I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I am so sorry things are a mess right now and hope it gets sorted out soon.
R does sound like a sweet man who cares a great deal about you.
Hugs and prayers are being sent your way.
Hothouse - better than at home as got to be good enough!
Once more a soap opera. R is coming up to do more repairs. Two way van is too expensive so he booked it one way (from here to E'ton) with stuff and planned on taking the bus from E'ton to here today. OK Bus was booked for this am and he also booked an Uber to pick him up and take him to the bus this morning. When the Uber didn't show this morning he called them and was told they only do two way trips where he is, (why didn't they tell him that last night?). By then he was getting short of time, called a cab and arrived at the bus station before 9 am -the time it is supposed to leave, but the bus had left. It was after 8:45 am which is when you are supposed to be there. It really bothers me that they know a seat is booked and they don't wait till 9 for that person.
Ok, change plans - rent a car for the day and drop it off up here. Doesn't cost much more than his cab ride this morning. He tried twice, made two reservations, got confirmation and each time when he got there he was told there were no cars available. He is negotiating a third location which said they could look after him, but at the last moment they added on a nearly $300 drop off fee. No mention of it anywhere else. We will see if he works this one out. He is pretty good with that kind of thing.
I will say he is a very patient man and though he is not happy with all of this, he is remarkably even tempered. I am hoping and praying the next phone call will let me know he is ready to drive north. I am stressed from endless phone calls, looking up numbers and locations of car rental agencies, in the middle of it sorting out my online grocery order changes. Of course, they all have to happen together.
I need a cry 😢and a nap😴 . This stuff is sooo frustrating! Thanks for a place to vent. 🤦♀️😠🗯
Oh gosh, you’re right about our heat and humidity. Hey, Louisiana is a freaking swamp!
I love the beach too. My dad took us to Florida every summer.
I love California beaches too. I agree, beaches are very relaxing.
Can’t ever say that I have seen snow on the beach but it sounds pretty.
My Norwegian blood would boil with no A/C if I lived where you live. It was bad enough in the summers in the North East. And we lived near the beach , so we got breezes. But moved to Pennsylvania 18 years ago. It’s hotter , no breeze in the summer . And we have to pay for a hotel just to go to the beach . We really miss going to the beach whenever we wanted. We took the kids in all seasons . It’s amazing and peaceful when it’s empty of people and snowing .
So true about not needing reservations or anything.
Ever wonder what our grandparents and great grandparents would say if they came back and saw how different the world is today? I do.
If my grandparents saw an iPhone it would blow their minds!
Yep! Those were the good old days! LOL 😆
No air conditioning anywhere! Not in cars, our schools, churches, etc!
Yes, my dad got maps too and off we went on vacation. Mom packed snacks to have. We asked a million times, “Are we there yet?” Hahaha 🤣
Wow .
I forgot about the whole gas station routine until you said it . It took 20 minutes just to get gas. When I was a kid, no A/C in the car , windows open , sniffing gas fumes that whole time. The man had that big wad of money that smelled like gas . My Dad would get those big paper maps that you need a Phd to fold . And we went on a few vacations when I was a kid by car. No hotel reservations . Dad just drove until he found a Howard Johnson’s hotel and restaurant .
Times are changing! We are paying more and receiving less, whether it’s a service or a product. It’s a DIY world or we pay for the assembly.
Look at gas stations. When I was a child, they pumped the gas, cleaned windshields, air in tires, checked oil, gave stamps, gave a tiger tail to hang out of the trunk (remember those) and so on.
Drugstores had soda fountains. Department stores sold fabric and notions.
So many things of the past are gone now.
Maybe it is easy to assemble. Go ahead and let your SO’s son and his wife look at it. They may have it put together in no time.
My husband is great at assembling things. My daughters are too. Me? eh, not so much!
I also get an “ oh no” feeling when my delivery comes in a tiny box. The smaller the box = the greater number of pieces to assemble .
It is just not everyone can "assemble". Our older hands can no longer handle tools like they use to.... our eyesight won't allow us to easily read the directions.... and our knees won't allow us to kneel on the floor to build something.
I just read one review where the grown son got his Mom one of these lamps and had it sent to her. She was 78 years old and tried to put the lamp together. She was ready to toss the lamp out the window.
Lesson learned, read the reviews if ordering something on line :) Or shop locally.
Just thinking, wonder if one can purchase a new car cheaper if we had to assemble it ourselves :))
Geeeez, are you going to keep it? Are you sure that you want to keep it until your son and wife visit? If they don’t get to it, it’s just going to be taking up space and you may miss the return date.
from Amazon that is used by those of us who need a much brighter light to read.
Received the product today. Wait a minute, the box is the size of a food box from Chewy. Shouldn't the box be much taller? I hope this isn't a doll house floor lamp. Maybe this was something I had ordered from Staples.
Sure enough, after opening the box I found out I had to build the floor lamp, including dealing with the electric cords. And the directions were in tiny print. Eeeeeeek.
Guess I will need to set it aside until sig-other's son and the son's wife come to visit. The son's wife knows how to assemble things. I use to be the master of assembly, but not any more..... [sigh].
I am so sorry that you are facing this dilemma. I hope things work out and you are able to be with your sister and nephew.
Will pray for your sister. Wishing you peace during this difficult time. Sending lots of hugs your way today!
Tried to explain his medical situation 'to the nurse" but didn't want to hear it. I guess I have to bow down and thank her for allotting me a couple of weeks to myself for all the rest of the year I have to endure.
Let me speak to you from experience. Have your MIL placed in a care facility. Refuse to continue being her caregiver. You do not have to clean up her crap or take her crap for another day.
When she insults you, tell her to shut the hell up and walk away. God gave us all two middle fingers. Flip her off and walk away.
I hope you know there's a difference between giving a person what they need and catering to them.
I was an in-home caregiver for 25 years. I have been caregiving to my mother the last four (that ends in May when I move).
I have never "catered" to fussiness and demands or tolerated abusive behavior from a senior regardless of dementia being at the party or not.
I assume when you say 'both' of you are caring for your MIL you are talking about your husband. Now is the time to throw down the gauntlet. Either his mother gets placed in care or you leave because you're done.
If needs be that you have to press the point that you're done to be taken seriously and I sincerely hope that you don't, then do what it takes.
Leave her in a soiled diaper because you refuse to change her. If she craps on the floor put a paper towel over it and leave it there. You don't clean her or the floor up. You don't feed her. You don't even speak to her. If you're done with caregiving, then you are done and that's the end of it.
This sounds harsh because it is harsh and I hope it doesn't become necessary. But if it does do it.
If you do not want to take care of your MIL anymore, you do not have to.
It’s so hard. Anyone in your position becomes exhausted and indeed very sick of it. I’m so sorry that you are struggling. Hoping that you will be able to rest soon.
GIMH, Burnt, NHWM.
I feel bad . I wish I could go there so my nephew didn’t have to to do this alone. I think he is hesitating because my sister will be upset . If he doesn’t do it today , I’ll try to get tomorrow off from work and drive out tomorrow before the snow starts to get her to the ER,,… 911 .
If anyone remembers the saga about my FIL and his toaster , you will appreciate this . The toaster broke. So that’s that !!!
He’s not getting another one . So that’s setting him off .
It must be a full moon .