I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Case in point my son was looking for a chest of drawers to match some other furniture he has. All places he called to check either told him there is not any of that available, it has been discontinued. I think with shipping problems that businesses just are not trying to special order anything because of impatient customers. Probably safer that way, no bad reviews because something just has not come in.
I checked with the small town furniture store here. They ordered it. I kept expecting a call telling me they couldn't get it. Well it came in last week. It took a couple of months, worth being patient, my son was thrilled.
As this year rolls toward the end, I get sick of being asked "all ready for Christmas?" I think I'll answer "no, and I don't give a ____" (whatever word seems most suitable for the context).
I wish they were only active at night, oh my, you can bump into them at anytime of the day or night. You learn to keep something you can climb in site when you park in the dark. LOL!
I wish they were only active at night, oh my, you can bump into them at anytime of the day or night. You learn to keep something you can climb in site when you park in the dark. LOL!
We have to be careful because the javelinas will dump our cans and charge you if they have babies present. One actually challenged my truck because it thought I got to close.
I think I would be hard pressed to pick which one, bears or javelinas. Hopefully hybernation happens soon.
i’m in a similar situation with 3 selfish brothers who do nothing.
actually, they do negative things. i’m surrounded by sharks in my family.
courage to all of us.
bundle of joy
This morning she called to tell me she was locked outside my house... Thank got our neighbors have the keys...
I do think I am making the right choice to place my mom in a facility... All this will not happen. I go to work by train, I leave at 6.40 how could I bring her the keys!?
anche and eb - some will try to suck you in to look after them. My sis is like that. Once when she was coming from overseas for a visit with mother, she requested that I buy her some shoes as she couldn't get them in Scotland. She gave me the style and size. Mind you she was retired and I was still working and lived 5 hrs drive from mother's where she was going to stay. She had lots of time to do it once she got here. I bought what she wanted and got them to mothers. She tried them on and informed me that they were the wrong size and I should exchange them for her. I told her to do it herself. That's only one example till I learned to say no all the time and distance from her. Of course, mother was a complicating factor as she felt I should look after my sister and do these things for her and told me off if I didn't. You have to develop a thick skin. I am so glad those times are over.
Whining this morning about pollution coming from the plants again. My nose is running and my eyes are stinging, This version smells like cat pee. You wake up thinking "what the heck, kitty" then realize the smell is coming in the windows. On the way to the bathroom I stepped on a cold, slimy-wet fur ball. That one was the kitty. She is sleeping peacefully on the sofa. I am surrounded by Kleenex.
It was to ask mil to anticipate her visit...
Why the heck am I to be everyone's secretary when I am no longer able to deal with my own appointments.
Then I am asked why I am overwhelmed...
The western fires, especially the candor fire, are so terribly devastating. The smoke from them are affecting air quality across the country.
Hope conditions improve soon and by some miracle your home is spared.
Right now I'm in a hotel room, because I have had to evacuate Lake Tahoe. Been watching news, praying my home of 35 years does not burn down and wondering if I really should buy a trailer or a van...to escape the fires ...snow...etc...so I can survive my sister who is in hospice for cancer, but who I recently discovered is not dying of cancer but alcoholism. Both are so completely devastating the poor girl is struggling to comprehend her life choices but continuing her drinking as the solution. Too hard to fathom through the smoke of my evacuation, lingering in the past of my mom's caregiving that neither sibling chose to honor. Measure for Measure the good book says. I wish blessings for us all...and pray you are who you want to be.
I empathize! ((((Hugs)))))).
The other day I'm driving him from the Dr. I'm on the phone with my daughter and heading to pick something up and he yells twice when he sees the golden arches, "stop and McDonald's, stop at McDonald's. I had to yell at him like he was a child, "Let me get finished what I need to do then we will stop".....
He gets in the car to go to therapy and blurts out "the office in town"..... like I am a taxi driver...... What the hell?
I feel like I am just the cook, valet, and driver...... Getting tired...... Never a thank you or "can I pay for groceries or gas"? No, but he can sure take his friends out to lunch or dinner.
thanks for your words and encouragement. gladimhere, i suddenly saw you had written to me.
hug!
dear libby, i hope you’ll be ok!!
gladimhere, you mentioned you might have PTSD. i hope you very soon overcome it all.
right now, i’m even more furious than when i last posted (some days ago, “whine moment”). my LO very often defends my siblings! my LO even says “maybe your brothers are helping. they’re always so helpful”.
i do everything, millions of things.
my siblings do nothing.
i get furious when my LO says they might be helping.
of course i love my parents. i’m very angry however. i’m considering letting my LO call my 3 brothers next time there’s an emergency. (and i do nothing). the brothers won’t help.
i feel betrayed by LO’s words/lack of disapproval of my siblings.
i’m not sure how to get out of this (this, meaning extreme anger).
i wish us all well.
hug!!
https://www.agingcare.com/discussions/caregiving-for-a-narcissistic-mother-do-we-do-it-out-of-love-or-out-of-years-of-guilt-and-programmin-463032.htm
My suggestions is for you to distance yourself from this woman. Yes, she gave birth to you, but that doesn't entitle her to treat you like dirt and ruin your life. If you want to, you can find other ways to help her without having to deal with her in person.