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Thanks, Anche.

I have heard some say having kidney stones are as bad as labor pains. OUCH!
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Needhelpwithmum,
I have been thinking about you and your husband... Fingers crossed!
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My poor hubby still hasn’t passed his kidney stone. Grrrrrrr! I took him to the urologist yesterday and he said that if he doesn’t pass by Monday to schedule and appointment for it to be removed via surgery on Thursday.
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EB,

I remember those struggles with bath times. Everything becomes more difficult as time goes by, doesn’t it?

Sending hugs, love and prayers your way. We do have to keep our sense of humor.

Sorry to read about your side effects from your vaccinations. Ouch!
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My mom just told me she hates her bath, Funny thing last week we were running late for her appointment and we skipped he complete bath but washed a few areas. She screamed she wanted her bath. We started laughing which she did not think was funny.
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Garden Artist, yes the side effects tend to happen after the 2nd shot. I had Pfizer and sig other had Moderna. We both are still very tired, and here my shots were in March, and his in April. Our arm pains comes and goes.

I figure whatever side effect I get is worth it compared to getting the covid-19 itself. If we need a booster shot later down the road, I will be in line.
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They put me on Diclofenic ( I think I spelled that right,, its the pill form of Voltarin,, the cream did nothing for me) and it is really helping. If your insurance covers it look into it. Twice a day, and it has been wonderful for me
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Hi All,
Severe foot pain, cramps toes, spasms whole right foot three days after moderna vaccine and still extreme pain for a month. I made a doctors appointment for early am tomorrow. I will stay clear of any future vaccines. Feel bad for people who are experiencing these horrible side effects. I felt better before the shot! Extremely tired too. Took 1000 mg ES Tylenol and Tramadol, ice pack and still have lots of pain.
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I had the Pfizer shot,, the hospital got it early so thats what we got. My arm also has sudden pains in it occasionaly for no reason, at the shot site. My Hubs and DD had moderna,, he is still unexpectedly tired sometimes.. I will say that once I started taking the pain meds on a regular basis, instead of just when I felt bad.. I am feeling better. But I hate to take meds.. luckily at my age I am only on Metformin for pre diabetes ( and Dr told me I could stop taking it now as I lost 25 lbs since COVID) and a small dose of Crestor.. probably could stop that now too as well.. but they are both covered by my ins. and seem to be working.. LOL
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Pamz, I had a intense muscle pain with my first Pfizer shot, but thankfully it only lasted a few days. I'm sorry to hear your experience has been so much worse... and I just hope that I don't have worsening symptoms down the road. I know it can happen. I hope everything calms down and clears up very soon for you.
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GA, I didn't know loss of smell and taste was part of vaccine reactions. I thought it was part of covid infections. I suppose the vaccine could cause similar traits, but I Googled it just now and supposedly vaccines don't cause those things.

"The vaccine should not cause respiratory symptoms, or loss of smell or taste. If you have any COVID-19 symptoms after receiving the vaccine, you should let your provider know. Remember that the vaccine does NOT cause infection, and it takes 1-2 weeks after the second dose to have its full effect." - westmedgroup.com

I'm probably feeling more fatigue since the shot but since I don't have time for that with all this school work to do, I increase coffees, energy drinks, B-12 liquid... whatever I can do to keep myself getting through things right now.

I have a day off tomorrow (whew!) before two evening classes will kick off the new school week. Today... I really wondered if I was going to make it through putting a PowerPoint together on culture and personality. Formatting in PP, like Word, is so anti-intuitive for me and I just hate it. But I did it. Not well... but hopefully good enough. 😆
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FreqFlyer, you may have written which vaccine you had, but I don't recall.    Was it the Pfizer or Moderna?

Pamzimmrrt, same question:  Which vaccine?    From what I've read on another forum, more side effects occurred at the second shot from the Moderna vaccine, but others have stated they still have no sense of taste (or is it smell?) (can't remember) for months since their vaccines.
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Pam, same here, the arm where I had both of my covid shots has been achy on and off since March. Plus feeling so very tired. I want to curl up with the cat.

It did feel good going into Walgreens and seeing a sign that said if you are fully vaccinated you don't need to wear a mask. Oh my gosh, being in a store and actually see things without my glasses fogging up, what a delight :)
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Ali I had my covid shots in Jan, and lately I am having terrible muscle and joint pain, to the point that I am on prescription meds. They side effects are strange...
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Golden, I am pushing myself very hard each week with school and work. It's a lot. I sometimes feel I'm going to hit my limit but I'm scheduling fewer days at work (2-3 right now) for more time to study. I'm trying to balance it all.

The experience right after the shot was interesting. I so rarely get any euphoric mania symptoms that it was too much of a coincidence that it happened the day after my shot.

In five weeks, I'm done with this term, and done with the year's requirements. I could continue to schedule classes for soon after this school year wraps up but I need a break for a bit. Trying to push through until then, at least. 😸🐱🧡💛

**I sneak a nice epsom salt bath in every other week, and love my turmeric teas. I'm ready for a King Spa trip soon.
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Anache, your comment about your mom's fickle temperature needs reminds me of how many caregivers on this forum have experienced "thermostat wars." Elders can be perpetually cold but I'm surprised mom feels that way if she's waking up in sweat. Can she light the fire for herself or no?
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Anche,

Caregiving will take a toll on all of us. It’s a tough job! I am so sorry that you are struggling. Hugs!
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((((anche)))) deep breaths. Is it time for a facility for your mum before caregiving takes to big a toll on you? Your life matters too.

(((((ali)))) sounds nasty. Part of CFS/FM can be anxiety and being wired (manic?). That's a signal for extra self care. You have been through a lot. Hope you are feeling better.
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I've had a strange reaction, so far, to my 2nd Pfizer covid shot last Wednesday. On Thursday I was giddy and manic (not in the clinical sense, just describing how I felt and how I was acting) which is unusual for me. Friday was more normal, subdued and a little tired (typical), then Saturday I had intense anxiety for most of the day. I thought the anxiety was related to concern about my cat but looking at the overall fluctuations in my moods the past few days..........

I think I've had an increase in mental symptoms as a reaction to the covid shot. I'll take it, though, I think maybe that's better than physical pain, which I was afraid of. I haven't noticed any muscle soreness and extreme fatigue like I had with 1st shot. I often have daily headaches but they aren't any worse the past few days. It's been an interesting week.
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Here comes the weekend again... And I feel so depressed again. Don't feel like doing anything... Not even getting dressed. Thankfully I have my son to take to his match... Otherwise I would just think about cleaning, cooking and staying in bed... It seems I have lost interest in all my previous hobbies.
I don't know why I feel like this... I had a good week with my 2 trips.
Well, I know : morning started with having to completely change my mum... She was soaking wet with sweat... She still wants me to light the fire, she has 23 Celsius degrees in her part of the house and still sleeps with a duvet and heavy pajama... She complains it is cold... But this morning of course she blamed it on me... It is my idea to light the fire... Of course I so like getting up at 6 am everyday day to do it.
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My ground floor neighbor saw me in the front bedroom window today as I was doing more cleaning in N's old room. He hollered "Hey," and then, "I'll bet you're glad to have that room back!" I laughed and said YES, and chatted with him for a minute through the window. He said "You dodged a bullet with that." I felt validated... lol that he saw that and knew that, too. I told him that's exactly how I feel, too.

Thankful that things went the way they did, even though it was hellish for a couple of months.
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Thinking of you, Anche. Sending many hugs your way.
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Ali,

I knew that you would survive your past mayhem with your ex roommate and overcome it beautifully! Let’s be truthful, your situation was a mess, but she certainly isn’t worth causing you any more destruction or stress, because then she wins a second time at being a nut case. Once was enough!

By the way, you deserve to be proud of how you handled this challenging situation. We are proud of you! You’ve got this. Your ex roomie was only an annoying hiccup along the way. Crossing the finish line will soon be a reality! It’s getting closer each day 😊.
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I don't know if I "snapped" out of my funk or my stubbornness took over. lol But I got all my schoolwork in and did it fairly well after spending the past few days cramming and catching up.

Karen Horney, a figure in psychology theories and a subject in this week's material, said, "If you want to be proud of yourself, then do things in which you can take pride.” :-)

She was a fascinating psychoanalyst/theorist and displayed a lot of guts in pioneering new ideas about neuroses and female psychology.

I feel a lot less jittery around my apartment the past few days. I think sharing about it here helped me to process it, too. It was an extremely upsetting experience with the roommate, but it's over and I'm on the uptick. 💚
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I organized everything in order to be able to go to fitkarate. Prepared dinner earlier for mom so that I will put her back to bed before leaving... But... But 2 friends of hers have arrived... So she will eat late and it will be to late for me to join the fitkarate class...
I will have yoga online instead.
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Beattie,
I have been looking for a temporary accommodation for respite care as I was planning to offer my family a "big" journey in 2021 (dh and myself both turn 50 and the 12th May was our 20th wedding anniversary). But then covid prevented to book...
I am now looking for 2 weeks this summer.
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Anche, yes a Sunday off a month is a good start. Or every 2nd Sunday?

"But I would like to keep mom in her house as long as possible". I get that.

Also that *as long as possible* is not always a clearly marked line.

Would it hurt to have a respite accommodation pre-chosen? Just in case you need it in the future? If you, sprained an ankle, or got the flu? (Or course I hope you don't!! 🙏).

My Husband knows someone doing the *home as long as poss* who uses a respite place 4 or more times a year for 2 week blocks. The man has a degenerative condition so will worsen in time. He feels quite comfortable there now & his wife gets a real break (used to travel pre covid). Without those breaks, he says he would be in care full-time by now.

Of course I don't know if every area has such a service & the pandemic might mean this is just too hard/too dangerous.
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Beatty,
I am sorry I missed your question.
We live with mom. We have a big house so when we married we could split it in 2 independent flats. Now we still live upstairs and mom downstairs as she has all on the same floor. But since she fell at the end of February and has been bedridden she is much less independent. She is beginning to walk again but can't do on her own.
I work during the week and have hired a home aid who is great. But weekends are on me. I do not mind Saturdays since my husband works that day and I am usually busy cleaning my own house... But on Sundays I would like to sleep a little more, to go out with dh for a coffee, a walk...
I will try as suggested by my therapist to fix at least a free Sunday per month... To have something positive to do and think about.
I always have that disturbing thought: it will end at my or her death... And I don't want either of the 2...
Rationally I know there are other solutions: a 24 carer or nursing home. But I would like to keep mom in her house as long as possible. To have a 24h/7days home aid would cost a fortune as I should hire 2 of them.
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Ali,
Understandable.
It is good to have common sense when you open the front door.
Your body is attuned to the fight/flight response, the nervousness will subside after each time you open the door and she's not there!

Sit yourself down in front of the books even if you cannot do much yet.
Procrastination can kill you with stress. It makes everything worse.

It may be time to join a study group. A lot of the A students do, and it helps bring other students along raising their grades too. Some classes are better suited for this, ask around.

You've got this!

Myself, I am going to need a week to recover from the anxiety I created by procrastinating doing my taxes. I really did not need that stress, could have done them earlier and got help for free. What a relief now...

Detox the stress by drinking some water with lemon each morning.
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I'm having extra fatigue, body ache, and general energy slump the past week. I think the stress from the roommate situation caused it. I'm avoiding homework like never before. I hope I snap out of it. I think I will. I think I just needed some time for rest and to get it all out of my system. I still feel jittery opening the front door, like I expect to find the old roommate back here. I'm sure this will go away soon.

I've spent about 16 hours cleaning her old room so far, and still haven't done the floors or washed the curtains. I took the curtains for cleaning, it was going to cost twice what I paid for them so I'm going to try washing them myself and go from there. Everything needed scrubbed down. It's nice having that room cleaned up again.

I was supposed to get my second Pfizer covid shot and I didn't... because of how bad I'm already feeling and I expect to have some side effects reaction to the 2nd shot based on others' experience. Hopefully I can get it next week. It's all walk in appointments now around where I am.
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