I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
A week + of organizing and doctor visits and moving is going to take most of my focus and energy. DD made me spreadsheets yesterday to help keep me on track if you can believe it!
After that the really hard part - walking away and leaving DH that first night (and every night forever after). This once dynamic and independent man has become so dependent on me the last couple years, he doesn’t even know what he can’t do himself anymore. It’s going to be really hard for him to adjust to asking strangers for help. Good grief, I’m crying again - I’m glad he’s taking a nap!
Anyway, thank you all for your support. Know that I am reading your posts and thinking about you all.
No plan, one scan of lower back, not even one specialist to see him. Just see family doctor.
How awful! I think you are right to peruse Education Act, go to the top. To say that to a child without definitive proof is not right!
Nacy, I hear you, don’t like clingy men. Would drive me crazy.
I need me time.
Husband out of hospital, nothing can be done. Just prescribed morphine for pain. Will sleep for days now as after 9 days in hospital and constant noises did not sleep well.
nacy - glad hubby is doing and looking better, Hope you get some "me time" soon.
way and psue - don't overdo anything. Both of you have a lot on your plate and it's easy to push oneself past a point.
R looks in pain this morning but has gone out to see a friend who is in town for the holidays. I hope he has a relaxing time. I think stress is part of his headaches. The "grandson and water therapy" was really good for him. I'm in the "recover from a holiday" mode.
Golden, that poor, poor child. What an awful situation. That person should not be teaching. Even an 8 year old kid who DID cheat does not deserve to be ruined for it. So wrong.
Sorry your Christmas has been so crazy and that you have had all this extra work for your dd. I gather you are not unhappy about the break up. Good for you minding your own business. It's not always easy. Hopefully the new year will be more peaceful.
Hi , yeah thanks . Hopefully I don’t get sick and bring it home .
MIL is laying real low . DH has called and it’s been superficial quick discussions and she gets off the phone because she doesn’t want to hear that she needs to leave her two story condo that also has sidewalk steps outside to the parking lot where she keeps falling . Right now , I could care less…..for the reason below .
Christmas , well, it’s been a bit crazy here . My DD and her fiancé broke up . Daughter is back home with us for now , we’ve been moving her things back home as well . Good thing we have a big basement . Long story . I sort of saw it coming the last few months , minded my own business and just watched it unfold .
We get there and she’s coughing sick . Nephew talked to staff , who said RSV is going around the board and care home ( of 15 residents ) .
If I knew that , I would not have gone in today ( I have asthma ) . A warning sign on the outer entrance door to the building would have been nice .
Psue - these two grandsons are 12 and 8. Lots of energy! R was the one keeping up with them in the pool and the waterslides. Their mom and I just chatted in the hot tub. They came everyday and spent hours in the pool. I popped in and out. It was a success and we'll do it again, The youngest one needs prayer. His teacher is a battle axe and has accused him of cheating which he didn't and more The principal is no help. Poor K now hates school and cries every morning he has to go. He has lost his self confidence and is a very sad and angry child. My heart is breaking for him.
When we got home yesterday, I found two catalpa seedings covered in aphids and one dead. I haven't had aphids since I can remember. I am applying soap spray but they don't look good.
I’m rooting for your DH to be successful. The good part (I’ve heard) is that the health benefits begin immediately.
Golden, your holiday sounds like so much fun but I bet you’re exhausted. How old are the nephews?
nacy - hope your hub is finally getting over covid and you got through all the festivities and had some down time too. It's important to be able to relax. Acceptance from family is important.
The hotel and waterpark were great. It's well run. The boys came to swim many times and had a blast. 🏊♂️ We will go back. No whines today,
Things here are chaotic. There are so many arrangements to be made I’m having a hard time keeping focused. I have to remind myself, daily, not to ‘pre-awfulize’. DD is coming up tomorrow to help me make lists and firm up the time line.
I’m glad to be almost through the holidays even though they were not really difficult. Might be harder to get through the dark days of January but at least I will be able to give DH my full attention now.
Again, I know nothing about your dynamic, but in our family, it’s strengthened our connection and the siblings have become more connected as well.
How was your Christmas?
My mom needs support group caring for her elderly mom.
Is there a zoom meeting anyone can recommend?
Thank you
Brother will be going home tomorrow with 2 shiny new stents in his arteries. Blood flow has been restored and he’s doing fine. No news yet as to whether there was much heart muscle damage. Time will tell.
DH has been mostly lucid all day although he did ask me how much I was getting paid to put him in AL. Hah; some joke.
Eva, wrong thread but how is your husband today - are they getting his pain under control? I’m sorry this is going to be such a difficult holiday season for you two.
Nacy, I hope your guy is feeling well enough to enjoy Christmas Eve.
Golden, I’m so glad R made it through the awful headaches and I hope you both have a lovely Christmas.
Ali and Llama, sending blessings……
To all the whiners on this thread, I wish you peace and joy this holiday season, and on we all go, until we don’t.
I am so sorry about your hubby. Hope he gets better as I recall you have cruise planned.
Psue,
I am going to quote Golden, life is a B***h.
Too much for you to take for sure.
Hope Mom and brother will be well.
Hubby will adjust eventually. Takes at least two weeks or so, but I know it is hard on you.
This is not good month or year for most!
Psue - Sometimes life's a b****h and it sounds like that for you. Emergency stents sound scary. Hope your mom recovers quickly, and bro too. I know that's not in the books for dh. I am sorry his first visit did not go well, but doubt that indicates how well he will do when he is settled there. But for you that's too much. Ex wife or whoever can give you a shoulder to cry on - doesn't matter. Lean on who you need to, ((((((Hugs)))).
So good to hear R is doing better!
Yes, and I was confident that I would find an answer here. Safety pins didn't sound too good for socks, but clips did. I have a compression sock aid that helps me put them on. I fold them inside out over this half tube, press it down some, and then point my foot to place my foot in that hole. I pull up on the two sides of the aid, and when I remember to spray my legs or use baby powder, the socks slide right on.