I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
On my phone it is under the hamburger, the first option.
I expect those rising costs include a generous increase in staff wages to reflect more closely the true value of their work and expertise. Yeah right.
$3 a month is actually quite generous. Gordon Brown, our last Prime Minister but one, when he was Chancellor of the Exchequer once managed to award our OAPs ten pence a week extra. There were many, many sarcastic letters to editors along the lines of 'don't spend it all at once.'
makes my head explode
I'll have to look up what the CPI index is as social security goes up by that excl fuel - I think mom got a $3 a month raise in that last year
Stunned silence.
That's... a bit of a hike, isn't it? Do they offer any justification?
still no search bar on my hamburger
asked admins for help but haven't heard back
I suspect the new improved site is not compatible
with my 3 year old iPad mini
you know, built in obsolescence
Apple is discontinuing the iPad mini as it's redundant with the larger iPhones now
Yes, thank you for putting it out there. I am often tempted to be the forum police, but have prevented myself. Leaving that job to the forum administrators.
It concerns me that troll posters can be so deceitful, and for so long. If you do call them on it, they can attack.
However, imo, the Aging Care forum members are a great bunch of wonderful and dedicated people overall.
This is still a great place to be!
Found the SEARCH Bar, or search function, back on the "hamburger menu", aka "horizontal ellipsis", described as the three horizontal bars at the top left of the blue navigation bar, to the left of the Aging Care title, click on it.
Can you see it MsMadge??? Scroll up.
Report back so that Gladimhere or CWillie can help if you are still having trouble. Caregiving, and hiring incompetent caregivers is stressful enough without technical troubles.
My hubs has to locate AC, hand the phone to me, answer all my technical questions, turn off the phone. Lol.
This is funny because........
sooner or later he will tire of this and voila❗️❗️❗️😺
He will step up and help decide on easy and affordable internet access. I am way too stressed out to do it alone, he is the tech expert (or was), and I am waiting patiently, sort of. He will ultimately feel good about finding the remedy himself. In the meantime, are there any technical questions I can ask him for anyone? Men like to feel needed, yes?
Walking a fine line between brattiness and helping him help himself. Yes, I am.
Don't forget the "Butt Paste" barrier for Mom. It is a real product, often mentioned on this forum.
My mind does not stretch as far as that caregiver's does.
seems she was so wet during her afternoon nap that it went through the bed pads to her comforter and all while her private caregiver was with her who also stays overnight with her tonight
without letting on that I knew anything she's trying hard to cover herself by telling me another resident must have come in after dinner and peed on the bed as mom's comforter is gone
I remember the lack of privacy at the NH when Mom was in for rehab. I would often sort of close the door and wedge the waste basket in there so I could have a quiet conversation with my Mom. I don't know how I would fare in a NH...I am used to quiet at night and some residents in NH's blare the TV all night long. They should respect resident's and their visitor's privacy more.
one of the most exhausting things about hoca is having to deal with the other residents- there's nowhere to go for a quiet moment - someone's always screaming or being aggressive
the Viking is very hard of hearing so I took her outside after breakfast and turned some music on pandora and held my phone by her ear - of course then the activity gal has to come out with a group and sit next to us and start yakking in a booming voice
so wish I could put mom in my car and go for a drive
book -that dr is a class 1 jerk!
ali - thank you for posting that. I was thinking the same There were stories that were unbelievable and details that didn't sync. However, I am not as charitable as you are. Considering their propensity for telling "tall tales", and their obvious need for attention and validation, I think that person needs therapy. Just my two cents...
glad -me too
cw - part of what makes caregiving hard.
Sorry, I'm just rambling. (sigh)
There is an AC user who has changed their name a few times, and has now come back under a new account and username with a whole new story of caregiving woe. I don't believe a word that they say is true, and I base this on their history of telling tall tales.
They've started up this pattern again under a new username and it's bugging me because I think it abuses the good faith of other users on this forum.
However. Everyone here is an adult and can make their own decisions about what they spend their time and energy responding to. And, likely this person is just bored in their lonely life and they need attention. Goodness knows that posting their stories here is fairly benign way to get that attention and connection, however fake, they must be seeking.
But it's bugging me, and so I'm whining about it.
I see it as an abuse of the kind people here on AC. Do you think admins would do IP check and block numerous accounts from same IP? I don't. It's not that kind of place. But I will ask about this.
So then I suppose I'll just sit back and wait for more stories from them.
I just needed to whine and vent openly about this. I don't like it. I feel this user hijacks threads too often and if they were real issues, of course I would be supportive. But there are too many signs that something's screwy on the other end of this account. What recourse do we have for this kind of situation? I don't see any. And since I'm not using AC as much as some, I'll leave it alone. It's not my place to police things around here. scowl.
So we went to the ER. And waited, waited for over an hour before mom was seen. I was called in to see the ER doctor. It was a young doctor who obviously thought he was God's gift to women. (He wore black shirt, black slacks and strutted. You know - you've seen men who struts. He strutted.) The ER doctor Lectured me that I could have re-inserted mom's stomach tube on my own. I did not have to go to the ER and wait over an hour - in which her stomach hole could have closed up before they could have inserted the tube... I glanced at the nurse and she had a straight face. I looked at the doctor and asked him HOW does one insert back the tube into the hole? Isn't there a balloon inside there? He then told me that I just need to inflate the balloon with a syringe once I've inserted the tube. Then I asked with what syringe? He told the nurse to give me some spares.... The jerk! Mom's Urgent Care clinic doctor - who had Medical degree - refused to re-insert the tube. And this strutting ER doctor - expected me - a lay person - to insert it myself and no need to bring mom in?!*#!
No longer is the doctor considered "God" and the patient just cooperates with everything that he says. Thank Heavens that we have the internet and a ton of good medical information.
We really need to be our loved ones' advocates.
about how PD can mask symptoms during DH's last flare. He was adamant so I insisted he run a calprotectin test. The doc is leaving the practice in a month and made it clear he didn't want to start a treatment plan. He was condescending, arrogant and dismissive. I explained that while he knows gastro, I know this patient.
Well, the results came back this week and it's a UC flare. I'm upset with his refusal to read the file, listen to what I told him. Had I just figured he's the doc and knows his stuff, DH would be heading toward a serious problem. He has an appointment in a couple weeks with a new gastro, who I understand is very good. DH started on the Pred today - it has some nasty side effects but will get things under control. It'll be a tough couple months, but we'll get thru it. Incidents like this make me grateful for the ability to do my own research - you really have to advocate for your loved ones.
The older I get the more I'm baffled by everyone and everything in the health care system, especially the total lack of transparency. Thankfully today we can easily research diagnosis and liaise with other people who share their experiences, years ago we just had to trust what we were told.
( least of all her pcp and cardiologist) were tuned into this...or if those docs WERE, they never pointed it out to me.