I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
They are part of the "nursing home team" and everyone has the responsibility of watching out for their residents! I would have fired back at her... why didn't you think it was a priority!!!! How many people don't have family that can sit with their LO during meals 3 x daily!!!
I hate grumpy accusing people.
ready to pounce with their judgement
and that's what she did. she judged without knowing. that would pi$$ me OFF
Little Miss Muffet sat on her tuffet, eating her curds and whey,
Along came a spider who sat down beside her and said
"What's in the bowl Bi*ch?"
But seriously CWillie, I'm not making light of your problem.
I remember going to one of my Mom's care meeting's and they didn't even
know my Mom's neck arteries were almost completely clogged. I forget what the medical terminology is for this but they should have definitely have known about it.
I have no problem with confrontation anymore. Ever since I confronted my Narc sis who always intimidated me, I've become quite adept at it. Especially when you have the truth on your side.
Start with standing up straighter, take a deep breath, take 1/2 step towards the offensive, intrusive person, look her in the eyes, say nothing as you count to 15.
Have a practiced phrase you can call upon:
"That's interesting."
"That's interesting, what are you going to do about it?"
"That's interesting why you would say that".
Sorry if this is not helpful. I actually flunked all my self-assertiveness training classes. My responses would be like yours: No words to respond assertively; get angry and tearful, want to retreat, but still angry later.
I know what you mean, I cry when I get angry too and I can't think straight, so my first instinct is to want to flee.
And Barb I've been told to just bring all my concerns to the RN on duty, but the reality is that means waiting for the nurses that actually have empathy and people skills to be on duty and then standing at the (public) nurse's station begging for their attention.
Just read your latest post. Glad you reported it. She sounds like a major trouble maker.
(And I already have my own can of thickener that I usually take into the dining room, it certainly hasn't been a secret that I want her drinks thicker!)
I can't imagine what she was thinking, unless it was that she was ruffled to think she might get the blame and was pre-emptively unloading it on the nearest available person. I've noticed in our local health care settings too that when there's a problem, no matter what sort, the reaction of certain staff members is instantly to look for someone to blame for it. It makes me a bit sick, actually, it's so stupid and counterproductive and pathetic; but that's what happens when an organisation become so tightly regulated people aren't able to exercise any common sense at all.
Well. Did you get the thickener all right? And might it be worth picking up a tub of it from your local pharmacy for in case?
What happens to people who don't have anyone looking out for them... H'm. Hey, relax! As long as the forms were filled in correctly it doesn't matter, right?
I want my "old" honey back!
unfortunately I doubt they noticed
I remember the first time mom was served purée- it looked awful but somehow smelled like real food- that was in a very good hospital
the purée at hoca however is unrecognizable and is often cold - lid or not
I hope you’re home soon and doing it your way
love ya
I hope you went Viking on them - I don’t allow meds if mom’s not awake - easy way to aspirate if it gets stuck in her throat while she’s asleep
I've always wondered why they don't include more of the foods that might seem normal in a pureed diet like smoothies, soups, stews, puddings, custard etc instead of attempting to modify foods that just don't translate very well - pureed chicken sandwich with pureed caesar salad anyone?
How about: "a little of what you fancy"?
The heart Drs say drastically limit fluid intake.
The kidney Drs say drink 8 glasses of water every day
The dietitian says eat as much protein as possible to build muscle strength.
The Dr writes an order for cardiac diet purried if necessary. Anyone fancy an English muffin for breakfast.
Maybe lunch will be better. Lift the lid and there are three bowls I orange 1 green and the third brown - remember no salt.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. Apple sauce for desert "ER no thanks" I hate apple sauce especially unsweetened. A nice cup of tea is offered. Where I come from we make the tea with boiling water and add sugar and not fat free milk. A cup of luke warm water with a lonely tea bag wating expectantly does not cut it.
Now there is a coffee stand in the front hall that makes beautiful hot tea. Can't go down there of course because I will set the stupid bed alarm off. Maybe DD will come in today bearing banned goods and fresh tea.
Been progressing very well with PT and OT so they keep pushing for more because they never expected this much progress. I keep telling them to back off because too much pushes me into A Fib. Well that actually happened yesterday and there was general panic all around. Not from me I hasten to add because I have dealt with this so often. No I did not want to go to the ER again.
It did however get me out of having the OT give me a shower. She did not want to chance anything. We have been managing the shower all this time first with the help of DD and L but now L and I manage alone and L knows just how I like to do things. Now we have to think up an excuse for next Friday which will be the last visit.
I thank the Lord every day that I don't have dementia and can still speak for myself. I really feel for those poor souls who can't think for themselves but just want everything to stop so they can get off the round about.
That's my whine for today. I am still confused but doing it my way.
Have just spent fifteen minutes bu**ering about online to pick up a stupid SMS message my stupid ex tried to send to my stupid-not-smartphone. Whoopee doo. It is a picture of an announcement in the newspaper I was just about to go and buy before he sidetracked me. Well worth the effort.😑
The site has gotten so quiet lately, even the new questions are mostly about stuff I can't comment on. The only constant chatter is in Dorker's thread, I check there every once in a while to see if anything has changed but I don't find the monologues and the endless drama as compelling as everyone else seems to.