I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I'm sorry about your cousin. That's so terrible. It's difficult to fathom.
I think you ARE right though. My reserves are low. I think we all are doing pretty good considering.
I researched fast moving cancer and pancreatic was one. It's difficult to imagine going away that rapidly. No service is planned for now. I want to do something in her honor though. She was such a giving person. Always doing for others, trying to help out, bring a smile, offer a cup of tea and a soft place to fall. We've lost a lot.
Does anyone know what kind of cancer can kill you in 3 months from diagnosis? I read that about a friend yesterday. She fought for 3 months before dying. I didn't even know she was sick. She was only 65 years old and a vibrant lady who was healthy and very active. I keep looking at the photo on her obit page. I just can't believe it. This is my third friend to die within the last 16 months.
We have no children. No pets. Nothing to break the monotony or bring moments of joy.
I’m really upset. But, he won’t budge. It’s more than about a cat. I thought it would help make everything lighter, even just a little
I bet mom won't want to use the farthest place if you start charging her for time and mileage. Put it in writing and let her see what she will be paying for her stunts. May or may not make a difference, but at least you will be getting paid for your time and wear and tear and fuel. 2020 mileage rate is 57.5 cents per mile and the hourly rate for a personal assistant is 24.00 hourly in my city. That doesn't look like it is worth it when you see it in writing.
Great big warm hug! She is going to lead you on a merry chase if you don't set boundaries now.
My mother was finally able to see her new Doctor. She had the Doctor call her Rx's into Walmart.
The Walmart is an hour drive for me. One way! She explained that she had a gift card that could be used and it would save her money. She never took into account that it costs me gas money. After spending 45 minutes at the pharmacy, turns out that the gift card only had $10.00
dollars on it.
She told me that the card had $100.00 on it. Mom was angry at me for not arguing with the pharmacy tech over the amount of the gift card (3 years old).
I get home and get a call from my Aunt. She never calls unless there is a problem.
She went to the front desk of her ALF wanting to "check out ".
They are fed up (she does it multiple times a day) and they told her that I checked her in, so she needs to call me if she wants to check out! They know damn well she can't go anywhere with the quarantine!! I had to have "the talk" for the hundredth time about the fact that her home has been sold and she is now in her new home.
I understand that the ALF staff is currently overworked and probably understaffed, but what the Hell? We pay a lot of money for her to be there. It's assisted living! Not an apartment!
My decision to place her there was largely because they assured me that she would be well cared for!!
It's so painful every time I have to tell her. I imagine that I will get the same call tomorrow!
Thinking I won't answer the phone.
Sorry, just needed to vent!
I love you saying it's not written in stone that "Lilhelp must be their tireless listener." Thank you! And you know who is there to listen to me? No one. Thank you a million times! for listening & replying.
Agree .. buried or cremated; even said it out loud .. that it's putting me in my grave.
I'll try what you suggested.. not that I haven't, but I'm blown off. I try to make up reasons (excuses) not to listen any longer .. but, like I said they've already got the 'hits' in.
I love humor. I think next time I might say 'Please hold while I connect you to ... a therapist,' and hang up. That may work while they try to figure it out & I put # on block or mute. At least I wouldn't have to listen to more.
So many people don't want to hear suggestions for solutions. They have no motivation to change - maybe just want someone to listen for a while. Understandable.
But nowhere is it written in stone that Lilhelp must be their tireless listener.
My DH uses humour (would that be appropriate?) "Yes it does sound like you are completely DOOMED! Do you want to be buried or cremated?".
I try, "are there people you can talk to about that?" ie Doctor, therapist.. hairdresser...
There are still children locked in cages at the border. People are still dying of COVID-19. Just saw a USA Today headline—“national disgrace. 40,000 nursing home residents dead”. I haven’t seen any other media pick up that story and run with it. My own local news has been covering our peaceful protest but they use the most inflammatory headlines! One today affected highway traffic and they made it sound like an all out riot on the highway.
The media in this country is evil. They control the narrative. It is time for people to wake up. All these inflammatory headlines and picking & choosing what to report.....it is so dangerous! So much is happening but we aren’t hearing about it.
History does repeat itself.
Looking up past L.A. riots, they may have lasted 7-9 days with a National Guard presence a bit longer.
We can get through this.
I do not know why the protests continue, their voices have been heard.
In 1918, we had a pandemic and fought with several sick soldiers who got others in Europe sick in WW I.
If you were a preteen or teenager from the mid 60's until the mid 70's, you remember the race riots; the Kent State shootings; the Vietnam war riots with the war publicized right in our faces on the TV; the problems with illegal drugs: the assassination of Martin Luther King, Jr. president John Kennedy as well as his brother; the race to the moon; the fear of global freezing; a whipped up population scare;;a fake gas shortage with oil tankers right off the coast; and who can forget the Watergate scandal and cover-up plus president Nixon being impeached.
The economic news of those times did not catch my attention, but once I got in college, I new social security was in trouble when I looked at the size of the baby-boomer population vs how many live births people were having after the last baby-boomer's birth in 1964. My parents said not to worry, the government would do something. My thoughts were, you need to look at the numbers that I've seen.
I have written all of these details out for the benefit of those for whom these events are not in your memory, but you may have read about them in school.
Those were tough times from many directions, but our country, the great experiment of a democratic republic survived.
I think we grew some, but perhaps[s not as much as could have been learned from the experience. Enough to say, if experience alone is such a great teacher then why are we repeating the experience instead of really learning from it? Those who don't know their history are doomed to repeat it.
The rest of us get very nervous when we see history not being learned from.
Needless to say, but these trying days are multifaceted with problems as well. We have a pandemic, an economy to rebuild which is improving as it seems to ignore the civil strife plus other problems going on. At least we don't have two kinds of riots going on in our country at the same time; no one's been assassinated and we are not in a world war.
So, from my 63 year old perspective of living in those riotous times long ago, we have a lot to learn which begins first with really listening plus asking questions of ourselves and others after really hearing them.
We are so busy thinking of the next thing to say, that often we don't really listen to the other person.
Also, as long as we follow the rule of law instead the rule of power, we will survive ; Remember that one thing, we believe in the rule of law. not the rule of power. Sometimes we have to put extra effort in enforcing the law, but that's part of living under the overall rule of law. The great American experiment has survived and learned a lot since 1776. We have survived our trials in the past. We will survive these trials as well.
The stores that just opened had to close early. Brush fires from fireworks are occurring, even overnight.
Whether this is fake news or fave news, it is current, happening now. I am tired of it too.
https://youtu.be/Q0fkv2vJrPQ
Truly awful those riots. I have to admit I switch from news to comedy panel shows some nights.
Peace in the bathroom is a good idea.
So sorry about your boss. I’m glad you took care and stayed home. It’s such a shock when we lose someone suddenly.
My DH boss also tested positive but he is negative now and no one else contacted from him that we know of. DH boss only in his 50s and in good shape and was very cavalier about the whole scenario until he tested positive. No underlying conditions, not obese, worked out regularly and it still made him very ill. He continues to feel very depleted.
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Good news on your surgery. You have had a tough 2019, 2020.
I hope you give yourself a moment to enjoy beautiful Montana and all the time you need to feel better and to heck with holding it together for others.