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Anti whine - Praise God, R is home from surgery and dr said it went well. So glad to have this one out of the way. I know he has some healing time and follow ups will be booked for later. Thanks to Llama, Eva and others for wishes and prayers. One stressor out of the way.

Need - thinking of you and your hub. Hope it is going well.

Barb - any news from your dd?

Victoria - I keep my pills/supplements in an pill box and set reminders on my iPhone. Learnt that from my dd. 😊

way - hope you are better
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Nhwm, good luck with the surgery!

Yes, took my meds.

Texted daughter to ask how the weather was (most innocuous thing I could think of). So, she seems to have gotten where she's going.

Thank you mightily for all the prayers, good wishes and PMs.
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NHWM, I hope your husband’s surgery is quick, easy, and “unremarkable”.

Barb and Victoria, did you take your BP meds?!
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Glad -good advice I deemed it necessary to have repairs done before listing the house. Having R do them is less stressful to me than trying to find someone else here. It is still extra activity in the house no matter who does it. Extra activity in the house affects me. I suppose if I sold the house as is I could have avoided it but probably would have to sell at a lower price. There is a cost one way or another.
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Need: Hope you sleep well and am sorry for your friend and the drama it caused at an incorrect time for you.
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@NeedHelpWithMom I not only have to set an alarm on my phone, reminding me to take my blood pressure meds, I also have to keep them in a pill box. Otherwise, I cannot remember if I took them when the alarm went off. 🤔 BTW, you reminded me to take mine tonight. 🤣
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Golden, we all need to do what is the best for us and will reduce our stress. Avoid creating unnecessary stressors.
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Goodnight, need. Hope you sleep well and dh's surgery goes well tomorrow. Sorry about your friend and her family. I guess they need some boundaries as regards their mum's care.

way - absolutely!!!

As far as I know R had his surgery today and likely is still in hospital. I am sure he will contact me when he can. No news is good news, but I can't help wondering. He isn't always the best at communicating,

I am still getting through a nasty flare up after his visit a week ago. Two days of just blah exhaustion, three days of pain, two days of brain fog and now am getting sweats. They are much more tolerable than what I had the previous days. I have to figure a way of avoiding or reducing these flare ups after more activity than usual. I always believe there is a way - you just have to find it. 😊
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@need.
i don’t understand your friend’s mother .
I would never want my son getting me on and off a toilet or changing me.
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I feel for my friend. I really do. I remember how hard it was for me.

Tonight wasn’t the best time for me to be involved with her mom’s crap though.

I need to get a good nights sleep so I can wake up early to take my husband to the hospital for his surgery.

Going to bed. Goodnight everyone and whine away. Lord knows, many caregivers have lots to whine about.
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So, my friend called a bit ago and said that her mom is not doing well after falling awhile back. Her mom lives in the adjoining unit of the condo that she and her husband own.

My friend was able to get home health come in to help. She isn’t able to take any more time off work to be with her mom. She works at a busy law firm.

So, now my friend’s brothers are going to their mom’s condo several days a week to help their mom. They are both retired and live quite a distance away from her.

My friend suffers with sciatica and can’t do the physical requirements that her mom needs. One of her brothers has a bad back too.

Anyway, the mom has her sons helping with everything, even getting her on and off the toilet, changing her depends if needed at night and so on.

She is screaming for them not to place her in a nursing home. It’s a mess.

My whine is that so many parents truly don’t care how much they inconvenience their children and expect them to be there for them 24/7.

The mom is getting used to her sons being there a lot! Since they have long commutes, each of them have been sleeping in her spare bedroom. They are taking turns sleeping there a few nights out of the week.

I told my friend this evening that I nearly went crazy trying to keep up with my mom and that she and her brothers need to put an end to this madness.

I guess she will stop when she is sick and tired of being sick and tired.
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Several fires across the state. After all that snow, things dry out so fast and the winds in many places are more than 50 mph.

Couldn't play my Sudoku yesterday, for some reason the app was down. The day was just not complete. ;)

Barb, hope you hear from daughter soon.
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Barb,

Glad your husband’s colonoscopy is over.

Occasionally, I forget to take my blood pressure meds. I keep saying that I am going to do what my husband does with his meds. He sets an alarm on his phone.
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Way,

My daughter rescued her dog during Covid. She met him through a Zoom meeting because she wasn’t allowed to go inside.

She said when they brought him out to the car he jumped right in and started kissing her.

He is a beautiful Siberian husky. He had eaten a wild rabbit and his owners took him to the vet and never went to pick him up.

Lots of people lost their jobs during Covid so maybe they couldn’t afford the vet bills. Once they gave him meds to get rid of his upset stomach he was fine. My daughter loves that dog! He is so sweet.

I hope you feel better soon. Colds are miserable.
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Barb: Glad your blood pressure has come down after you recalled your medication. Prayers for your DD and her precarious venture.
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Way: Feel better.💛
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glad: Right - I gulped down that nasty concoction while half awake.
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Struggling all week at work with a horrendous cold and cough ( not Covid ) . 2 more days to go .

If there is a next life ,
I WANT TO BE A CAT !!!
My cat is calm , happy , not stressed.
She’s warm , comfortable , no worries .
She naps whenever , wherever , and she knows she’s loved .
And she never catches a cold!

But she is my Covid kitty because that’s when I rescued her 😹
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I have not had a problem gulping down the colonoscopy prep. I think the trick is to not think about it. Barb, take your meds!

Disturbing about the DD, Barb. Please, if there is a God, watch over Barb's daughter!

Gun violence is just beginning to happen out here in the boondocks, rural, an hour away from the major metro area. An incident tonight, man shot and killed the boyfriend of the assailant's sister. This is the second or third this year.

I NEED to get out of here! Course it is happening everywhere. Rural does not protect a person any longer.
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Oh Barb - that way too high.

Please make your health a priority. and remember those pills. I know it's easier said than done when you are going through family stress. I have reminders on my iPhone for taking pills/supplements, watering my plants, changing kitty litter and so on.

Definitely praying for you and yours, especially your dd.

Lord, put a hedge around Barb's dd and protect her from harm. May angels surround her. Open her eyes to the truth - to your truth - and give her wisdom in all her decisions. In your name.

Deep breaths!!! ((((hugs)))))
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Lol, realized last night on the drive home from DH's colonoscopy that I had forgotten BP pills 2 days running. BP was 204/165.

Back on track now. Thanks to you all.

DD is travelling tomorrow to meet fictions "master coder". Prayers much appreciated.
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Barb: That's good news.
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Thank goodness, barb. Glad it is over and done with.
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Colonoscopy done! All good. Thank you all!
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I couldn't possible choke down a gallon of Go-Litely again without puking so I paid extra for a different colonoscopy prep than what my doc and insurance plan covered. It was a way smaller amount of liquid over a shorter period of time. Was worth it to me. Others need to know there are options to whatever prep is offered. Hope it goes well enough for your DH after the effort put into it!
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Next time ask for Pico Salax or Purg-Odan for you colonoscopy prep Barb!
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((((((barb))))) You know the saying "Sometime when it rains, it pours". I think its thunder and lightening along with the rain in your case.

You can only do what you can do. Please, be sure to look after yourself through all of this. I am sure dh is not the only one who hasn't done the complete prep.

I am glad you are not swooping. It's a mess for sure, but not yours to sort out. Deep breaths. It helps. ((((((hugs))))))
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Alva, it sucks. From beginning to end. And yes, I think she could end up dead, injured, held hostage or something dumb along those lines. I am not participating in this any longer.

Her dad has a grand plan to house son in law and granddaughter.

AND so when he said the other day "oh, but I'm going on vacation at the end of April" I said "I guess you'll need to hire a nanny or something".

I am not swooping. I am not going to enable my daughter's craziness.

I am learning to say "no, I have an impaired husband to care for".
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Arrrrgh!!!

DH's colonoscopy prep is not going well. "I can't possibly drink all that". He is halfway through the gallon after 4 hours.

It will be what it will be. Not doing this again, for sure.
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Barb,

Somehow I missed that the new internet boyfriend was convicted of partner abuse and jailed for it.

Recommend True Crime Junkie Podcast to DD. She could end up dead as a doornail. Men don't only CONTINUE this, they ESCALATE in it.

I am glad that your SIL is taking on the care of their child; I hope that he is keeping careful diaries of your daughter's choices here. This is some truly faulty thinking, and the worst of it is that she is endangering herself. This is more than "Hey I don't like the new boyfriend". I am so sorry.

In all truth I am glad you are out of it. A Mom who fights these things just throws the kids more into her corner, from which she will come out fighting. But I would tell her you are heartbroken for her child and terrified for her life. Because I can't imagine you would not be.

Again, I am so sorry.
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