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Gershun, seems you are over the worst bit - yay to that!

I had it recently (again). Found 2 weeks I needed to go slow, to restore physical energy but mostly BRAIN energy this time.

I am playing around with nutritious smoothies & homemmade soups + taking vitamin D.

Best wishes for your FULL recovery 🙏 ❤️
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Thx all for the well wishes.

I was double vaccinated when we were in the thick of covid but didn't get the booster shots. The virus keeps mutating so there would be no end to getting shots.

But I have to say that the last four days have been pretty hellish. No breathing difficulty so I think I'm safe that way but I have all the other symptoms. Wondering now if I should just get all the booster shots.

I guess covid is here to stay.
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Gershun: Feel better.
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gershun - I'm so sorry you have covid again. get well soon. 🙏🙏🙏

Thanks for the support, ladies. Feeling better today so I will try again to make the trip. Dgd is off work till 4 so maybe we can yet have a visit. I have been checking out Uber as an alternative., It's cheaper than a taxi for sure.
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Golden ,

Hope you feel better , sorry you missed the party .

Gershun ,

Feel better soon. My neighbors had it again recently too were pretty sick . Maybe because the newer strain , previous immunity isn’t a great match ???? Just a guess .
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Thank you Hothouse!
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Gershun and Golden, I hope you both feel better soon.
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My whine is I have covid again. Feeling like cr*p. I've read that when you get it again it's not usually as bad. I wish I could say this was so.

Golden, feel better!
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golden: Hope and pray that you feel better soon.🧡
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venting; So sorry about that.
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venting - sorry about that. Prayers for a whine free day!

My whine is that I can't make it to my dgds 21st birthday meal. I'm just not feeling up to the drive. and on top of that my guts are iffy so staying at home is safer. Not happy about this!!!
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My whine today: The fact that I don't remember when was the last time I had a day without any whining.
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way - that's a good solution. Mother liked an audience too, at times.

ana - I'm sorry your account was deleted. Maybe admin can restore it. I found I had to prioritize self protection. Otherwise it was too hard on me. It's no good getting bashed again and again. Can your hub or kids do the supplies? Or, as way suggested, have the staff get them from you in the parking lot.
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Sorry Ana .

I agree with Golden , you can drop things off with her name on them at the receptionist at the front desk lobby , the receptionist can have the staff bring them to her room . I did that with my Mom periodically as well .

For awhile though , I couldn’t drop off because my mother loved to sit by the front door to watch who came and left and she would ambush me , yell at me about how I was such a “ rotten daughter”. She got satisfaction of having an audience see her berate me . The small open lobby where she sat was at the corner of the big common living room full of other residents sitting . So I then started calling the front desk first before I went into the building to see if Mom was sitting at the lobby . My Mom sat across from the receptionist who answers the phone . If Mom was there , the receptionist would send a staff member to the parking lot to meet me at my car to get supplies .

One time the activities director was there when Mom berated me . The director turned to my mother and flat out told her . “ If I was your daughter I wouldn’t visit anymore .” My mother came right back with “ well you aren’t “ .

After that whenever I visited and the activity director walked passed us , my mother complained how she didn’t like that woman . 😝😜🤪
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Thanks golden. I am an only. I cut my visits to monthly and explained to the staff. (small home) We'll have a rare civil visit where she fails to ID me. The tight knit staff has witnessed some ugly interactions.

By the way, I am the same Ana(banana) as before. My entire account/history was deleted overnight.
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((((( Ana)))) I'm sorry you got "hit" again. They don't change and it does hurt. I don't know if I'd go back - for a long long time. anyway. If she needs supplies, someone else can do that.
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Me again. Venting.

Visited my mother. She was speaking very rudely to staff. My husband had opted to come along, so went in and calmed her. Distracted her. She responds better to men.

I came into her field of view (after replenishing her supplies) and he absentmindedly referred to me by name. And that’s when she ordered us out. He was shocked and asked if she meant for us to leave. She made herself clear - in no uncertain terms.

Silly me, still hoping she’ll stop being nasty to me. I get it - she’ll always direct all her anger and blame at me. She’d rather have no visitors (I have cousins who visit 2x year) than see me. My friends think I’m pleasant and fun. So he, I and my hurt feelings left.
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Need, I'm so so sorry.
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Need, (((hugs)))
Some people get only such short lives. It breaks hearts & is so unfair. I cannot imagine the family's pain.
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Need,

So sorry ,

It’s terrible for a life to be cut so short. And of course you empathize with the parents losing a child and your daughter losing a friend .
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Need: Oh. that is such horribly sad news! I am so sorry and send condolences and many virtual hugs (((( )))). 💙💙
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Nacy,

Thanks. These things never get any easier, do they?

I will never get used to losing people that are so young.

I suppose that we aren’t supposed to dwell on the number of years that people have lived.

We should be grateful that they were in our lives for any length of time, no matter how brief.

There are times when I believe that we are all assigned a number. When that number is up, we die. If the number isn’t up, against all odds, we live.

I had a gun pointed directly at my heart. I begged for my life. I was only 18.

I was told by the man robbing me that he was going to kill me. It wasn’t my time to die.
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venting and Send,

Thanks, after the shock wore off, I cried over her death. I can’t seem to unwind this evening. Going to try and get some sleep soon though.

I have photos of her in my home with my daughter.

She was a sweet girl. Beautiful long blonde hair and blue eyes.

My girls have always been social butterflies. They always had their friends over.

I would like to express my sorrow to her parents. I don’t even know what I would say. I think I will send a card for now.

I know that nothing I say will ever help. No words are ever adequate in these situations.

I can’t help but feel, that if I ever lost either one of my daughters, I don’t know if I could ever cope with my grief.

It seems like the pain would be overwhelming and never go away.
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NHWM,
Support for your loss, your daughter's loss, and the young woman's family's loss. It is very sad to lose someone you have known, and at such a young age.

You are going to need many hugs, here are some heartfelt hugs I am sending you! {{{{{{hugs}}}}}} 💝💔💝

My condolences.
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My condolences. Sending a big hug to you Need.
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Hey, venting…

Mind if I join you in needing support right now?

I am devastated at the moment. I just got off the phone with my youngest daughter.

One of my daughter’s friends called her to tell her that she just heard about a friend’s death. She didn’t know any details about how she died. My daughter was shocked.

Her friend was 28 years old.

I’m heartbroken. This child was at our house from elementary school to college. They remained friends after graduating.

Her friend was an only child. Her parents adored her.

I feel horribly for her parents. I can’t imagine the pain of losing a child.

I am sick over her death. I watched this kid grow up. I feel so bad for my daughter.

I know what it’s like to lose close friends both when I was young and recently.

I lost two good friends who committed suicide when I was young. It shook me up horribly.

I lost my best friend that I had known forever not long after my mom died. She was in her 60’s.

Sometimes. I still can’t believe that my friend is gone. I still want to pick up the phone and call her to come over for lunch. Or, go out to get a coffee, grab lunch, etc.

Hearing about other deaths always brings back memories for me. Grief is real and it’s very hard.

We expect older people to die. When people are younger, it throws us for a loop.

Thanks for listening.
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Thanks Alva!

I blocked the people who need to be blocked. But they have a very big network of flying monkeys.

I will find a way.
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shajap,

Does anyone have PoA? Do you have a plan for after money runs out entirely?

I am sorry this is so stressful for all of you.

Sending support your way today. Wishing you peace.
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My "whine" moment is that my husband and I single-handedly moved my mom from 1 bedroom to a studio in same building, just 6 days ago. As I type this, my siblings are touring another facility, talking of moving her again. She freaked out, just moving to a different room in the same place, but this would be a move clear across several towns, having to start all over getting the staff and her acclimated, set up doctors. etc. And at most it would buy her maybe 2 more months in a care center, IF their "Care Level" costs are cheaper, which I doubt. I had to bow out, can't deal with their indecisiveness and lack of action when actually needed.
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Nacy,

I am trying the cortisone cream that cw suggested. So, we’ll see.
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