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It's just like with kids derochka, they never need a doctor on weekdays between 9 and 5, it's always weekends or the middle of the night.
Did they give you any tips about what to do if it happens again?
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Mom woke me up at 1am complaining that her catheter was stopped up. After I flushed it a few times, it still did not work. I took her to the hospital at 2am. We were there for 2 hours and it suddenly started draining. I have a head cold and feel like death warmed over and we were at the hospital for 5 hours in the middle of the night for absolutely nothing. Why can she not have these issues before midnight?
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Tee, have you checked into adult daycare?

This is a fairly inexpensive solution to getting a senior out of the house and giving the caregiver a much needed break.

This could give you a chance to take your dreamed of class.
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My whining moment for today. I was looking at the adult education pamphlet last night. I thought I might like to take a knitting class. Oh wait I can’t I would have to bring my mother with me !
Oh well it was nice to think about it for a minute.
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NHWM, no whines about the weather? Looks like your area got slammed with weather you all rarely see.
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Feel better, Viking. I love that name, Viking.
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The Viking was asleep by the time I got to hoca after work though she was moaning in her sleep and saying, mama, I don't feel good 😿

Unfortunately, with incontinance and immobility, one loose bm can get to the urethra easily

she did drink plenty of fluids today and we're giving an extra shot of cystex until antibiotics are started
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Tee,

I feel your pain! Being a caregiver is the hardest job ever. Starts to feel like a prison. I cared for my mom for decades, 15 years in my home.

So sorry that you don’t get more breaks. It’s emotionally and physically exhausting.

You are entitled to whine!
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I have had my grandog visiting. My allergies are acting up. Grrrrr
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That’s awful, Ms Madge. So sorry.
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Hang in there Tee!!
Really thinking of you!!
Just wanted to make sure you're ok!
My brother took his own life 18 months ago! I can tell you that he may be out of pain, but the pain he left behind was almost unbearable!
I know we all say similar things now and then, however, if it truly is a thought that comes to mind, please seek help!
It sounds like you're doing an amazing job. Don't lose heart!
God bless!
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MsMadge,
Sorry for the bad news of your friend's parent.
And your own Mom, again with the Uti.
Does she have a urologist?
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Things to do while hiding in the bathroom:
File your nails.
Pedicure your toenails, don't come out until it's dry.
Use a face mask.
Rub menthol on your knees.
Salt scrub your feet.
Shine the chrome faucetts.
Plan a remodel to make space-saving shelves high up.
Fold towels into a decorative basket-best done with face cloths.
Rub emollient on your elbows.
Clean out the under sink vanity cabinet.
Hand wash some delicates, or pre-wash some socks.
Clean the mirror, again.
Decide where to install some grab bars for safety.
Put a bath pillow in there, lay down.
zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.
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Tee, great big warm hug!

Can she afford to have a sitter come in for a few hours a week or a fortnight? You need more time to keep you in balance and even have a date night with hubby to nurture that relationship. Give a hug to him, he is pretty awesome to step up and help you with your mom.
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My whining moment of today and many days! I am my mother’s 24/7 caregiver. She cannot be left alone has LBD over 3 years now, I have become her sister because in her mind she is probably in her teens to early twenties. (She cannot walk, or do anything for herself except eat. I must watch her constantly. I have her on a visual baby monitor all day. Anyway my gripe is I must bring her every place with me, she doesn’t understand she is 91 and has no balance and will fall. I can’t speak to her and tell her I’m going out please stay in your chair, five minutes after that she will say I never said anything! I can only schedule appointments on the day my husband has off. I needed to go to the doctor for 3 weeks, but my doctors day off is the same day my husband’s day off is. So I had to wait till 7:00 at night for my husband to get home so I could go to a walk in medical CTR. We were invited to a friends surprise BD party, well my husband went I stayed home. Don’t get me wrong I go get to go out and have a life but it’s while she’s in respite which happens twice a year, if this didn’t happen I think I would do away with myself.
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So sorry for your sad news Madge.

Murdered? My Lord!

Sending love to you and your Viking⚘
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It has been nothing but bad news all week - the most horrible was a friend's parent was murdered - there are no words to console grief like that

Something's been off about the Viking for a few days, so I asked for a urinalysis - nurse collected sample with a cath this evening and it was cloudy - now the long wait for the culture to grow - Dr won't prescribe without it
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So sorry Cali,

Your dad is a trooper and your mom is a great co pilot flying right along side of him, right?
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Just talk to my mom......my dad has a blood clot in the bottom of his lung! He went for a cat scan at the VA hospital today and they were half way home when the radiologist and his dr called & said the cat scan was abnormal and to either go to the nearest ER immediately or turn around and go back to the VA ER. They acted like it was life or death! It’s times like this that I really wish they lived closed because when they got to the VA, no one one knew why they were there and they were left in the waiting room for hours! My parents aren’t the type to complain and make a fuss so they waited patiently. I would have made a big fuss. Like why are you all acting clueless and not doing trying to find out anything from the doctor who told us to get here ASAP when my dads clot could kill him at any time! Get it together and figure out needs to be done before he keels over, is what I would be saying to them! Anyway not much they can do at this point except put him on medication and monitor it. He goes in Monday for bloodwork and they’ll decide if he needs to keep taking it. My dad feels fine though and doesn’t think anything is wrong Since he doesn’t feel sick but he’s still very stressed out according to my mom. He told my mom he thinks they are seeing his pacemaker and confusing it with a blood clot LOL! My mom is just like no dear, it is definitely not your pacemaker. I will be going up there in about a week & a half as long as it’s not snowing in the sierras, gonna have to have some discussions about the future and get paperwork together, I think it’s time for that, all things considered. When it rains it pours. Mom is still getting over an exacerbation (hospital said pneumonia, her lung doctor says it wasn’t pneumonia). But neither of them let this health crap get them down, they just keep on pushing through and living life. they have a free night at one of the casinos in town so they are gonna use it next Wednesday. I don’t know if this is selfish but the only reason I’m not in a state of panic is because they are continuing on with life and making plans! If it wasn’t for that, I don’t think I would be so calm right now. Now matter what life has thrown at them, they’ve never stopped living. And I love that about them. I wish I was the same way but I am not. For me the world stops spinning.
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Let the wild rumpus begin!
Here's my whine today!
Mom has been here for almost a week. She can't move into her new place til the movers bring her furniture. I have taken to hiding in the bathroom to get some peace.
I can't answer my phone without her asking whose calling. She'll answer my phone if I leave it while hiding in the bathroom. Lol.
She's upset with me because my band is playing a private party next week and she can't go.
I have tried to get her to get up and move, because she complains about her legs being cold. When I tell her that her circulation would be so much better if she would get her butt out of the chair and move she complains that I don't understand.
My poor husband has disappeared into his man cave so he can have control of the remote.
Thanks for letting me vent!
I can only hide in the bathroom so long! Lol
Please join me in prayer that the movers get here soon!! :)
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Hi partner and welcome. You have a lot on your plate. My mother was 106 when she died and I was POA and then executrix. No fun! It's just about over and not soon enough. Can you talk to the agency for aging in Bob's area and find out what resources there are for him. You can't do everything! Is there a caregivers group nearby for support for you? At some point will he need to go into a facility? Medicaid is available if he doesn't have the funds to pay privately. Even someone else visiting him a couple of times a week would take some pressure off you, Caregivers need to look after themselves - always.Many here understand the pressure you are under. Come back and let us know how you are.
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Here's my whine moment for the day.
I'm a first time poster.
Three years ago I cared for my mother until she died. (She was 101.5 when she died). I am her executor and had to deal with her estate. The next year my partner of 18 years got cancer in his throat.

We went through chemo and radiation and he hasn't been the same since. He was on stomach feeding for 3 months, but now has constant medical problems. If it's not one thing it's another.

He's lost a lot of weight and eats almost nothing. He's always full he says. And he's gotten very dependent on me to help him and do things with/for him. We live 60 miles apart so you can see how that works.

I am getting very stressed at trying to help him with his health, help him downsize, keep him emotionally stable and 'be there' for him.

Ok. that's enough whining for one day.
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Is Meals on Wheels an option for you or her? Or order a pizza once in awhile.
Cook a large meal and freeze part of it for another day and then you don't have to cook that day.

We all need a break from cooking sometimes.
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No doubt you were horrified.

Yeah, I totally agree, no photo proof. Didn't happen and you can't prove it!
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Its funny now ITRR.. but I was freaking last night!! My BFF coworker wanted me to take a picture.. oh Heck NO!! She has an evil sense of humor! Luckily my supervisor is a doll, and I almost never call out, even with fmla for both Mom and Myself..
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Pamzi, I am sorry but that is funny.

I am glad you were able to call out and get it taken care of.

Your description is hilarious.
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This is about me,,, all about ME!! Last night as I was about to take a bite of my "soft dinner".. my lovely temporary bridge fell out! WTH!! Thank goodness it was here at home and not at work,, because I look like a hillbilly with no teeth in the entire front without it, and had to call out of work so I didn't scare my co workers and patients! Luckily the dentist was able to cement it back in this morning bright and early,, So back to work tomorrow,, fingers crossed it holds for 2 more weeks until my permanent bridge gets here And since it is a bit cold and heat sensitive I was dying for a cuppa!
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Wow, you judged someone that was there for you when you were in the middle of a melt down. Becareful what bandwagon you jump on, because you could be the next target. I know what tacy022 did for you and you turned on her like a dog. Now me.

That is what gratitude looks like for you, this makes you a better person than others. No thank you, I will continue to be real even if you don't like it. At least you know where you stand, your flag blows whatever way the wind blows.

Leave race out of it, you are the only one that has even gone there. I think a pig is a pig no matter what color they are.
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Cali,

Of course being in a Catholic school we prayed as a classroom when famous people died, such as JFK or MLK died. We were taught to care about the people who died and their families. We also prayed for ordinary people dying, a classmate who lost their dad in an accident or any other relatives.

So I firmly believe as I did as a child to show respect for all lives lost. Sometimes a nation grieves and mourns a significant loss of people who contributed so much to our society, a leader in the political arena or a sports figure who broke records in their profession but most importantly because they are fellow human beings.
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Cali,

I think people feel sad if a famous person dies because it is a life lost. That is how I feel. Also, they are sad because they are acknowledging what they contributed to the world. They worked hard to achieve outstanding accomplishments. They are and forever will be legends.

That is just my opinion.

I was a child when we learned in my classroom from my teacher about President Kennedy’s death. I was sad that a man was shot but I also felt the devastation of the leader of our country was now gone forever.

I also feel that all human beings make mistakes. We should look at their entire lives, not just their failures and if they are sorry for their infidelities and I believe Kobe, Tiger and others were sorry. JFK did the same but it was hush hush, the press respected privacy for families back then.

I see these men’s accomplishments outside of their infidelity. That doesn’t mean in any way that I condone infidelity.

I admired JFK as a president. It was exciting to me as a kid watching the space program develop. He and MLK gave me hope as a kid that there would be hope for racism to end. I was devastated when MLK was killed. When I was a child there was segregation. I never understood why I as a white child could do things that black people could not. Once I accidentally drank out of a water fountain in a department store that read ‘colored.’ My mom told me that I had to drink out of the one that read ‘white.’ I was so confused. I asked her if the water was any different. She said, “No, but it’s the rule. We each have our own fountain.” I thought that was crazy. My mom and dad were not prejudiced. They were following the guidelines in our society but didn’t agree with it either.

Kobe was a great player and should be respected and remembered for that and any other good things he did. He was a great father to his girls. He and his wife appeared to love each other, they survived their ordeal. Good for them. I applaud those who can heal.

Certain cases like a Harvey Weinstein are too far gone for that marriage to have been saved. I don’t blame his wife one bit for leaving. She had to.
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