I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I'm sorry about your husband. Grace and Peace be with you.
Love,
Boots
It isn’t appropriate for your BIL to drag your family into his mess. Honestly, I would feel used. So, is he taking advantage of the situation due to it being convenient to use your husband and purposely making it harder for his soon to be ex because it is hurtful and embarrassing to be served by a family member. I would not want to be in the middle of it if I were your husband.
Usually after all of that running around, Dad would announce he wanted to go to Home Depot. WhenI heard that, I would say to myself "God, take me now" :P
I love Home Depot, more interesting than a grocery store for me, but I had already put in time at work, and I was soooo tired.
I know, I should have set boundaries, but my folks still viewed me as that 16 year old who loved to drive, instead of a senior citizen driving much older seniors.
2 hours following her around trying to keep her focused in her department (petite) as she tried to go to the plus size and then return to petite. I said oh no we have already been here and I am tired :)
Soon as we left the brightly lit store and headed outside in the dark with her pushing her walker (way too far ahead of her as always) she heads for a white car. I turned her to the right one. She said, when did we get that car? And I said, well, we got it before we went into that store!!
Then she didn't recognize her purse ... and so it goes :) Guess the Sundowner's kicked in when we went outside into the dark. And yet another day is almost done.
Like being in a Road Runner cartoon & watching the explosion from a distance. I hope you can get some distance too although being supportive if that's how you feel.
We had a local company doing this type of thing and they were actually stealing all of the belongings they were supposed to be transporting.
I would make your brother get his butt involved and sort this out.
Can mom afford to rent a few items to help her get by until her things arrive? What does she really need to get by, bed, chair, plate, fork, spoon, coffee pot? I would be renting and hitting the thrift stores to get her outfitted to go live her life. You don't want her getting settled in with you.
I would not let her ruin the peace of your home.
Are you sure that's what mom was told? There are plenty of long haul moving companies out there. Find another one.
Please tell me I'm not the only one grieving the loss of my once quiet little life?
Since I became responsible for my Aunt in October, I have been buried with paperwork and trying to make sure she's well taken care of from a thousand miles away. Trying to get ready for the arduous task of doing her taxes. Still not sure what to expect!
My mother who was supposed to have been moved into her retirement home (again total narcissist) has been staying with me for almost two weeks. Waiting on the movers. She can't find her contract with them. After several phone calls they told her today that they can't find anyone to drive to Montana with her stuff. She was living with my brother. He helped facilitate the move. What the hell was he thinking?
So I am absolutely overwhelmed and just whining cuz I want my life back. I know that things are never gonna be the same, but I can't help but long to hit the rewind button to 4 months ago.
Thanks for letting me vent!
Why is it that some men cannot stand to be alone? They don’t grieve, they replace their wife. My FIL did this. He said, “I don’t want to be alone.” The woman he was with spent a ton of his money. He traveled the world with her. Had an affair with her while my MIL was dying of lymphoma. So sad. Two weeks after MIL died he moved this woman into his house.
So sorry you are going through this.
Thankfully she couldn't get his SS or he would have been destitute, and she tried, didn't want to be responsible for annual reporting and having to prove that every penny was spent on him.
You can report her for financial exploitation of a vulnerable senior and maybe get it stopped.
He will have to lose some money before he will realise its a scam. I am upset because some of that will be my mothers money.
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And did you take it anyway?
I called my daughter and told her that I have sneezed a bazillion times and she needs to come pick up her dog. I have been dog sitting for her.
My fault for snuggling too much with him. He’s a love bug. But now I feel funky. I am going to soak in a steamy tub and hubby is bringing home Claritin for me.