I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
When we moved here (Puerto Vallarta, Mexico) in March of this year I got a sticker for my car from Aduana (the Mexican version of DMV) in Tijuana when we left. It is good for 6 months. I had hopes of ‘importing’ my car to Mexico and getting license plates from the state of Jalisco.
Well, no can do. My car is too old to import. So, I checked with Aduana and they told me that, because my car (Acura) was imported from Japan, I can’t import it to Mexico. What??? (I guess because they can’t collect the import tax.)
The only way out is to return to Tijuana, turn in my temporary importation sticker, collect my $350 dollars and take it back to California.
I decided to call my ex to ask him if I could keep the car up at his place and he agreed. At least I won’t have to rent a car when I visit my new granddaughter (she’s due in September).
What a mess! We are flying the friend (who helped us move here) down next week and he and I will make the trip while hubs tends to our brood (4 cats-3 dogs). The friend will take me to TJ and I will cross the border and drive up to Northern California.
When we moved here I was so happy that I would NEVER have to drive through Mexico again and also NEVER have to drive up Interstate 5 also.
Lesson-NEVER say NEVER! ☹️
She is going to the rehab tomorrow. It is right across the street from me so there is that .
thank you for asking
I’m so sorry. Hospital stays are exhausting. They truly are, for the patient and family.
Has her doctor said if she will go home soon? What does the doctor say about treatment?
She is scared and feels alone and has lost contol of her life. I understand that.
I am so tired of listening to her cry about pain meds, the mistreatment by the nurses. etc ...
The doctors think its an obstruction again and she has been on a tpn diet (dont ask me what that means). Hydrocodone addiction is not helping the issue.
I have been up there everyday for 4-6 hours .
Thank you for sharing this! It’s the most annoying thing. My mom feels men’s jobs, men’s everything is more important than anything on my agenda.
One day a light bulb went off when she told me not to bother my husband at work. I said to her how special daddy was to always help her when she needed him and that she was grateful to him. So I said to her that my husband was special too and just like she needed my father’s help from time to time and appreciated it, that I was deserving of my husband’s help too!
That shut her up!
Once in awhile I can think of a good comeback! Usually I think of something a day later.
When I told her I was at work 20 miles away, she said, "Well, when I get impacted it will be your fault!! Then you'll have to take time off of work to take me to the hospital!"
I suggested she call her son (my husband) since he was taking a kid to school which was close to home.
Her reply, "He needs to go to work."
Sigh.
Not like she couldn't see this problem coming...
I called my husband and he took care of the problem...including telling his mom that my work is just as important as his. Bless that man.
I can't ever do enough. Which is laundry, food shop, Dr appts, cook , clean I have my family to. This is my MIL with 3 sons 2 far away. I can't just stop caring for her but I want to scream sometimes because she expects to feel 20 again I wish I felt and did as much as she does without being sick ( crohns) and stressed everyday. I told her I was going out for a few hours she called to ask where I was. I can't get away from her for a minute. I definitely am going insane in the membrane. Today my husband set her straight we are your care givers if you won't listen to us for your own benefit. He will call his brother s and ask what to do with her. Since her middle son has POA. I never felt better for a moment. I wish she would trust me to do what's best for her going to Dr for nothing did her worse damage to her immune system because she will now get sick for going to the Dr for nothing. ...just wanted to vent again....
I hated to have given even one piece away, but gone are the days when the boss would come to dinner, and one needed a really nice impressive place setting [like the boss really cared]. And gone are the days that the younger people want that stuff.
I went to the rummage sale on its last day just to see how my donations were doing. There sat all the beautiful Fostoria, priced dropped in half :(
Congrats on the house! Funny, I'm just reading my "expat" email about retiring to and living in other countries.... one I just finished reading and ruling out is Ireland.... some kind of rule about having a minimum income of 112,000 euro .... well that let's me out :) of course, I probably couldn't deal with the winters anyway! I'll just check out other countries for my "one day".
We found a great house to buy in sunny Puerto Vallarta, Mexico that’s close to everything yet very private (in a small gated community). (No whine here.) I’m thrilled because it will be “ours”. No more listening to hubs gripe about not making too many holes in the (concrete) walls of rental houses, possibly breaking the plastic pipes in the kitchen, bathroom and outside hose areas (who puts in PLASTIC pipes, anyway?), we can’t paint the walls in a color we’d like, etc. Now, I can do whatever I want with MY house.
So Hubs got a bee in his bonnet to get rid of anything that we don’t use or need. At first I was hesitant, because I did not want to get rid of the things I have, but I saw his reasoning. Why take things that you don’t use into a new house, just to junk it up? So, I set about getting rid of many clothes that I won’t be using down here. Also many blankets and spreads can be given away, as it’s just too hot to use them.
I got “in the spirit” of lightening our load. Many things were “going”. I was sorting through stuff, separating them for donation. Hubs started checking the items and WANTED TO HOLD ON TO THEM!
Aaagggggh! So this is my whine. Somehow I think this is so I don’t tell him to throw out all HIS junk. What men say and what they do are 2 different things. 😬
Going off to look up side effects of shingles shots.
Since this wasn't a huge emergency, I decided to have sig-other take me to the walk-in urgent care. Well, we check on four in our immediate area, all closed, as it was almost 10:00 pm. Even the one that use to boost on TV [nationwide chain] they are opened 24 hours a day.
Then we went to the local hospital, I walked into the ER and the place was packed, the clock ticker said 55 minute wait.... yeah, 55 minutes to be taken into the room and then a half a day for everything else. The clock ticker gave other waiting times for other ER's in the area. Hmmm, one said 4 minutes. So we got into the car and eventually found the place 15 minutes later [stand alone ER].... thank goodness for the blue H signs on the road. As in the dark, with two people in their 70's, driving at night isn't as easy as it use to be :P
As I was signing in, a nurse came out and waited for me to finished. That was quick !! I was in an exam room, with 2 nurses swarming all over me. We were in and out in 2 hours. Got to remember this place !! Yep, it was the side effect of the Shingle Shot. Yet, my sig-other, who is a hypochondriac, had his shingle shots last year and the only problem a very sore arm for a couple of days.
Lucky, I know what you mean by bursting into tears, I have to fight it in the grocery store sometimes where I used to shop for certain items for my mom. When I see these things I have to keep moving to stop from crying. Sometimes it has helped to shop in a different grocery store.
I think all of the processed crap that people eat is awful. Look at just a few generations ago when people cooked from scratch how much healthier it was. My grandpa had a veggie garden in his yard.
Look at the TV dinners that came out in the 50’s. I guess those were among the first processed foods, and fast food places which are horrible! Cakes were made from scratch not cake mix boxes filled chemicals. I heard chemistry students talking one day on NPR radio and they said the majority of processed foods are loaded with chemicals. All of these preservatives, additives, gmo’s can’t be good for us, not just weight but overall health.
Monsanto lost that huge law suit with the GMO issue to the lymphoma cancer patient. That man is dying so the money will go to his family.
Big {{{hugs}}} to you,Katie and Gershun~
I know when I get sad I miss my mom even more. She was my strength and now I don't know where to turn without her.
Let yourself cry. I feel better when I can cry. It's a way of releasing stuff that can bog you down.