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Update on my whine: Still no progress. I even spoke to the doctor and they still have not faxed the correct prescription. SERIOUSLY?!!!!! How hard is this? Thank Goodness I'm not some little old lady who is hard of hearing and needs her heart medicine
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My first whine today is that a government website whose number I have been trying to call only lists that their office is open from 8-4 AST (Atlantic Standard Time) at the bottom of a list of numbers. One whine is that they are only open during these times, which cuts off the office from half of the country during normal business hours, and the second whine is that they only list the AST at the bottom of the list of numbers. I located the number that I needed -the top number and did not read down the list so missed the AST reference. Aaargh!!! This doesn't help as I normally do business in the afternoons as brain fog clouds me most mornings.

And that's my third whine. Having brain fog from the CFS/FM means that doing the paperwork as executor (also as POA) takes way longer than it would have before my brain fog days. It also makes me more prone to mistakes which then prolongs the whole process.

My fourth whine is that I have a dd who has is a CA who could whip through in hours or days that which it takes me days and weeks and sometimes months to do. I have seen her in action, and she is amazing. But she doesn't want to help. Even the things she says she will/wants to help with, don't happen very easily, I think part of it is that I was "supermum" for so long that none of them recognize that I do need help now. And the other thing is that I look younger than my age and healthy regardless of the CFS/FM, so they don't think I have any of the limitations that come with both of these. But I do.

So I will muddle through, it will take longer than I want to, but it will get done eventually. Those of you that are/were caregivers, be thankful that you did/do not have to look after finances as well. Those of you who are caregivers and have business and finances to look after as well, you have my deepest sympathies. it's a special kind of h3ll on wheels that increases stress significantly, And if you have that combined with age and chronic illness then we are travelling the same journey.

Rant over!!!
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Spending priorities have been bugging me for some time, CW. Not in a useful constructive way, I don't claim - just something I mutter and grumble to myself about as I trundle round the house, you know.

Just out of curiosity, I looked this up:

The United States has the largest video games presence in the world in terms of total industry employees. In 2004, the U.S. game industry as a whole was worth US$10.3 billion. U.S. gaming revenue is forecast to reach $23.5 billion in 2017, making it the second largest market behind China.

Golf is a $70 billion industry.

Global Gambling Market To Reach $635 Billion By 2022.

Or, just to prove I'm not just having a pop at (mainly) men:

The global cosmetic surgery and procedure market is expected to reach USD 43.9 billion by 2025, according to a new report by Grand View Research, Inc.

The one that is especially making me rant to myself is recent advertising for a dietary supplement that binds to fat in the gut and helps people lose weight. This excerpt is a few years old now:

• Weight loss: Since entering the UK market in 2012 [anon.], the UK’s number one weight loss tablet, has become a £10 million brand in only two years, and has been credited with the growth of the slimming pills market which is now no longer in decline.

We as consumers (I am not singling out individuals because a person's relationship with food is not something I'd dream of criticising) are spending millions on pills that will allow us to spend money on more food than we can healthily digest.

The UK is spending billions on a single train line that will get you *very* *slightly* quicker from one city to another city. It won't reduce the overall journey time by more than an even tinier bit, though, because you still have to get to and from the termini, and nobody's sorting out that mess. Meanwhile we've got no rural bus network and the road system is clogged to death with freight traffic.

I spent £25 attempting (unsuccessfully) to have a two year old hamster resuscitated.

So I agree that we don't seem to be making very intelligent or effective decisions, I just know I can't talk either.
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MsMadge, I wish your president would build some walls for your mother and all the others who must share rooms in facilities, can you imagine how far that many billions of dollars would go?
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If this is a problem for you it is likely a problem for lots of other people Katie, and the solution could be something simple that could be changed at the source, but nothing will be done until enough people complain, perhaps if you bring it up with your condo association you will help get the ball rolling...
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Katie, why not get an estimate for the glazing upgrade and see what sort of money we're talking about?

The plant might well think it's a bargain compared to being sued for nuisance, potentially by you and every other household you've got in touch with, claiming for noise reduction costs and enforceable reduced operational hours.

Noise nuisance turns me into a snarling monster. I cannot bear it.
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Wow everybody, so many crazy mix ups and calamity. It seems like no one can get anything straight anymore either! I wonder if people just can't handle all that automated stuff, and there is too much reliance on computers. We had a garage door guy come out last week...he did the work well, and we are still getting automated calls that "the garage door guy is on his way"...from the company. It is scary when a doctor's office can't get it straight. We had numerous stupid things happen because of our move and places couldn't handle a simple address change. Computers were supposed to make life easier...instead there is chaos and more stress.
( I bought myself good foam earplugs and they worked last night...I can't imagine the processing plant paying for triple pane windows here though.This place will likely be a 2-3 yr. stop off..)
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Bedtime last night felt like a 3 ring circus in mom's room

I'm helping with the lift when I hear the door alarm sound so I check that - it's the man next door - he follows me back and proceeds to get in roomie's bed

I was going to leave him until we had mom settled, but then I hear roomie coming down the hall so I go distract her and look for help to get the neighbor out of her bed

in the meantime another woman wanders into the room and now roomie is telling her to leave and they get into words in the hallway

as soon as the Viking said her prayers, I turned off the lights, closed the door and ran
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Noise. There are EPA regulations about that. Yes, the dairy processing has been there for a long time? Similar issue here with odors, a plant that has been there since early 1900's. Well, neighbors got sick of it and called the State Department of Public Health and Environment. The plant is under enforcement regardless of how long it has been there. Or, maybe the plant would purchase those triple panes for you?
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Thx Golden, Not straightened out just yet cause I have yet to hear from the pharmacist. They're open till ten so I've got my fingers crossed.
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SMH - wow, crazy mix-up. You have to double check everything!!! I am glad it is straightened out now. I once had my synthroid dose halved by a new doctor for no reason other than he did not read my charts right. I complained to the pharmacist, who knew me and my history, fortunately. He called the doc, and straightened it out. What if I had not known?
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Oh, I already have an update for you: So I phoned the Dr's office, got through. She said "I don't understand, we did fax the prescription today" I said, yes, but it was the wrong medicine. She said "they didn't get it?" I said, No, they got it but it was the wrong medicine. She said, "they didn't get the Seroquel?" I said, I don't take Seroquel, it's Effexor. She said "seroquel is effexor" I said, No, it isn't. Then I spelled out the proper medicine name for her. She needed me to repeat it three times. Finally, I said, can I speak to the doctor. He came on the line and said we straightened it out. I said, well your receptionist seems to think Seroquel is Effexor. He says, well it's all straightened out now.

We'll see.
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Katie - hope you find a solution. These are the things we can't anticipate when we buy a place.

Oh my, Gershun. You couldn't make that up! It's like "Who's on first?"
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Well, I have a whine today. I set a Dr.'s appt. before Christmas for Dec.31st. Then they phoned me mid Dec. to reschedule it for Jan.2nd. So we did that but then I received a message on Dec.31st saying we need to reschedule it cause the Dr. leaves early on Dec. 31st. I tried to phone back to explain I already rescheduled it but got a message saying their office was closed and their machine did not accept messages. So I tried calling again the next couple of days. No luck. So I went to my appt yesterday and fortunately they had me slated in.

My doctor was to fax my prescriptions to the pharmacy. So I arrive at pharmacy later yesterday to pick up prescription but he had faxed a blank form with no medicines. So I phone Dr.'s office this morning, tell them the problem. They call me back to tell me they faxed it to the pharmacy. I go to pharmacy this afternoon and they faxed the wrong medicine. So I phone them again and they assure me they will get Dr. to fax correct prescription. I go home, and my phone rings. It's the doctor's office. I say hello and all I hear is "hello?, hello?" They apparently can't hear me. So I call pharmacy again to see if they faxed it yet. No, they haven't. So, I phone the doc's office again and their office is now not answering the phone again.

Stay tuned for tomorrow's update. :P
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Thanks everyone for the advice. I am not sure about the quality of the window glass here. I have to look at it. The bedroom window actually does not face the factory behind the woods....it is off to the side but the sound comes down the drive and hits the outer wall I think, which my bed is up against. I did buy myself some better earplugs and a new sound machine, for what that is worth. This sound did not seem as intrusive when there were leaves on all the trees in the woods. I also have heard sound carries more in colder air. Funny that I have been able to sleep through trains and train whistles in the past, through car alarms and NYC noise, on a ship close to the engines, even through thunder storms and fireworks but this just drives me berserk. It does not seem to bother hubby much, but his hearing is not as acute as mine....I envy that right now!
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The window inserts sound like a great idea Frazzled, I had never heard of them but they're kind of like interior storm windows... even the priciest ones are bound to be cheaper than new windows and no need to worry about condo rules.
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Katie, we just bought a new condo a year and a half ago. We live across from a train track and the trains are super loud but we have triple glazed windows and as soon as we shut them the noise just disappears. It's amazing. I don't know how expensive it would be to have them installed in your bedroom but it may be worth it.
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Soundproofing window inserts and acoustic panels on the walls may help with reducing some of the noise and vibration too.
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I imagine it's like when you can feel the deep bass music notes even when you can't really hear them, so the white noise isn't helping. If the bedroom has a big window facing the factory you might think about upgrading to triple pane glass.
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I have tried white noise machines. I have installed some noise and light blocking curtains. Helps with light but not noise. Using ear plugs. The pulsating sound can still be heard above all else so far.. Like a droning morse code. The other bedroom is really too small for hubby and I.
I value my bedroom and getting rest, and this room has proven to be the loudest in the house. I hope and pray that place at least shuts down it's 3rd shift, or does the noisy work during the day. I am trying another alarm clock with more white noise options. I may also put a throw over the headboard....I haven't had noise problems for the last couple of decades and now this. For all the money this place cost, this is probably going to turn into a short lived bummer...maybe a year or 2.....ugh. If anyone has any noise muffling ideas I am open to all ideas....
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Oh Katie that sucks :(
Is there another bedroom that may be better? Or maybe one of those white noise machines?
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Nothing like buying a nice new condo that is easy to live in...then discovering that the woods in back, with trees losing their leaves in Winter, contain a dairy processing place that runs 24 hrs. I could have spent way less on a home near places like this. I have tried earplugs but nothing stops the soft pulsating sounds that come intermittently all the time in the bedroom. It finally quiets down and then bam...it starts and builds up. A steady drone would not be so bad but it is the pulsating that drives me nuts. Because of the holidays they have been back at it nonstop. I didn't need this with all else going on with MIL and since hubby retired he just obsesses with checking his blood pressure all the time. I had a rough night and when I do get to sleep the dreams are crazy. I wish we all could have a life of no problems.....Thanks for letting me vent after a rough night.
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What I do is assembly style the dinners by making meals in advance 7 days and have them in the Fridge and put saran wrap on each meal. That helps when dinner comes just heat up 1 minute and dinner ready. Also cook meats in bulk and put in freezer and pull out when needed.
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CW, so early in the year? Hopefully it is just trolls trying to get the ire up. The regulars should know better. So sad.
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Sorry to hear that and would like to avoid that. This is not good day and not for reasons that I can put here.
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I posted on another discussion that I didn't see much back biting and finger pointing going on on the forum but I have to eat my words, there are a couple of threads that are getting downright nasty.
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My whine is what we had to be reminded of right before Christmas. My SIL brought some old coins and savings bonds that my MIL left for my sons. My SIL had to remind us that she and her sister, my wife, were purposefully not receiving much of their mother's estate as punishment for getting married and to keep her sons in laws from getting any of her money. Because of the way she left everything, the total value of the estate is loosing 45% to taxes. How mean a way for a mother and a church going daughter of a pastor at that to treat her daughters and sons in law. I guess that there is some lack of reason in giving her grandsons any money since they would not be here if it were not for a son in law, who fathered them. Old scourge has inflicted pain from the grave. I don't know why my SIL had to remind us of that right before Christmas. Anyhow, we had a great Christmas without the presence of her narcissistic mom whose god was wealth and whose passion was control and domination. My wife apologized years ago for forcing me and the boys to spend so much time with her mom so that she would get an inheritance. I hope she considers it all worth it and enjoys it now that she's getting 45% less.
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Patty,

from your profile, you've been taking care of dad for many years - do you have any help ?
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I'm tired too. My 80 y o mother has a sister (82) she's close to and I'm expected either to call or go over there every day and listen for hours about health problems and - honestly - trivia b/c both have trouble doing much outside the house. I'm lucky my mom is still in relatively good health but her sister isn't and she badgers me both to call the sister and go to visit her to listen for hours to her health problems. Neither of them do much listening to *me* talk about anything.

Where are my cousins? Why am I bearing so much responsibility for this? I'm only 48 years old. I really desperately need to be looking after my career, NOT taking a job working for one of my mom's nonprofit causes so I can help her make money.

It seems like this will never end. I am going to call a counselor tomorrow, I think.
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Patty, please elaborate. Why are you so sad. Please share more and maybe we could all be more supportive.
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