find out that they didn't want to know WHY he had an aortic aneurysm. The next person who came in asked why he was on blood thinners. He told her "just the facts"--artificial valve, replaced aorta, on Warfarin for 15 years.
He seemed truly shocked that it was that simple.
All in all, it was only a 4 hour visit. His last nose bleed was a three day admission, so I really have nothing to whine about.
Maybe we made some progress!
glad - hope the stretching is helping
need - huskies are hard work to walk
ana - those kitties can be a bit destructive but they do walk themselves.
One thing I will pass on, as even at 85 I don't have much in the way of joint problems, is that I eat an anti inflammatory diet. Inflammation causes problems of all sorts.
I don't eat the white stuff - sugar, bread, baked goods and try to stay away from processed foods - i.e. cook from scratch. I do eat foods with antioxidants - berries , dark chocolate, tea, coloured veggies, don't eat as much red meat as poultry, eat nuts and seeds, very few grains, (a few slices of bread a month), no dairy (I am allergic to dairy and gluten) and use spices more and more. And of course, don't smoke or drink alcohol.
https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/quick-start-guide-to-an-antiinflammation-diet#:~:text=To%20fight%20inflammation%2C%20go%20for,cinnamon%2C%20ginger%2C%20and%20turmeric.
'To fight inflammation, go for whole, unprocessed foods with no added sugar: fruits, vegetables, whole grains, legumes (beans, lentils), fish, poultry, nuts, seeds, a little bit of low-fat dairy, and olive oil. "To these, many people add herbs and spices like cinnamon, ginger, and turmeric."'
and
The evidence that trying to minimize inflammation through dietary changes reduces the risk of diseases "is strongest for arthritis, gastrointestinal and heart health, and possibly auto-immune diseases,"...
Something to think about if we want a healthy old age. I am sure it has helped me stay healthy.
Fortunately we walk our dogs off leash, on our own land. Or I’d have muscles like Hulk.
I am not ready for summer! I hate it!
I have been in PT for several weeks for this IT band syndrome. Was doing mostly stretching until Monday. Was on the squat machine, geez I am sore! So out of shape!
Cats are so much easier than dogs!
That’s why I have a cat ! She walks herself to the litter box.
My daughter gets a workout just walking him daily!
You will have to tutor Way on how to do squats correctly! LOL 😆
Gosh, I don’t have any room to talk! I haven’t done any squats lately. I would probably be sore too.
Thanks to Golden squats 🙄😂😭
Isn't it time your wife was placed in a facility where others can care for her and you can visit her and become just her husband again?
Medicaid is available for those who don't have the funds for private care. Why not contact your local Agency for Aging and see what resources they can offer you. You need some support.
Stick around here. There are many people with good ideas. Wishing you and your wife all the best.
Have you contacted Council on Aging in your area?
They will do a needs assessment of her needs. If she qualifies for help, you will receive a set amount of caregiver hours per month.
They will help bathe her, get her dressed, prepare meals and do light housekeeping.
Or better still, look into placing her in a facility. You can visit as her husband and be free from the hands on caregiving.
Is it possible to have some help come in so you get some respite ?
So sorry . This has to be very difficult for you .