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Send: Right about the glitches as I couldn't access my dry Macular Degeneration site.
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There were glitches online today Glad.
Staying home, I was hard-pressed to order online, and it just would not take my order for several hours.
Received some White Chocolate Macadamia Nut fresh baked cookies just in time.

In time to eat them!
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Has anyone had issues posting with their tablet devices today? I use a kindle, but it is not letting me post anything. Even tried to send a message to admin about it, but can't do that either.
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CarolynAces, welcome to the forum. Ah yes, weight gain. I developed that while helping out my parents for about 7 years, but it was age causing the weight gain [I was in my 60's].

My primary doctor recommended eating the main meal for lunch, and a lighter meal [with no bread, potatoes, pasta nor rice] for supper. Supper being before 7pm. And no munching after supper. It's better for one to have the body "fast" while sleeping.

And yes, doc suggested exercising, but that went in one ear out the other. Wait until my doc gets to my age, he will find it is not all that easy :) So what I do now, every time a commercial comes on TV, I get up and walk around the inside of the house. Boy, there is a lot of commercials !!

Glad to read that your hubby is on the mend. One time I was too thin, so what I did was drink Carnation Instant Breakfast along with my regular breakfast, and that helped.
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I'm new to caregiving. My husband was in the hospital for a month and came home a few weeks ago, after going through two life-saving procedures and a very short rehab (covid). He is getting PT and OT at home. His son is helping, for which I'm grateful, but I now have to deal with another personality being in the house. This is hard for me. I like to be alone normally. My husband gives me an unbelievable amount of space, knowing that I need it. I'm grateful my husband is alive. I know I'm responsible for myself, but I'm having an enormous problem with food. I've gained a good deal of weight during my husband's stay. I don't take this lightly. In order to put some weight on my husband (he's 115 lbs.) there's lots of good food coming in. Mostly healthy food, but that doesn't matter to me; I'm eating them both. I don't seem to have the ability to curb myself. I feel like I've had the stuffing knocked out of me over the past 2 months. I just don't have the 'umpf' to do it. I crave food all day long into the night. I know I'm stressed I feel down.. I do try to do things to relax, breathing exercises, etc. I can't exercise right now because I have to get my doctor's approval and, again, the umpf to do the exercises, even if they're small. Sounds like I need a vacation, but no chance of that. I don't drive and public transportation here is abysmal. I have medical conditions that also limit my going out. I'm almost at the point where I just don't care. Trying to get together with friends hasn't panned out. I know this is temporary, but this is where I am now. Thank you for allowing me to vent, and for listening.
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golden: Feel better.
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I hope everyone who is having foot issues will find relief soon.

Let’s face it, if our feet hurt, it seems like everything hurts!

I am at the age where I only wear sensible shoes 👟. I don’t know how my daughters wear heels 👠! Yes, I do. They are young! We aren’t young anymore.

I remember when I was in PT after my accident, they had a young woman there who had bunion issues. She said that she would never give up dancing in her high heels! LOL 😆 YOUTH!
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Thx Golden.
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gershun - wishing you all the best with your healing. It is taking a long times, isn't it? Prayers for complete recovery.

natasana - I hear you. Your quality of life will go up. Hope the quality of your relationship with your mum does too.
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@golden23, Well yes I will miss those exchanges...exchanges that are few and far between. But I will not miss the far between AT ALL. LOL. I hope mom and I can have more good times once I'm not her caregiver 24/7/365.
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Since you all are talking about foot related things thought I'd share my foot update.

I think it may actually be starting to get better! I don't want to jinx myself though cause I've had good days and get optimistic and then WHAM! the next day not so good.

But my ankle and calve muscles and tendons are starting to loosen a bit I hope. They have been the problem even more than the metatarsal breaks. I still haven't gotten my MRI appt. though. Can you believe that! Three whole mths. and still no appt. The medical system in Canada used to be good. What happened?!

Still can't see very many veins on my injured foot. I've got all these thick, ropy looking ones on my good foot. That's how I know it doesn't look normal on my bad foot. I still feel there may be some nerve damage there and on my last orthopedic appt. she said that she thinks my ankle is unstable and there may be ligament damage. But I need to confirm these things with an MRI which I've been waiting (not so patiently) for. I see the ortho doc again next Tuesday. Hopefully I get a good update on that.

Anyway, there's a big vomit of info. for you all. LOL
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Natasana - are you going to miss those wacky exchanges when your mum moves in March?

Barb - Yes sometimes they just are. Learn something new every day! I am so sold on finding solutions outside of the drs office.
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Glad, I had the same procedure

It's not the sort of ingrown thing that happens at the tip; this is an "ingrow" that occurs all along the side of the nail, despite how it it is trimmed. Appears to be hereditary, according to both of my docs.

Sometimes these things just "are".
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No discomfort.I was such a narrow sliver you wouldn't know it.
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So there is no nail at all along that side of your toe Glad? And that doesn't cause any discomfort?
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No, Alva, they did not remove the entire nail, yes it was my big toes. The incisions were not very big. They cut the nail down parallel to the cuticle area. Then in the area where the nail grows the doc used a cotton swab to insert some liquid th there that would kill the cells that do the growing.

Hopefully that makes some sense.
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oh my goodness natasana, you totally made me laugh :).
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Me: You need to use your walker now.

Mom: Who said so?

Me: Your nurse. He said the walker will help you steady yourself.

Mom: Whose is it? Do YOU want it? Let's keep it in the kitchen so anyone can use it.

Me: it's yours mom. Keep it with you.

Mom: that's not mine. I never ordered that. If I'm going to use that thing then you can just roll it for me down the hall to the living room. Just roll it ahead of me and I'll catch up to it later.

Me: 🙄
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burnt - I had neighbours who had two daughters and one of them had a child as a 16 yr old. Poor little tyke. There weren't any kids around who were his age. He was younger than my boys but we included him in our birthday parties etc. The neighbour wife and I chatted over the garden fence and she said by way of explanation of her daughter's early pregnancy, "You can't interfere". My immediate thought was I can interfere with my teen age daughter living in my home!!! I told my dd that if she was grown up enough to produce a child she was grown up enough to support and raise it, I didn't have the teen pregnancy or jail to deal with with my kids either.

However, one thing I learned was that for love to be love there had to be both justice and mercy. The expectation she would raise her own kid and the reporting of anything illegal was justice, the mercy part is that I would have supported her to support herself and her child, had there been one, and I would have visited any kid of mine that landed in jail.

Re ingrown toenails - my middle son had that surgery years ago and as far as I know he has been fine since.

I find if I keep my big toenails cut straight across and just longer than the place where they "ingrow" I don't have any troubles. I have been surprised during pedicures to see the tech cutting them really short and rounded and in some cases "digging" in the corners. I instruct them to leave them longer and cut them straight across and leave the corners alone!!! Alva, I think you can fix this yourself.

Shoes that fit well - i.e. don't put any pressure on the big toe are important too.

Goodness, how did I survive some of the shoes I wore and walked miles in. I remember one pair of red Italian pumps - at least a 3 1/2" heel. I loved them and they were so comfortable!!! I walked and walked the streets of Montreal in them.

Hope your surgery fixes the problem, Barb,

My whine today - a bit of FM pain and sore throat. I have been doing much better with the CFS and FM but I feel like I am fighting a bug and don't think it is wise to get my covid booster till I feel better. Something always seems to get in the way.

Another whine - there is now only one lab in town for blood tests etc. so you can't get an appointment for over a week. It used to be a couple of days or walk in the same day. I think you can go on a waitlist for the next day afternoon (after 3) and take your chances. I don't like hanging around a lab waiting room with sick people. 🤧🤧🤧
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Glad, I am glad you said that and had good results of this surgery. Did they remove the entire nail and was it your great toe (where I think usually this hits).
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i feel like whining about something, but i don't know what. whine, whine, whine. so you know what?? i'll use this as an opportunity to make a pre-emptive whine.

in case there are very valid future whine-situations, i'm getting it out of my system already now. how organized of me, yeah?

whiiiiiiiiine. ❤️🙂
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I have had that ingrown toenail surgery x2. It was a long time ago but I remember it as being an easy surgery.
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Alva, I will update you on whether this works or not. I realized I needed to get around to a more permanent fix when it started acting up on our last cruise and I found myself searching for an English-speaking podiatrist on Corfu!

Not how I want to spend my travel time.
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Barb, at 80 I keep wondering how long I can get to that toe to carve out the ingrown nail every one and one half months or so. My Mom actually had a nail removal which surprisingly was major painful, even the dressing on it, and slow to heal even though she wasn't diabetic. She claimed it always hurt her, and her toe bumped against the front of her shoe painfully no matter what kind of shoe she shopped for. I hope you have good luck with this surgery. Eventually that's where I am going to be, like it or not, and I know it.
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Whine, whine! Had some surgery on my toe today which in theory will prevent the near constant ingrown toenails I've been getting.

In truth, this is nothing to whine about.
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@golden

You were right telling your kids that you'll be the first one to report them if they're doing something illegal.
The most sound wisdom my ears have ever hear is:

Don't call me if you're pregnant or in jail.

I have avoided both.
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Barb,
You are so right to be backing away a bit. It is very dangerous to be taking sides.
If and when there is a reconciliation, either one could say:
"My Mom said this"
"Your Mom said this"
and it would cause more division, with you on the outside, prevented from seeing your grandchild.

Of course, if your grandchild is being neglected, all bets are off and you, yourself could end up with temporary custody.

You will do the right thing, and a grandparent's prayers make a difference!
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Oh, Barb, I am so glad you are stepping away from it a bit. I care about you and ONLY you in all this, and the innocent child. You are SUCH a good person, and every single post you do proves that over and over again. I just think you will get blamed if you say anything to anyone at this point. I would simply say to all that you HAVE to trust that they will hold foremost an innocent child in the midst of all this, and think foremost what is best for that child brought into the world by the two of them. That your opinion cannot matter to them; they must make their own decisions and have all the tools to do that.
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Barb,

Loosing custody of a child can happen. A woman that I worked with lost custody. She wasn’t involved with another guy. Her husband was involved with another woman.

She had three sons. She was so hurt by the affair that she told him that she was going away for the weekend to be alone. Her children were young, 6 and under.

They divorced, he got full custody of their children and raised them with the other woman. He got her on abandonment. It was a nightmare court case. He had an incredible attorney. She didn’t. He destroyed her in court. She got supervised visitation!
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Good for you, Barb. Support comes in different forms. I was the mother that told my kids that if they did anything illegal I would be the first one to report them. For that matter, that goes for anyone else in my life too. I call that support.
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