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Oh, you're welcome Barb.
It is as people say, you've got a plate full.

Things can be going just okay, and add a con for a bf for DD, or in my case, an estranged Mil who fell, and any routine or stability gets put on hold.

We are almost blowing up around here today.

It is disconcerting at the least, I think. If I could think straight.

How are you sleeping?
Do you think your dH is ready for med reminders?
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Thanks, Send. Dh does not accept the dx, says he's always been this way.

He will have new neuropsych testing this summer; we will see if IQ and skills are stable or what.

His intelligence hasn't changed. His judgment has. That's the hard thing.

Thing is, I usually have more ability to deal with this. Since Middle Daughter is off in LaLa land with online ex-con boyfriend...I haven't enough brain cells to deal with all of this. Thank you for listening.
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Hi Barb!
I just tested to see if you still have the Whoops tech error cat, and yes, you do.

Strange things happened tonight with my posting, so I logged off, turned off my computer, and logged back in.

That is a serious diagnosis, hard to take. Just when you may think the dH is getting better, the behaviors change, again. It may not be the same for you, but I hear you!

Regroup your thinking after a good night's sleep, take a day to care for you.
Hugs every morning can keep the two of you on a friendly basis during the harder days, imo. You can try it.

My dH is doing exercise videos live from Silver Sneakers.
Just yesterday, his b/p is creeping back up. Not really abnormal, but higher.
I know if he reports to his doctor, she will increase his meds to one full tablet daily, he is only taking 1/2. I prefer he decreases his stress, maybe stop talking to his Mom for awhile---very stressful!

You will take care, and please be encouraged still, there is hope. imo.
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So this morning, DH (has been dx'ed with MCI) complains that he is waking up every hour. I say "even taking Seroquel? (which been rx'ed for his sleep issues).

He says "oh, I stopped taking that". (!%$#@/??????).

Why? Well, it seems he didn't recall why he was taking it and just decided to stop it.

It's been a long day of polite discussions and silence. This is not going well.

He said he would contact his/our doc to discuss but I sent the doc an email to make sure.
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I called my mom this evening to see how she is doing. She had a knee replacement several weeks ago. My idiot stepfather answered the phone. He's younger than I am and it ruins my day to speak to him. Mom wasn't home and he said he didn't know if he should tell me where she was or what was going on. The man is so annoying.
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Llamalover47, nothing is more fun than filling out paperwork that had been filled out before. I remember when I had back-to-back appointments for my parents, I would get two clipboards filled with paperwork because the office needed updated records.

I was so annoyed by the questionnaires that I would ask LOUDLY to my parents, both were hard of hearing, questions I didn't know. Just out of spite, I asked Mom [90+] if she was currently pregnant :P I am sure the others in the waiting room got a chuckle out of that.

Then I found a solution to all these chipboard multi-page questionnaires. I would just make a diagonal line across the page and write in big letters SAME AS LAST TIME on each sheet.
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Natasana: I know, right! I don't plan to have time for a doctor's office incompetence. Thanks for posting.
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@Llamalover47
Six confirmations! Geez, something is wrong there. All that paperwork is a drag. Good thing you are looking for a different podiatrist. I hope you find one who is better organized. So you can literally vote with your feet!
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Carolyn: Hugs sent to you.
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Natasana: So sorry for your day. Hugs.💛
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Ugh! Had a podiatrist appointment today that I thought would be quick. Nah. Should have known something would go awry when I received SIX confirmations for the appointment! They wanted me to fill out lengthy information that I had already given them multiple times. What a crock.
I already have a call in to new podiatrist.
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Me discovering mom, sitting on her commode. Things peed on: the floor, the mat, a paper towel, her pants, back of her pullups, her legs, socks...literally everything EXCEPT inside her pullup and inside the commode.

Me: Mom what happened?

Mom: I never had to do this before. I didn't know what to do so I improvised.

Me: 😶
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Carolyn,

That must be horribly annoying to have your stepson monitoring your every move.

Was he always like this or is it because he’s not feeling well due to recovering from surgery? Is he in pain?

You have enough on your plate caring for your husband without dealing with his son. Do you have any outside help so you can take a break for awhile?
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CarolynAces, I think if your stepson is feeling well enough to be critical and overbearing it's obviously time for him to go home, and time to show him the door.
I'm like you, I chose not to spend my precious time with negative and complaining people. Life is way too short.
I hope he goes home soon(like tomorrow.)
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My husband's son is staying with us during his recovery from lung surgery. Truly a blessing, but now he has become critical and overbearing. I've confronted him a few times, but as they say, I can't change him. So he continues on and I feel raw emotionally. It's not like it's once in a while. I feel pain, raw pain. Normally, I would not be around such a person, at choice. It wears me out. I already feel worn out. I'm very angry, but know I can't let that color how I take care of my husband. I just hate being around people like this! It's draining and hurtful He watches everything I do. It's unnerving. He has exceptional hearing. Hears every word through closed doors. Talking on the phone outside doesn't work for me. I wish it did. Thank you for listening.
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Need: Yes, my DD has dietary restrictions. Why I mentioned a burger with a BUTTERED bun is if she took one bite of it even though the chef knew of the 'no butter,' it would send her gut into spasms. So sorry for your DD.
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pamz: We're actually in Millersville, MD, but I said Glen Burnie as a point of reference. Yes, we have seen the wheelies and unsafe drivers cutting you off, too. A crazy world!
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Once hated.. Rural roar,, I love it! Take care of your break,, and feel better soon
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Llama as you are in Glen Burnie ( MD I assume) then i'd imagine you have seen those little snots in downtown Baltimore as well,, groups of them weaving between cars and running light, often on one wheel! And let me tell you those tough guys are all screaming for thier mamas once they hit the ER And luckily the black dog we thought we saw was a very large buzzard,, whoever hit that deserved what they got.. they smell terrible
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Llama,

Eating the proper food is crucial. Sounds like your daughter has to monitor what she eats all the time.

My daughter misses her favorite foods but knows that it isn’t worth endangering her health and the suffering afterwards.
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glad: I dislike those loud cars. Each of our nextdoor neighbors own loud hot rods! Very irritating.
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pamz: Here in near Glen Burnie, teens and even younger are riding bikes on town streets! And stunt riding - completely crazy!
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Need: Prayers for your daughter. My DD has to be extremely careful with her dietary intake. If she perchance is served a burger with a BUTTERED bun, she must take a very strong med and is done for the night. I hope your daughter doesn't have too much pain. I know that it can be a painful disease.
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I get it Pam! I am rural as well, occasionally hear kids out on the highway. And we have a raceway nearby.

There is a family that moved in across the street about two years ago. One of the men living there has an obnoxious muffler on his black mustang. That drives me crazy and scares me half the time when he starts that car. And this isn't a young man, I think he is probably in his 30's.
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i am sorry to hear about the rural roar - we usually get that on our rural road at christmas time.

my whine is that i was stupid and slipped on loose road material while on my daily break/walk. i broke my humerus and even though its totally broken, the 2 pieces are "close enough" for them to leave it to repair itself in a sling. i didn't even know that was a thing. they send you home with pain pills and "see you next week".

i drive my son to his chemo every two weeks, i need to heal fast - or at least be able to drive.
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For the third night in a row we are hearing motorcycles roaring past our house,, the speed limit is 35 and they have to be going 70. No sense if calling the cops as they will be long gone by the time the police get here. Here they go again,, back and forth, we are very rural,, some dogs and cats get lose. The police have told us they have apretty good idea who these kids are. They are drag racing. am I awful to say once in awhile I hope to hear a crash? They post a car at either end of the road,, so hopefully no one gets hit and injured on their innocent way home, Hubs just went out,, tonight it is 4 wheelers, maybe was before to. But dang they are loud. And if they hit a deer they are in bad shape, Today we think we saw black dog hit by the side of the road People have no respect and parents have no rules.
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Thanks, Golden

It makes me feel better knowing that she will get extra prayers.

Sometimes, I envision my mom and dad praying for her in heaven. Maybe that’s silly. I don’t know.

My parents adored my girls. I don’t have grandchildren but I see how special it is from others. Plus, I was extremely blessed to have wonderful grandparents. I cherish my memories of them.
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Need - it must be very hard for her. It is heart breaking for sure. I am definitely adding her to my prayer list. May God richly bless her and all your family. 💛
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Thanks, Golden

It is hard. Overall I think she is brave or simply used to it all, if you know what I mean. I know that she gets scared sometimes.

It breaks my heart. She can’t eat certain foods. I cook certain ways to accommodate her Crohn’s disease and diabetes when she visits.

She is constantly trying to balance her diabetes too. It’s challenging for sure. She feels like crap so much of the time. I hate it. All I can do is pray for her and try to offer support. She doesn’t complain often so when she does say something I know that she’s going through a really tough time.

Please say a prayer for her if you don’t mind.
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need - I'm so sorry about your oldest daughter. She has some real health challenges. It is heartbreaking watching our children go through health issues. There was a student I was at university with who had Crohn's. She was the nicest person and spent a lot of time in bed. It is a very serious condition. Prayers for your daughter, need. So hard to having diabetes as well. Keep us updated!!!
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