I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I've spent about 16 hours cleaning her old room so far, and still haven't done the floors or washed the curtains. I took the curtains for cleaning, it was going to cost twice what I paid for them so I'm going to try washing them myself and go from there. Everything needed scrubbed down. It's nice having that room cleaned up again.
I was supposed to get my second Pfizer covid shot and I didn't... because of how bad I'm already feeling and I expect to have some side effects reaction to the 2nd shot based on others' experience. Hopefully I can get it next week. It's all walk in appointments now around where I am.
I get it. I felt like that. When we are tied down to a schedule, we are never free to look forward to anything that we used to enjoy. It feels like we have lost our free will and are going through the motions as if we are a machine instead of a human that can freely choose how to spend the day.
People expect us to make the best of a depressing and stressful situation. It’s hard to do that not knowing when the end is in sight. The end is depressing because it usually happens at death. Even if parents go to a facility there is still care involved.
So, what are the best years of our lives? 20’s or 30’s? No caregiving! Some at that age don’t even have kids! LOL
The fishing line trick to keep deer away....
HOW DOES FISHING LINE KEEP DEER OUT OF YOUR GARDEN?
No, you’re not trying to hook and reel in a deer with the fishing line. You simply string the fishing line about 3 feet above the ground attached to stakes. The lines should be hung a few feet outside of the beds you want to protect, not right up against the plants.
You can use metal or plastic stakes that blend into your garden, making the whole setup virtually invisible to the human eye. Start by inserting 48″ tall stakes about 8-12″ deep into the ground around the area you want to protect. Then tie your fishing line between the stakes about 3′ high.
Basically, deer can not see the fishing line that’s right in front of them. They can smell your delicious garden/landscape plants and see a blurry version of that lush, green goodness.
They start to approach the meal you grew for them. There’s no sound, smell, or sight of danger anywhere around. They move in for the feast.
Then suddenly, something right in front of them that they hadn’t detected brushes against their fur. What the heck – run Bambi, run!
But on Sundays I am alone caring for my mom... I just cry nearly every Sunday...
I feel like I have had a life sentence
Golden, I take it the deer in your yard isn't typical or you would get repellent of some kind if it was destructive and ongoing. It does sound pretty and picturesque but I get the annoyance. Wild animals of all kinds are cute to me but I remember some critters chewing holes in things or pooping in flower beds at grandma's house and then it was war. lol
Finally got my late paper in this evening and now I'm caught up there... and behind on everything else for this school week. Whew. These classes move fast, with a lot to cover and learn, and then test on or write papers about, all in one week.
Both classes this term have quizzes every other week, too, and including the required discussion board posts and replies which take a whole day to do them for both classes.
I'll never understand how working adults with young families, or two jobs, could ever put in the work needed... but I have a few people like that in my classes and they manage to get it done.
In California,
"Unless a shorter time is specified in the lease or rental agreement, a landlord has 21 days to provide a final accounting and return the balance of the resident's security deposit. The time begins when the landlord regains possession of the property."
N. can "say" anything she wants, it will be harassment.
You can say that you are making a police report for the stolen items and the drug paraphenalia left behind, as well as the damages she caused.
You can say that you will likely sue for damages to the apartment.
Except, don't put anything more in writing, imo.
Be strong.
Thanks! It is somewhat hard to believe that in one more year, I'll be 65 and in about 4 more years, I will complete my online degree, the Lord willing.
Thanks. Yes, this is tough. Getting out of the house 3 times a week to exercise for 45 minutes is not enough. I really need to get back to playing my guitar as my sister in law hopes I will do. Don't take this wrong, but as a man, one of my greatest stress and anxiety reducers is sex, yes even at 64, but my wife say that being 66, she is too old. That's not so according to the medical books that I have looked at. Oh well.
I think it is time to find a new therapist since my present one does not sound like there is anything I can do from his perspective. He is in the town we left and thus, an hours drive away. I wish my very first therapist was still doing therapy, but she went back to being a school counsellor.
I am so happy for you!!! You deserve peace in your life. I know how committed you are to your studies. Now, you will be able to move forward and focus on what is most important without the stress! Yay!
Let’s toast, 🍻🍾🥂🍸🧉🥃! Time to celebrate 🎉!
CHEERS, ALI!
I didn't sleep well, couldn't get to sleep until past 4am even though I took a little extra zolpidem. I don't feel well rested but MAN I feel GREAT! Such relief. Feels like a new lease on life. 😆
There's a lot of work to do to clean up and get the paper done but now I feel very confident it will all get done! I was depressed, among other things, when N was here. Same thing I felt living with my father. Just didn't want to do anything, always so tired.
I'm glad I have the cameras in place to feel more secure. I'll leave them up for a bit, just to be sure that N is really gone.
I'm really in your debt, those who made time to be supportive and give input during this ordeal. A million thanks!
Now get some sleep and start fresh tomorrow!
Yay! Amen! Hallelujah!
Do you have any questions?
Did you lock and barricade the windows?
You stood your ground, and stayed stable, did it all legal.
It is never really over with an addict, but the moving out is over. She must never be allowed in ever again.
She may try everything to have free access to you via the letter in the mail; via the deposit being returned; any reason to get to you in the future may be employed by her. Including returning the knives or pans (oops, took them by mistake).
Now can the locks be changed?
Your job is to breathe a sigh of relief! And be very careful to never open the door to her again. If you have something to exchange, meet her on the curb.
Now go sit in your desk chair.
Then, inspect the apartment, throw out the trash. Check for gas leaks etc.
You are going to be fine from here on in.
You did it! Yay!