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My cousin Nick passed away early this morning. Thank you all for the prayers and good wishes you sent; Hospice was a blessing. He had no wish to be "saved" from his blood cancer and ALS with more painful interventions.
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Not to go, but robo must add to my dictionary.
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Glad.

My husband’s grandmother was also a narcissistic hypochondriac. Once, she told me that her “hair” hurt! LOL! 😆 So, I asked her, “Do you mean your scalp?” She clearly answered me by saying, “No, I don’t mean my scalp. My hair hurts!” Oh, she became furious me when I told her that it was impossible for ‘hair’ to hurt!
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GLADIMHERE,
ERAS is a protocol designed to give very good care:
What are ERAS protocols?
Enhanced recovery after surgery (ERAS) protocols are multimodal perioperative care pathways designed to achieve early recovery after surgical procedures by maintaining preoperative organ function and reducing the profound stress response following surgery.
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I think it stands for enhanced recovery after surgery. When I had my hysterectomy I had a multi page booklet of tasks I was supposed to be performing post op starting with stuff like chewing gum (no, I can't remember the logic of that), leg exercises, drinking, walking, how much I was eating and using the toilet. I was a good little patient until unrelenting nausea kicked in.
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Cwillie and NHWM,
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Vaginal Bleeding after full hysterectomy years ago. - AgingCare.com
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That's either a lot of bleeding, or a troll.....
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I think being raised by a hypocondriac, narcissistic mom helps too. I was never going to be that person.
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CW what is ERAS?

I am surprised I am feeling as well as I am. I think 90% is attitude going in.
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I was wondering about that 🤔.
You are certainly sounding very wide awake and raring to go Glad - does your hospital follow ERAS protocols and do you have a workbook and checklist you are supposed to follow?
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It just occurred to me that friends in other countries are probably not aware of the very wide spread phone scam on expiring car warranties. These to go calls randomly dial to tell people that their car warranty is soon to expire. Makes no difference the age of the car or how long ago it was purchased. I receive the calls on my cell phone several times a week, have received it at my office and now on the hospital phone.

One of my work assistants worked for the local cell provider company. She said that sometimes if you answer the call and say nothing that your number will go to an inactive list. I imagine that means you also need to listen until the to go hangs up on you.
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Barb, thinking of you. Sad days and worry days do come along. I hope your cousin receives the comfort care she needs. I hope your daughter's trouble is not serious & is shortlived. 💙💙
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Barb.

Sending prayers for your cousin and daughter.
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Code white on my floor. Aggression - Burn center.😮
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Barb sorry about your dd and your cousin. Hope they find a way to help her. The transition to hospice is a big step. (((((hugs))))

glad - so happy for you that you are doing so well, and the pain is not bad. Yay!!!
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Sorry Barbara about your daughter, back pain is the worst!

And your cousin too.

Thanks for asking Barb I an doing great! Pain level maybe 2, going off narco to Tylenol.
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Glad, hope you are doing okay.
Sad whine. 39 yo daughter having major back issues. Spent all day yesterday in the ER, no solution.

Just found my cousin has just gone on hospice; has a rare blood cancer and was just also dx'ed with ALS. So sad about this.
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Called on the hospital phone!
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They traced you to the hospital????
Oh my goodness.
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And the phone rings loud. At least it didn't wake me up
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They love you, Glad and can’t let go! 😊

That’s funny but annoying at the same time.
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Ok I deserve a big whine! Can't get away from the robo call on my car warranty even on the hospital room phone! Unbelievable!
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Beatty, thank you. We are taking a vacation together and when we return, I am looking at returning to work, with a sitter for Mom vs. not going back to work, but still with a sitter a couple times per week. Thinking of going to a gym and listening to headphones music, and / or something else, maybe some of the suggestions I just made to someone else :)
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EB,

I LOVED CANDID CAMERA!!!

I would have loved to be on that show! It was so funny! They were constantly playing jokes on secretaries. All of the jokes were hilarious.

They had a new show come out later with the son of the original host. I loved the show that was set in a grocery store. After the cashier rang up their purchase, she would ask the customer if they wanted their purchase to be gift wrapped! 😂 LOL

Another show that was cute was set in a park that had a hiking trail. The hikers were stopped and given tickets for walking too fast!

It’s a good thing that I wasn’t born a twin. I would have been tempted to be one of those kids who played jokes on people. Twins have a lot of fun doing that. I had twins in my neighborhood that were constantly playing jokes on people.
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Beatty, I've read articles about infants crying and why you should let them sometimes. It's so they can learn to self soothe. It's part of their developmental upbringing.

Perhaps as people age and start to decline they lose that skill and become infantile. Going backwards so to speak. It makes sense.
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Myownlife, my infant would cry whenever I left the room. Day after day. Night after night. The Health Nurse called it 'separation anxiety'. I felt such mental pressure. I don't think anyone understood when I explained it. "Let her cry" or "she'll grow out of it" "put the tv on" I was told. When I found nothing I did worked, nothing I did changed her, I decided I must do something to protect myself, get myself the break I needed. I enrolled her in daycare in a flood of tears (mine & hers). As she was taken to be cared for, entertained & to learn to mix with others I went home to sit in the silence. Alone.

I feel for you. Do you have any arranged 'sitters' a few times a week?
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Well, I haven't posted a whine for awhile, so here goes.

So of course everyday is almost identically clockwork routine that I get myself up about an hour before 96 y.o. mom gets up, and have my coffee and coffeecake, read emails, play Publisher's Clearing House, turn TV on for Grey's Anatomy.

Then Mom gets up ... I know because I hear the walker back and forth between her bedroom and the bathroom and then opens door to living room. She looks sweetly at me and tries to get me to take the dog out, but I'm trying to keep her as independent as possible and ask if she could do it, as I do it all the rest of the day. So while she takes the dog out back from the patio, I fix her coffee, coffeecake, pills ( 16 of them ) into the little shot-sized cup, and a glass of water, and set it all down by her chair. She's a trooper and takes all of them at once.

Then the day goes by, watching tv, up for lunch, up for potty breaks, and back to the bedroom later on to change out of pjs. More tv, and so goes the day, until supper time, more tv, and bedtime. I am her constant companion.

So today it's just so pretty, albeit, hot as ?? and I sneak out onto the patio (not really sneaking, but she can't hear well, and I get tired of yelling and repeating, and her peripheral vision sucks, so I make it onto the patio and sit and use my computer, talk on the phone and relax for awhile.... alone :)

Later, Mom comes onto the patio and very ACCUSINGLY says HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN OUT HERE ??!!! I WAS SCARED !! and then walks back in a huff to the living room and watches tv again.

OMG.. so I am just tired all over again tonight. There's no reasoning or explaining possible.... just trying to ignore it again. She's narcissistic, so there was never any empathy from her, and hand in hand with that, never any inkling on her part just how exhausting caregiving is. Everything always ends up in being poor her .... because of course everything is about her, never about me, because there is no me. In her mind I am her.
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Countrymouse and NeedHelp,
Apparantly the waitress was new and thought a time limit was still being enforced but just the same it was ridiculous to say the least. Niece then gave her a decent tip. She told me the waitress was very nice. No time to ask CM the waitress took her food and boxed it up quickly.I guess she wanted to clean and sanitize the table. It was 3:00 in the afternoon and just a few people in the restaurant. My niece was a bit shocked.
NeedHelp I never thought about Candid Camera. I used to watch it years ago.I enjoyed the humor.
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I just can't imagine having my pudding taken away from me in mid-spoonful and not asking why. Or at least saying "oi!" Didn't your niece have time to ask, EB?
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EB,

Why did the waitress pack up her lunch?

Anyone would be surprised by this action. I am reminded of a stint on Candid Camera where this happened. The people sat down to enjoy a meal and as soon as they were about to take a bite, the server took the food away! LOL

It’s funny as a practical joke, but not in reality. I hope your niece will enjoy her next meal out.

I am glad that it worked out. Your niece will still be able to enjoy her meal out and you were extremely fair by giving them a chance to correct an issue. I do the same. I ask for an explanation and am pleased if the other party is willing to correct the matter.
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Well there is always some type of drama with us. We usually have some type of problem going out to dinner, traveling or hospitals.We either get a cranky person or someone that talks so much dinner gets cold.
I decided to treat my niece to lunch today. I told her a few days ago to take some time and go to a restaurant for lunch, I was hoping it was a stress free fun time for her. Well her lunch arrived and half way through the waitress came over with a folk and took the plate and put it in a box, my niece still had her folk in hand. She ordered dessert and she packed that as well. Niece thought oh it must be Covid problem. She called me to check on my mom and I asked if she enjoyed her lunch and then she told me about it. I told her I could call the manager of the restaurant and said no need. I was aggrevated that my niece could not finish her lunch so I did call and spoke to a lovely manager. She could not believe the waitress. She wanted my niece to go back which she did and presented her with a $30 gift card. She is going to have a meeting with all staff. Niece was happy I called. Told her she should have called the manager over to her table.
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