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Cwillie,

bootshop girl said it all

you are strong and taking action, and that's a good thing

MsM
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DH fell last week taking out trash and broke his hip. He had horrible reaction from surgery...confused, argumentative, trying to get out of bed. Had reaction from lorazepam buildup. Then aspirated while taking meds, went into afib, developed pneumonia. And now he’s in ICU. The unreality of it is still not processing. Beyond frightened. And my mom will probably pass this week....if it weren’t so serious, it’s like a bad country western song.
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So sorry Carol!

Willie, I second what Bootshop girl said.
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We love you Cwillie! You have a whole village here walking right beside you. Even if you can't see us, we are holding your hand. You got this! You are loved.
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It's been two weeks already since my last cancer update - the healthcare system here may move slowly but it does move and I'm right on the curve of what is deemed acceptable care. CT scan was yesterday, pre-op Thursday, surgery scheduled for the 14th, and probably won't have an appointment to go over the pathology until a couple of weeks after that. I waffle between optimism and pragmatism but the initial anxiety (terror?) has subsided and for the most part I can pretend everything is normal.
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Condolences, Carol
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Carol,

So sorry about your uncle. Hugs!
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Carol, I'm sorry for your loss.
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Carol- I am very sorry about your uncle.


We have had so many people drop off dogs by our house, because we live in the country. When we couldn't find them homes we took them to the shelter and we had to pay for each dog even though they were not ours. So we paid.
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Buried my last uncle today in the wind and rain.
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Actually not all animal shelters and SPCAs charge money if you drop off animals you’ve found, that’s actually quite rare. Most charge the owner a fee when they pick up their animal at the shelter. Infact luckylu, your city animal shelter doesn’t charge to drop off a lost animal. They do however charge a small fee of $20 for owners to surrender their own animals.

And there are a lot people in this country who aren’t responsible pet owners and dont spay and neuter. Even if it was free, they wouldn’t do it.
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That's terrible Golden and why there's so many babies having babies.The cost is outrageous~
People want to do the right thing and get their pets spayed or neutered,but so many can't afford it.
It even costs money to drop off an animal at a shelter that they've found and people can't afford that either.
It's really sad~
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glad - no low cost clinics here. The only shelter is the SPCA and you have to pay several hundred to get a pet from them due to neutering etc costs. It will be in the 3 figures for the next visit for spaying the two kitties and giving each their booster shot. 😺😺
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We often have low cost spay/neuter clinics. You must have one near you, Golden. Call a shelter near you to find one.
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Cali,

Yes, they said it was the average number of deaths but it’s still sad. There is abuse. I know people in the industry here. There is drugging and there is abuse. Overall, there is mistreatment of animals. It just makes me sad.
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With the horse deaths I think they are misrepresenting the situation. Yes there have been over 30 deaths at the race track BUT when compared to the number of horses that run that track every year, 30 is a small number of horses to have died. I mean, no horse should have died to begin with but I am just saying that the media is misleading about the whole thing.

Thanks for the insight Pam. I do think it’s making a comeback now that more states are legalizing it.
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Pam,

My daughter was invited by her professor to attend a conference with a group of students. Every single speaker from every bank spoke about the marijuana business and it’s growth. It’s here to stay. The banks are furious!

The stipulations are crazy. The feds won’t let banks handle the money and it’s crazy. If anyone takes in money from the pot industry it’s referred to as ‘money laundering.’

One bank spoke at the conference that handles a wine shop’s money and has for years. They are an old customer of the bank. The bank just got into trouble for ‘money laundering’ because they sell CBD oil at the register, which only amounts to 10 percent of their total sales. They sell primarily wine!

So get this, they said the store had to separate the money that they took in from CBD oil and the bank can’t touch that money.

My daughter said the marijuana industry is furious too because they are having to rent warehouses to hold money in rather than be able to invest that money. It’s nuts.

All around pot needs to be legalized. Just my opinion.
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Polar,

Cats do keep the mice population down on farms too. Farmers use them for the field mice.

Same can be said of snakes too as far as keeping rat population down. I don’t get having a snake as a pet but I appreciate them as part of the circle of life.

Geeeez, just saw on the news about the horses deaths in California. There have been over 30 deaths in horses. I know the horses here have been drugged.

New Orleans has one of the oldest tracks in the country, The Fairgrounds.

Kentucky is the daddy of all horse racing.

I rescued a greyhound from a track in Florida. Some dog tracks drug them too. So sad. Some greyhound tracks are being closed.

The circus closed, Barnum and Bailey. People don’t appreciate orcas and dolphins being captured. Sea world is not promoting whales like they did before.

There are still places that people swim with dolphins. I hate it. Dolphins and whales are extremely intelligent and are very social.

They shouldn’t be taken away from their pod. Whales grieve when separated from the group. They need to free in their natural habitat.

I wonder if horse and dog racing will ever subside. Big money keeps in open.
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Worried I probably am.. I work in Baltimore! LOL I knew the smell well when I was in college in the 70s.. But it seems to be making a comeback in the inner city, and everywhere. I just read an article in the AARP mag about it.
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Pam do you think you are used to the weed smell? I’m actually surprised I don’t smell it on people when I’m out and about. I do smell it while walking past cars (even though it’s not legal to smoke it and drive here but a lot of people do). My parents were both cigarette smokers, dad still is actually, and I’m still not used to the smell and can’t stand it! I’m hoping I will get used to the smell of weed eventually.
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Yeah, patchouli is gross! Just foul smelling to me.
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Need I hate patchouli too,, it makes me gag. And some people reak of it. My daughter calls it old hippie smell.. LOL Not really fond of musk either. Weed I smell all the time on the "non clinical" people at work..the smell doesn't bother me that much..
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Strong,

I know that you are hurting and honestly, the last thing I would want to do is add to your emotional or physical pain.

But here goes, why on earth are you in this TOXIC relationship? Don’t you feel like you deserve better? The answer is YES, you do deserve better!

You already know that it is a one way street, no make that a DEAD END street. Please get out before his surgery, also remove yourself from being his POA. You don’t need the headache. Please don’t teach your kids to be a doormat. You are not his doormat.

To hell with his proposal. So what if his proposal was in front of your kids. I never got someone doing ‘public’ proposals.

Let me tell you that no one would impress me by skywriting a proposal in the sky! They would impress me if it was just between he and I, a sweet, personal, intimate moment between the two people it matters to the most.

Don’t be fooled by a ‘show’ of affection. Real affection does not require an ‘audience.’ YOU are supposed to be his main audience, no one else! I would not like being put on the spot in a public proposal. I hate show offs!

I loved my husband dearly when we were dating. He proposed privately to me. I appreciated that. I have to say that I did not say yes immediately though. It’s a huge question! Also, I was sure about him, just not being married. I would have been happy to live with him for awhile. He wanted a wife. I understand that.

Things became more complicated when my old boyfriend surprised me by proposing to me too. My now husband said something to me I will never forget.

He said, “I love you, take all the time that you need. You are worth waiting for. You have a history with him. I am the new man in your life. I want you to be sure for both of us.” He did not rush me. He did not pressure me. He did not try to control me. He did not give me an ultimatum.

What a sweetheart, huh? He isn’t selfish. He is loving and kind. I don’t have a one way street or dead end. He returns my love. He is there for me when I need him. Don’t you want that in your life? I know that you do or you wouldn’t be on the ‘whine’ thread.

Break it off now so he can make caregiver arrangements during his recovery.

When you are ready you will find someone else, most likely when you aren’t even looking.

Take time to heal, learn about yourself and if you decide to be on your own, you’ll be better off alone rather than with someone weighing you down.

Take care and hugs!
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I completely understand! Thank you, your comment allowed me to vent!
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My partner of 25 years stopped by to tell me he's having hip replacement surgery, and I'm his caregiver, I have POA for his health.
He's always cruel, I have allowed this pattern because he knows, I always forgive him. I'm mad as hell at myself. I am monitarily poor, hes monitarily rich. I asked him to help me with a membership to a therapy pool, as it's the only way I can get stronger, and am in less pain, of course he said no, but still is sending me information on his hip replacement surgery. He knows, expects me to be there, and I will, and I'm going to stay with him during his recovery. He's morbidly obese @360lbs. I didn't "do" anything to cause the diseases I have, it's a genetic mutation. I'm so mad at myself for allowing this to continue. Obviously, I'm CRazy! I want to be hugged, but since his prostate cancer diagnoses, (he proposed the day of his diagnoses, WITH MY KIDS THERE, and I took care of him through 2 cancers, over 6 years in my home WITH my kids. NEVER should've done this. He walked out in the middle of the night, thought I didn't want to come to bed. I was working, I had prepared a 6 course meal promptly @ 6pm. Had to work after dinner. It's 24 years, and getting worse. MY FAULT, as I have allowed this behavior. I get nothing back from him, not even hugs, which I crave!
Im an IDIOT!
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This may sound cruel but at least in my area, feral cats are part of the ecology. They help keep the rat population in check, and they help keep the coyotes from going hungry.
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Very good suggestion, cw. I will get them spayed and they will have the obligatory vaccinations, but nothing extra. It seems as in human medicine, there are so many more "extras" now at the vet than there used to be.
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Golden I've often said that if they truly wanted to address the problem of unwanted kittens and feral cats they would make getting them fixed free and easy.
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Both orange kitties are females!!! The cost of spaying etc is horrendous, then they want extras like blood tests. No thanks!
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Cali,

Weed isn’t legal here but no one cares at jazz fest. We have such high numbers attending the fest. The fest makes a ton of money so the city makes money from locals and tourists. Cops turn their heads during jazz fest.

Great points, cwille.
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