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Cwillie my thoughts are with you. You did a great job you can be proud of
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Hugs,love, thoughts and prayers for you CW. My heart feels for your loss. We all love you.
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I second everything everyone else has said Willie! Words do seem so trite at times like these.

You were your Mother's rock. Never forget that! xxoo
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Dear Cwillie

After so many years, yes, the end came so quickly and the loss is still so fresh

You have been a truly steadfast daughter and as Ali says we all would be in good hands in your care

We are here for you and wish we could take you out and raise a toast to your mom
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Ah, CW, I started to type comments and Hugs to you several times in the past couple of days... but they all seemed trite, "good luck with this journey, you never know what will happen."

But now you do know. I'm glad that your mom didn't linger in any uncomfortable state, and I'm sending you (((((hugs))))) and well wishes for getting through the next part in front of you. You've done a great job throughout and anyone here would want you as their advocate and caregiver.
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(((Hugs))) Cwillie! Sending my deep sympathies to you. You have been a great daughter and caregiver for your mom.
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CWillie.
Yes, it has been only 3 days, and so many years.
So very sorry for your loss of your Mother this morning.

Your loyalty and love for your Mom has seen you through.

Your friends here want to be available for you, and our thoughts are with you.
🐿
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Hugs, CWillie, I'm very sorry for your loss.
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Big, big. hugs (((((((cwillie))))))), and my deepest condolences. In the end it happened very quickly. Your mum is now at peace. Know that you have been a great caregiver. My heart goes out to you. Prayers for comfort for you and your family
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Well it's over, mom passed around 7:30 this morning. Has it really only been 3 days?
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We sure have some crazy weather Myownlife,don't we?!!...Like last week,it was summer one day and the next day it was Winter and Fall never happened.
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Have fun, luckylu !!! Ha ha, I would be happy to take a break from the hot weather here and take care of your animals !!! :)

I actually just talked to a friend in Maine this evening and she said she was just getting home, that it was 39 degrees and some misty snow in the air!! I had just gotten home for the day, and was sweating like a pig, and turning the AC down to cool off quicker... too funny.
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Just a vent....My dH and I never go anywhere fun,but tomarrow we are planning on going out on a Pontoon boat since my dH's sister and husband are visiting and Naturally the high is only supposed to be 55 degrees and scattere showers.Before I saw the weather report I was looking for my swimsuit and cover -up but now that Iv'e heard the weather report,I'm looking for coats and blankets to take.It will be way too cold to go swimming.
My BIL offered to get us a motel room too down by the lake,but there's no way I can leave all my animals alone so long at home.It's just a bummer,that's all,but still I will be glad to get out on a boat for a while.I love the water.
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TG, this bit:

"You would think someone might want to mention that since I have to take and pick him up at the airport."

Well. You don't, actually, do you. Where is it written "thou shalt give thy dad lifts to the airport at short notice?"

Call his bluff just once, waste your sister's money, and perhaps it'll learn the pair of them that taking you so rudely for granted is not clever.
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One foot,
In front of the other,
Each day,
Is unknown with your mother.
We will be here to accompany you,
There is no one as dear to you
As your mother.

Glad you could be there for her.
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CW, hugs and prayers from me too, {{{hugs}}}. Don't forget to eat and take care of yourself too.
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CW thinking of you.
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cw, it's scopalamine
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cw - thinking of you and your mum as you go through this very difficult leg of the journey ((((((((hugs)))))))) and prayers

annie - I hope you can have a break soon

tg - I am sure you are tired. All this is not your fault,
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My whine for the day. Dad is on the phone with my sibling apparently arranging a flight to her house for the holiday. His car wont make it and it s a long ride anyway. So she is making all the arrangements. He says to her "I've been taken care of for my whole life" meaning everyone has to do for him.
I gave him ample times to mention something but he hasnt said "Oh BTW I am flying to your sisters for the holiday". Nope, not a word. Sister hasn't called and said "BTW Dad is coming to my house for the holiday". You would think someone might want to mention that since I have to take and pick him up at the airport. He loves to have secrets or know something I dont know. I am tired of the division in my family. No one talks to me anymore. Not sure how I have become the black sheep since I do all the work with him. Somehow he is driving a bigger wedge between the family. Maybe it is my fault, I am sure it is. After 5 years of this I have become bitter and tired and grumpy. I have no privacy, my house is not my own and it is all taken for granted. He tells everyone I take great care of him but on the inside I am boiling. I am sure he complains to the family how I dont let him do anything. lets see I have paid for flights to vacation for him, flights for funerals, driven 16 hours for funerals for him. Spent 5 years having my business be in the basement so he can have a nice sunny living room. OK rant done, thanks for listening, just needed to vent.
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Annie- I am sorry for your situation. I really hope the end is in sight for your and your mother's suffering. And the same hope for most of us who are just sick and tired of care giving.

I just read a news article recently which said that the number of dementia/Alzheimer's patients is expected to reach 10 millions people (or some very high number) in the US within the next decade. Right now, the estimated number is around 6 million. The reason for the increase is that with modern medicine, people can now be treated for heart disease, and other diseases that normally would have killed them in the past, and live long enough to reach dementia stage. For me personally, I want to get off the train at the previous station before I reach dementia.
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Im tired of dumping the commode chair and cleaning unmentionable things.
Im tired of having to get up at 5am every day
Im tired of not being able to relax in my own house
Im tired of racing around anytime I get to leave my house for a short period of time
Im tired of the constant worry
Im tired of having to answer the same question over and over. "Hows your mother?"

Its all so exhausting Im just tired!!!!
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Mom is stable so I decided to come home for the night, I know they are taking good care of her and would have called it need be. She seems a long way from letting go yet but is clearly begun the journey - they have put in ports for dilaudid and s....? - I can't remember, the one to dry up secretions. Thanks for all the well wishes.
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CWillie, I'm thinking about you and your Mom. ((((((Willie)))))
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How are you doing CW? It's already ten to ten here so we're up and about if you need moral support. Hugs.
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More(((((((( hugs, my dear)))))))))). Yes, we are all there with you.
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Ahh Cwillie

we are with you here
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More hugs, cw.... and prayers.
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cwillie. I am sorry. I wondered about that too. (((((hugs)))))
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(((((Hugs))))) CW.
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