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lil - sounds like you need a break or something to build you up. Is there anything you can do in the way of self care, in your situation? Take time for yourself, hot bubble bath, cup of tea, read, listen to music...Anything that is just for you will help. Is it time to make other arrangements? (((((hugs)))))
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lil,

Do whatever you need to do.

We care.
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I don't know whether to laugh, cry or yell. If I do all at once though, something will fall or break off for sure. Laughing the other day at everything, crying yesterday, angry today.
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FF,

When my cousin was a little girl she hated getting shots so much that one time she saw the nurse with a needle and she ran out of the office door and hid under the outside stairwell.

She kept very quiet and it took my aunt a long time to find her.

Oh boy, did she get punished for doing that, plus she still got her shot! LOL
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I love listening and watching Dr. Peter Hotez regarding the pandemic. I find him very calming, and informative. He's resembles a big kid, and that probably works for him since part of his job is Pediatrics and Molecular Virology and Microbiology at Baylor College of Medicine in Texas.

The needle sticking, way too many reminders of that. I think it will only scare off the people who don't like getting shots.
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That’s annoying, Golden. I haven’t used instacart. Shipt does a good job. My daughters have used them.

I guess if you only had a screw up this time, you can give them another chance.

I go by an average of times. If I go to a restaurant and they have been great for a long time but messed up only a couple, I chalk it up to an off night.

I’m with you. I don’t like red delicious apples either. They seem kind of mushy sometimes. Plus the flavor isn’t all that great.

I love gala apples too. I am amazed at how many kinds of apples there are.

It’s funny, whenever I see granny smith apples I think of my grandma. That’s the only ones she bought.

Same for figs because she made fig preserves out of her figs. She had a beautiful fig tree in her back yard.

Her neighbor had a pecan tree. The squirrels got to a lot of the pecans.

My daddy had a lemon tree. I loved when daddy gave me a bag of lemons.
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I usually get good grocery service using Instacart but tonight NOT!!!!!

no milk though I ordered 2 cartons
no diet pepsi - no charge there
2 bags of mandarin oranges when I ordered one
and Red Delicious apples (which I don't like) when I ordered Galas.

I was credited for the milk, the oranges and the apples, but that doesnt make up for it all. Thankfully, I have some milk in the house. Don;' know what I am going to do with the apples, maybe cook them, and I will give some oranges to my daughter.
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WorriedInCA - You did GREAT. You were there for your mother when she needed help the most. And now you're back home with your own family where you belong.

I understand it's sad leaving her when she still needs so much help. But do look ahead and be optimistic. Others will step in to help her. And she herself will get stronger and need less help.

Better days are ahead.
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Worried in Cali, thanks for the update. I always forget to check the discussion section. I always go to the question section of this forum.

please don’t feel guilty. You have done so much!! I hope your mom reaches out to Susan to help her.

I know how frustrating it must be for you to watch your brother being unhelpful towards your mother.

Please know that you are a wonderful daughter who has done so much for your mother.
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Hi Worried: I don't do discussion section anymore but came here hoping for update from you.
Please don't feel guilty. You have your own young family. You were there when it counted.
The drain. First uncork and empty, THEN gently squeeze to collapse, then recork. You don't want to squeeze first or you are squeezing the fluids back in. You want to squeeze after it's emptied so that forms the suction to draw out more. It is likely draining little now, but he should keep track of the amount.
If Mom has Susan across the street I am thrilled! Let her come and do it. People WANT to help, especially surivors do. I wish I were there and could do for her. We would have a good old time talking too.
Worry as little as you can, but were I you I would have SUSAN in charge of the drain. She will know what she is doing.
And worried, men are ALWAYS the babies about this stuff. He's trying. He sick and he's scared, and being both at once can bring any of us into full faint.
I am glad of no complications (remember my worrying the seroma thing). I am thinking of you and your Mom both, worried. Please don't feel bad. My daughter could do ever so much less for me, but the treasure of her love and concern were all the world to me then. Send notes and cards and love.
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Worried, "...not prepared for the sadness and guilt�..." yes, that about sums up the entire emotional journey of caring hands-on for our LOs. Re: your brother... my cousin is a giant strapping man but could never go to the dentist due to the shots. He'd faint dead away. He pulled out his own rotting teeth with his fingers instead, that's how much of a phobia it was. Same with my former pastor, also a burly manly man. Shots made him faint every time. I think your brother can't help his body's reaction and not sure he will ever "acclimate" to doing that task. Maybe the emotion that it is his mom is making it worse. Sometimes I think that women have less of an issue with bio fluid stuff because of our periods and childbirth and dealing with babies. Just a theory. So glad to hear of your helpful neighbor. Wishing you lots of peace in your heart.
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worried - you have done a great job. Awesome about the neighbour who will help. The main thing is that it gets done.

It's interesting about the dreams. I had one last night about work (been retired 10 years and had versions of this dream even before I retired, but this time imposed on it was the concern that no one was social distancing or wearing masks. Guess the message has gotten through.
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Hello worrieincalif, great to see your update. My goodness you have nothing to feel guilty about, you certainly had a lot on your plate and your mom is one very fortunate woman to have such a loving daughter. My brother threw up after my friend opened her mouth to bug him at the kitchen table where we were having breakfast, she was a nurse so nothing really bothered her, she had green food of some kind in her mouth. He kept saying "what a nut, what a nut", LOL. All we did was laugh at my brother and his weak stomach. What a kind compassionate neighbor to offer genuine help for your mom. I am glad your mom is doing well. Have a good day.
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Ginger, I feel like that in real life, when I am leaving home legitimately to buy food during our lockdown. I am masked up and following the rules, but still expect to be flagged down and sent home with a police fine! Also, when I'm watching a drama on TV I'm frequently thinking " why aren't they wearing masks and how come they're socialising when it's not allowed?". Then I have to remind myself that what I'm watching isn't real. It's a case of fact being stranger than fiction at the moment. We are all deranged by it!
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I keep having dreams I am walking around in public without a mask. I mean, in my dream I am going everywhere with wild abandon. Living it up. I keep thinking the police are going to arrest me and cannot believe I am getting away with it, but nobody seems to notice. I wake up and realize it was just a dream and am both relieved and a bit amused. Kind of like Gershun said, it is proof how much this virus has gotten into my subconscious. Ugh.
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Exasperating, Worried. Yes of course I agree we've all got our limits, and we all need a little while to adjust to new yuk factors I suppose, but a bit more thought for your mother would have been nice.

Maybe suggest he wears a mask while he's within six feet of her? That way he can control his breathing + if he does have to grimace at least she won't see him!

I'm sorry I've been so behindh in sending you comfort wishes. You're pleased with her recovery now, aren't you?
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I am back home after spending the last week & a half taking care of my mom. This morning before I left, I had to show my dad and brother how to empty the remaining drain. It’s really not hard, you just gently squeeze the bulb, remove the plug and turn it over in to the measuring cup and record how many of CCs of fluid are there. My brother reacted by gagging and running to the sink! I am trying so hard not to judge because we all have our limits and things we can’t handle. But this just hurts me for my mom. Neither my brother or my dad are good about supporting her emotionally and she was a bit sad that I had to come back home today. My dad can’t empty the drain because he only has 1 hand. I just wish my brother hadn’t re-acted that way for moms sake. Thank God her neighbor across the street is a breast cancer survivor and has offered to help my mom with anything she needs so if my brother can’t handle emptying the drain, hopefully mom will call Susan across the street to come help her. I really was not prepared for the sadness and guilt over leaving her today either.
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I even have covid dreams now. That's how I know it's truly become embedded into my sub conscious.

Please, make it go away. Somebody? Please.
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I agree totally about the nose swabs and injections. I’ve also developed an aversion to three talking heads that appear on. Leanna Wen, Peter Hotez and Dr. Fauci. They’re hard to get away from them.
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CWillie, YES!!!!
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CW, that's nothing! We've got a saturation tv advertising campaign running which raises my (admittedly touchy) blood pressure every 15 minutes: you see a series of suitably downcast and/or exhausted people wearing an array of oxygen masks, ventilators and surgical PPE as applicable and looking miserable to camera, and the strapline is something like 'look them in the eye and tell them you're doing everything you can to stop the spread of Covid.'

Yeah, well I will - as long as they can tell me in return that they did. Until they got confined to ICU and all that.

But what the hey, no matter, the great British public appears to be ignoring the campaign anyway to judge by the road traffic.
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Is anyone else getting tired of having to see pictures of people having a needle stuck in their arm or a stick shoved up their nose every time you check the news?
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Hi Sendhelp, glad you are doing well. I'm good. We got about a foot of snow today. The trees are snow capped and beautiful. Took a walk at the start of the snow storm. I find it exhilarating walking with big white snow flakes falling upon my face and the wind blowing just enough to make you a bit chilled. Hot steaming soup is on.
Great advice after consuming muffins. A brisk walk for thirty minutes in the sunshine sounds so good. I will definately try it and thank you.
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cwille,

Your recipe for morning glory muffins sounds very close to our local coffee shop ones. They are delicious!
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Send,

I suppose they are. I love the flavor combinations of morning glory muffins.

There is a local coffeeshop here that serves them. I love them!

I don’t get them often, maybe once or twice a year but when I do I enjoy them.
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Morning glory muffins are like a marriage between apple muffins and carrot muffins - home made versions often emphasize healthier ingredients and additions like ww flour, wheat germ, oat bran and flax, my recipe throws in pineapple and coconut too. 🧁
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EB,
For every muffin you eat, spend 20-30 minutes outside, in the sun, walking, or wandering around on your property.

That can go a long way to ease any sweet guilt you may have.

Cranberry/orange muffins would be so good. I don't think Costco has them in my area.

NHWM,
Morning Glory muffins are like a carrot cake recipe?

Gone....bite size brownies, chocolate cake, mini blueberry muffins, banana nut muffins, and gave away a supply of cookies to church. So glad January is over, and a new month gives me a new opportunity to select better choices.

What's for dessert?
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Did not order my usual fresh from Costco, due to the power outages.
Was able to just STOP buying anything.

There is a good supply of foods here, for emergencies. I am getting so used to emergencies, it is hard to tell what is an actual emergency these days.

So, there is a surge in Covid cases, still.
So, eating outdoors at a restaurant is again OPENING.
Kill me now.
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Hi cwillie, I had to look up BTDT. Very slow thinking on my part. Would never have thought of it LOL.
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BTDT earlybird 😉
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