I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
You were your Mother's rock. Never forget that! xxoo
After so many years, yes, the end came so quickly and the loss is still so fresh
You have been a truly steadfast daughter and as Ali says we all would be in good hands in your care
We are here for you and wish we could take you out and raise a toast to your mom
But now you do know. I'm glad that your mom didn't linger in any uncomfortable state, and I'm sending you (((((hugs))))) and well wishes for getting through the next part in front of you. You've done a great job throughout and anyone here would want you as their advocate and caregiver.
Yes, it has been only 3 days, and so many years.
So very sorry for your loss of your Mother this morning.
Your loyalty and love for your Mom has seen you through.
Your friends here want to be available for you, and our thoughts are with you.
🐿
I actually just talked to a friend in Maine this evening and she said she was just getting home, that it was 39 degrees and some misty snow in the air!! I had just gotten home for the day, and was sweating like a pig, and turning the AC down to cool off quicker... too funny.
My BIL offered to get us a motel room too down by the lake,but there's no way I can leave all my animals alone so long at home.It's just a bummer,that's all,but still I will be glad to get out on a boat for a while.I love the water.
"You would think someone might want to mention that since I have to take and pick him up at the airport."
Well. You don't, actually, do you. Where is it written "thou shalt give thy dad lifts to the airport at short notice?"
Call his bluff just once, waste your sister's money, and perhaps it'll learn the pair of them that taking you so rudely for granted is not clever.
In front of the other,
Each day,
Is unknown with your mother.
We will be here to accompany you,
There is no one as dear to you
As your mother.
Glad you could be there for her.
annie - I hope you can have a break soon
tg - I am sure you are tired. All this is not your fault,
I gave him ample times to mention something but he hasnt said "Oh BTW I am flying to your sisters for the holiday". Nope, not a word. Sister hasn't called and said "BTW Dad is coming to my house for the holiday". You would think someone might want to mention that since I have to take and pick him up at the airport. He loves to have secrets or know something I dont know. I am tired of the division in my family. No one talks to me anymore. Not sure how I have become the black sheep since I do all the work with him. Somehow he is driving a bigger wedge between the family. Maybe it is my fault, I am sure it is. After 5 years of this I have become bitter and tired and grumpy. I have no privacy, my house is not my own and it is all taken for granted. He tells everyone I take great care of him but on the inside I am boiling. I am sure he complains to the family how I dont let him do anything. lets see I have paid for flights to vacation for him, flights for funerals, driven 16 hours for funerals for him. Spent 5 years having my business be in the basement so he can have a nice sunny living room. OK rant done, thanks for listening, just needed to vent.
I just read a news article recently which said that the number of dementia/Alzheimer's patients is expected to reach 10 millions people (or some very high number) in the US within the next decade. Right now, the estimated number is around 6 million. The reason for the increase is that with modern medicine, people can now be treated for heart disease, and other diseases that normally would have killed them in the past, and live long enough to reach dementia stage. For me personally, I want to get off the train at the previous station before I reach dementia.
Im tired of having to get up at 5am every day
Im tired of not being able to relax in my own house
Im tired of racing around anytime I get to leave my house for a short period of time
Im tired of the constant worry
Im tired of having to answer the same question over and over. "Hows your mother?"
Its all so exhausting Im just tired!!!!
we are with you here